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Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Honestly, I can't see letting a boyfriend's opinion on the matter influence me to that degree. It'd be like being told that I'm not allowed to orgasm on my own terms. I understand not wanting to make him upset, but if you need or want ... more
Agree!
02/25/2012
Contributor: butts butts
Masturbation is COMPLETELY natural, even if he doesn't personally like it, it doesn't mean you should prevent yourself from doing something natural and healthy. Make sure he knows that you're not disrespecting his feelings, I'm sure if he's a sensible person he'll understand.
02/27/2012
Contributor: Nkev Nkev
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Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
just dont tell him about it (not to lie but because if he doesnt like it he wouldnt like hearing it. Some people just are uncomfortable talking about that kind of stuff
02/28/2012
Contributor: AJvil AJvil
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
Theres nothing wrong with it
02/28/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
I think it's wrong of him to make you feel bad about it.
02/28/2012
Contributor: SeductivelyCute SeductivelyCute
I'm pretty sure most people here are going to say its ok because this is a toy site and were more than likly doing it. You have to do something that makes you happy. I personally see nothing wrong with it. Its better to touch yourself than someone else cause you got lonely, right?
02/28/2012
Contributor: Swish Swish
what does he not like about it, perhaps if its you looking at porn, maybe he can make you some, there now your only looking at him, or if its because its not right, well its natural so...
02/28/2012
Contributor: hippie hippie
It is fine, great, to masturbate. If he doesn't like it that is his on deal, but that shouldn't stop you. Are you sure that he just is to embarrassed to tell you that he does it?
02/29/2012
Contributor: jaimie1984 jaimie1984
Masturbation is a natural part of life, just listen to your body and do what feels good. He doesn't need to know, it is something you will do in private so therefore you can keep it private! Don't let anyone ever tell or make you feel like it is wrong!
04/09/2012
Contributor: Tork48309 Tork48309
Sounds like an interesting conversation to have with him. Hope he's honest.
04/09/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
My husband doesn't want me to, and he doesn't, so we don't. But our reasons for feeling it is wrong are also moral and based on teachings of our church, so that is another factor. In your situation, I might feel differently.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
Does he not like masturbation for anyone? And anyways, it's your naughty bits, not his, he does not have final say in what you do with yourself. When you're with yourself. And anyways, masturbation is one form of self-love, like bubble baths, chocolate and champagne. What's wrong with one in contrary to the others?
06/16/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
People should never be made to feel guilty for masturbating - and especially since he won't be there to help you!
06/16/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
It's your body, not his.
06/16/2012
Contributor: Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
You should both respect each other's opinions about it. If you want to do it go for it and if he doesn't want to you shouldn't force him.
06/16/2012
Contributor: remember.me remember.me
Nothing wrong with it. I didn't for a long time, I didn't feel right but now...I wouldn't go back for anything in the world, haha.
06/17/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
I don't think it is wrong I say if that makes you feel good do it at least you are not cheating
06/17/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
No one has the right to keep you from masturbating. It is your body, it is a natural thing most people and many animals do, it hurts no one, and it feels good! If someone is trying to keep you from it, then they're being incredibly controlling and that is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

Masturbation is perfectly okay, even if your partner does not engage in it.
06/18/2012
Contributor: lomejo61 lomejo61
He can deal with you masturbating especially since the alternative would would lead to YOU suffering and possibly even cheating if you can't find sexual release. Regardless it is your body. You make the decisions with it.
06/19/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I personally think that it is definitely fine. Especially if all the other options would lead to more serious damage and honestly it's hard to go from sex to absolutely nothing.
06/19/2012
Contributor: L&P3040 L&P3040
Better than you cheating and there is no way I could go more than a few days with out letting loose.
06/30/2012
Contributor: aryce aryce
It is perfectly healthy to masterbate, and since he will be away he should be happy you choose masterbating rather than let it build up and cheat
08/26/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I wouldn't feel guilty. Does he view it as you cheating on him with yourself?
08/26/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
It's not a bad thing, it's perfectly healthy.
08/26/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
thats his choice and if he wont let you make your own decisions he's not worth ur time
08/26/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
It almost sounds like that if you masturbate, you must be cheating on him. Come on now, he needs to understand that everyone has to fulfill their own needs, especially when he's not around. I'm almost sure he does.
08/26/2012
Contributor: KRD KRD
Um.. why doesn't he like it? He's ok with sex, but not masturbation? I don't see anything wrong with masturbation and I don't think you should either!
08/27/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I don't think people ever have a right to a vote on what other people do with their own bodies, time, etc. If he's insecure, fine, maybe he needs reassurance or whatever, but if he reacts to his insecurities by being manipulative and controlling, then that's a problem, and a warning sign for the future.
08/27/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Nah do what you want
08/27/2012
Contributor: lomejo61 lomejo61
you should NOT feel guilty in the slightest. It's natural and healthy! Holding off from doing it will only hurt you if you feel like you need to. In Addition, it's your body.
08/27/2012