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Eden Kink - Guest Speaker: lunaKM - Thursday September 29th at 8pm ET

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Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by Elaira
I'm just not sure I like the randomness of that site. There's a bunch of people in my area, but I want it to be someone I can have an outside life with as well. All the people I've found on there are too old/creepy/etc. for me. Part of ... more
I totally agree with you but there are some good people on that site. You just have to weed through the creepers to find them.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Sir
Aww, that's terrible! Luckily, I have someone I can play with whenever I want. HAHA!
Braggy McBraggerton
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Serenesub
I so get the struggle there. I was wondering if you consider yourself mentally or "internally" enslaved or if you even believe that it's possible?
Enslavement.... wow I fight with that with every fiber of my being. I like to plant myself firmly in the submissive camp but anyone who knows me says I'm more slave like. I think I progress more and more into internal enslavement as I learn more about what drives me to submit in the first place.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
So, what happened after the divorce?

I had casual play partners when I first started exploring BDSM and I became very active in the local BDSM scene early on. The way I was welcomed has probably helped shape my opinion on the community as a ... more
Hubby and I have just started playing with me whipping him, at his request. I'm still sort of trying to figure things out, but I'm willing to learn.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by oldman
Am I missing something? I haven't seen any posts for about 12 minutes (when I made my last post).
You have to manually refresh the forum.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
Enslavement.... wow I fight with that with every fiber of my being. I like to plant myself firmly in the submissive camp but anyone who knows me says I'm more slave like. I think I progress more and more into internal enslavement as I learn more ... more
I didn't get there intentionally either to be honest. It was just one of those things that naturally happened for us.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
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Originally posted by Rayne Millaray
Braggy McBraggerton
I know, right?! Geez. Haha.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
I think I have a good idea, but what exactly is the difference between a masochist and submissive?
A masochist is someone who receives sexual or emotional pleasure from pain. A submissive is someone who receives happiness and joy by serving another person's needs.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Annabel Joseph Annabel Joseph
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
Enslavement.... wow I fight with that with every fiber of my being. I like to plant myself firmly in the submissive camp but anyone who knows me says I'm more slave like. I think I progress more and more into internal enslavement as I learn more ... more
I am the same way. I am submissive but slavery doesn't interest me. Fortunately power exchange is a spectrum with zillions of colors.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Hubby and I have just started playing with me whipping him, at his request. I'm still sort of trying to figure things out, but I'm willing to learn.
That's a good way to start, slow and easy.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by oldman
Am I missing something? I haven't seen any posts for about 12 minutes (when I made my last post).
You have to keep hitting F5 or "refresh". It doesn't do it automatically.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
So, what happened after the divorce?

I had casual play partners when I first started exploring BDSM and I became very active in the local BDSM scene early on. The way I was welcomed has probably helped shape my opinion on the community as a ... more
I'm in the "curious about" group. My husband does like to be submissive, I just feel silly being dominant most of the time. I do enjoy doing it, but living with my mother makes it difficult for us to really feel comfortable exploring that aspect of our sex lives right now.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
I met my lifetime Dominant partner almost 8 years ago. How we met isn’t as unique now as it was then. (And even less unique than when I met my first husband the same way.) We met in a chat room on IRC when I was there looking for some cyber sex for fun. He was in the chat room and we struck up a conversation. We never played but as the days turned to weeks and then months we got to really know each other. Early on I was sure that friendship was as far as it was ever going to go because he was in England and I was here.

We carried on a long distance relationship that was passionate and powerful. He gave me rules, mostly about hygiene and sexual pleasure as well as writing to him nightly. I still have that first rules list somewhere. The conversations we had and the connection we developed was one that felt stronger than my entire previous marriage.

A little over a year after we first met, he was making the final preparations to move over here. It wasn’t an easy process, changing countries of residence but he had said he always wanted to live in the US and having me there would make the decision of where to move that much easier. He arrived in early October 2004 when he was just 20.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by oldman
Am I missing something? I haven't seen any posts for about 12 minutes (when I made my last post).
F5 to refresh and see new posts
09/29/2011
Contributor: Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
A masochist is someone who receives sexual or emotional pleasure from pain. A submissive is someone who receives happiness and joy by serving another person's needs.
A submissive can be masochistic but it's not required. I've found a lot of people think it's a requirement. On the same coin a masochist may not be submissive. I know you know this I just thought it was important to add

I've spent hours reading your site and I just wanted to thank you for putting it up.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
Enslavement.... wow I fight with that with every fiber of my being. I like to plant myself firmly in the submissive camp but anyone who knows me says I'm more slave like. I think I progress more and more into internal enslavement as I learn more ... more
I get that. I ID primarily as a top, but am currently owned. (My power dynamic is complicated to say the least.) Enslavement is hard, damnit!
09/29/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
A masochist is someone who receives sexual or emotional pleasure from pain. A submissive is someone who receives happiness and joy by serving another person's needs.
Ah. Thank you!
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm in the "curious about" group. My husband does like to be submissive, I just feel silly being dominant most of the time. I do enjoy doing it, but living with my mother makes it difficult for us to really feel comfortable exploring ... more
That has to be quite a challenge. I couldn't live with my family and do what I do on a daily basis without raising some serious eyebrows.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Serenesub
A submissive can be masochistic but it's not required. I've found a lot of people think it's a requirement. On the same coin a masochist may not be submissive. I know you know this I just thought it was important to add ... more
Aw thanks. Definitely important to know that they are separate and distinct parts and can be combined in many different variations.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
That has to be quite a challenge. I couldn't live with my family and do what I do on a daily basis without raising some serious eyebrows.
For the most part it's not so bad, we just have to be sure to be quiet lol. I'm looking forward to branching out some when we have our own place, we just can't afford one yet.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Kake aka PoeticErotica Kake aka PoeticErotica
Hey, I'm here. I have no idea what's going on, but I'm here.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Pixel
I get that. I ID primarily as a top, but am currently owned. (My power dynamic is complicated to say the least.) Enslavement is hard, damnit!
If it were easy I wouldn't want to do it I don't think. I love challenge.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
If it were easy I wouldn't want to do it I don't think. I love challenge.
That's where I'm at. I get bored far too easily.
09/29/2011
Contributor: luna[KM] luna[KM]
Are any of you in a long distance relationship? How far away is your partner?
09/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kake aka PoeticErotica
Hey, I'm here. I have no idea what's going on, but I'm here.
Hey pretty lady!
09/29/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
If it were easy I wouldn't want to do it I don't think. I love challenge.
Yeah, it definitely is pushing my limits and making me examine parts of myself I didn't know I had! lol.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Kake aka PoeticErotica
Hey, I'm here. I have no idea what's going on, but I'm here.
Hi Kake and everyone else just coming in.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by Serenesub
A submissive can be masochistic but it's not required. I've found a lot of people think it's a requirement. On the same coin a masochist may not be submissive. I know you know this I just thought it was important to add ... more
Thanks! My husband is not submissive, but he does like me to whip him. So he's a masochist, but not a submissive. Is there a special term for this? Or should I just refer to him as a masochist?

And what should I call what I do? I don't like hurting people, so I don't think that I should be called a sadist, but I do sort of enjoy whipping him, because he so obviously enjoys it. I also rather like the percussive aspect of it. I've always liked drumming.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
Are any of you in a long distance relationship? How far away is your partner?
I am not. Closest I've gotten was while boyfriends were away at school an hour away from me.
09/29/2011
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Kake aka PoeticErotica
Hey, I'm here. I have no idea what's going on, but I'm here.
Hi Kake and everyone else just coming in.
09/29/2011