How open am I? All of my friends are well aware of how I live my life, even the vanilla ones. My family mostly all is aware that I'm kinky but I don't go into any explicit conversations with them. They see me happy and that's all that matters to them.

There aren't very many protocols that I DON'T carry with me out into the world. I have proper ways to address KM and service personnel. I have special ways to order his food, open doors, ask questions, how to dress, how to apologize.... less

The projects I mentioned at the beginning of the hour are what I’m going to talk about next, but if you still have questions, I welcome them.

First is Submissive Guide. It’s in it’s 3rd year and it growing strong. Submissive Guide is a self-help and support site for submissives of all types. I do the bulk of the writing, but I do have contributors and guest authors all the time. There is also a community as well as paid and free classes and products available.

Then there is the larger network called Kink Network that KnyghtMare and I are building. Kinky-Blogging is almost out of beta. It’s an adult blog host run on WordPress. If you are a blogger and are afraid of the host deleting you, then you’d be safe at Kinky-Blogging.

We have other Kink Network related sites that are yet to get off the ground so... I’m not sharing.

Then the oldest site that I’ve maintained (not well recently) is The Iron Gate. You may have encountered it in your BDSM resource searches.

I’ve had a personal blog for almost 7 years now. I talk about a lot of things to do with my dynamic and everyday life. If you are interested that is.

Now... what other questions do you have for me? less

So were you always interested in lots of protocols, or was that something KM was into? Or something you just both enjoyed from the start?

Are there ever times the protocols are "relaxed?" Like, if you're sick, or there are issues going on with your greater family, or when you're on holiday? less

The projects I mentioned at the beginning of the hour are what I’m going to talk about next, but if you still have questions, I welcome them.

First is Submissive Guide. It’s in it’s 3rd year and it growing strong. Submissive Guide is a self-help and support site for submissives of all types. I do the bulk of the writing, but I do have contributors and guest authors all the time. There is also a community as well as paid and free classes and products available.

Then there is the larger network called Kink Network that KnyghtMare and I are building. Kinky-Blogging is almost out of beta. It’s an adult blog host run on WordPress. If you are a blogger and are afraid of the host deleting you, then you’d be safe at Kinky-Blogging.

We have other Kink Network related sites that are yet to get off the ground so... I’m not sharing.

Then the oldest site that I’ve maintained (not well recently) is The Iron Gate. You may have encountered it in your BDSM resource searches.

I’ve had a personal blog for almost 7 years now. I talk about a lot of things to do with my dynamic and everyday life. If you are interested that is.

Now... what other questions do you have for me? less

In my experience a dominant comes across how they want as long as they're dominant. Saying you're dominant and acting submissive doesn't tend to work. But my owner is very caring, he doesn't always let people see that side but it's there and it's most of what I see in him. I've actually noticed a lot of dominants are big tough guys (guys being a general term here btw)that scare the shit out of people but in private are very caring with their sub. You portray what you want others to see and you act how you want to act just like in the normal vanilla world. *shrugs* my two cents anyways. I have yet to find a dominant that is always dominating and holding up that image. Abusive though.. a real dominant is never abusive. Ever. less

I get up at 7:30 and am at the gym by 8:15am. I get home and check my email and dink around on the computer until 10am. I wake KM at 10, make his coffee and start housework, baking and whatever laundry/chores need to be done. I try to get any errands done on one day each week.

Lunch is at 12:30pm and I refill KM's coffee. I start writing and website work at 1pm and at 2pm is KM's break so I make more coffee and either spend time with him or spend "time" with him. *winks* Back to work at 3:00 until 5pm when I start working on dinner, check the mail and take a break to do some knitting or tv watching.

The evenings are pretty free. Km likes to play PC games so I knit, watch TV if I have time left, keep working, blog and social network with people.

Bedtime is at 10:30 and I have to have the kitchen picked up and the dishwasher running by then or I'm in trouble. less

Luna, I know that protocols are in themselves a type of restraint, but what about actual physical restraints or reminders of your slavehood? Do you wear a collar? Are there certain times you're kept in restraints? I've been reading a lot about the "odalisque" lifestyle and a big part of it is restraint and bondage to deepen feelings of submission and being owned. Does KM use these tactics? (sorry if these questions are too personal) less

I own the domain for DominantGuide.com and am working to get support for it so that it can get off the ground, there currently isn't anything like Submissive Guide out there for Dominants.

For a dictionary.... there are several. The Deviant's Dictionary is the oldest that I know of. link

There is one on the Iron Gate (which I own) link

Wikipedia is also getting better at having BDSM terms. less

I wonder if that's why I have some issues socially. Not in the BDSM world, just in general. I was raised to be very polite and considerate of other people, and so perhaps people perceive me as submissive. But I am not. So when people try and treat me like they are better than me or have to right to tell me what to do, things go very, very badly.

My hubby and close friends understand me and get along well with me, but I think I confuse most other people. less