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Contributor: ddd masturbator(bye all!) ddd masturbator(bye all!)
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
You should tell him that you plan on masturbating since he won't be there to get you off. I would suggest offering to let him watch via webcam or phone sex or something. Maybe he'd want to be involved once he sees how hot it can be. Also, make sure he knows that you'll be thinking of his hot bod when you're doing it...
12/30/2011
Contributor: RavenWolf88 RavenWolf88
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Indeed. Honestly, if a guy tried to pull that with me, I'd tell him that either he backs off or I'm going to drop him like a rock.
Honestly, I have to agree with Rin. If someone tried to pull that with me I would probably laugh my head off and tell them sure I'll do that when hell freezes over. Personally, I see nothing wrong with masturbation. It prevents me from becoming the queen of all B's if you get my drift.
12/30/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Uh, what exactly is his problem?
12/30/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
he may say he does not like it, but he will be doing it.
12/30/2011
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
It's your body, don't feel guilty.
01/05/2012
Contributor: mandaj mandaj
this is something natrual....and sounds like u should have a talk with ur bf....it seems a lil selfish and controling...its better than being tempted to cheat. just tell him ur thinkin of him
01/05/2012
Contributor: Positwist Positwist
Quote:
Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
I think this opens up a lovely opportunity for the two of you to talk about WHY he thinks it is wrong and what problems he has with it.

Does he feel insecure and like you won't need him anymore? Perhaps you can address that.

Was he ... more
This is great advice.
02/20/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Sounds a little controlling...
02/20/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
Some people were raised in an abstinence only, God will send you to hell if you acknowledge you "bikini area" lifestyle, but I think most people masturbate.
02/20/2012
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
go for it, nothing wrong with masturbating
02/20/2012
Contributor: Lano4ka Lano4ka
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Originally posted by poetprincess
its his choice not to, not yours, why should you suffer..
Exactly! Your body = your decisions
02/20/2012
Contributor: Over here Over here
I gaurantee that if you won't be together he is either:

1. lying

2. masturbating

OR

3.unfaithful to you


In any case, do what feels right for you.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Jake'n'bake Jake'n'bake
It's not a bad thing to want to masturbate. It's not his choice.
02/20/2012
Contributor: Lady Hazel Lady Hazel
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
I can understand you feeling alittle guilty... I guess. But also I think you should NOT feel that way bc its a natural thing to do. I also thinks its a bit controling for him to tell you that you shouldnt or are not allowed to do it. I think if we knew the reason he is uncomfortable with it might be a bit more understandable. is it a religious thing??
02/21/2012
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
Masturbation is very healthy.
02/21/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
It depends on what your doing... just masturbating... or are you watching porn and other stuff that he isn't okay with?

Just playing around with toys and stuff I can't see being anything wrong that would hurt his feelings, but it depends on how you are going about it.
02/21/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
I think this opens up a lovely opportunity for the two of you to talk about WHY he thinks it is wrong and what problems he has with it.

Does he feel insecure and like you won't need him anymore? Perhaps you can address that.

Was he ... more
This is a really good opinion, as well as great advice. I would say to try and talk it through with him before making any descisions on the matter.
02/21/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
masturbation is self-pleasure, nothing wrong with pleasing yourself...
02/22/2012
Contributor: ECU Pirate ECU Pirate
It would be wrong of him to keep you from masturbating! Its not cheating if its with yourself.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
its not his decision plain and simple
02/22/2012
Contributor: martb40 martb40
Quote:
Originally posted by ichwillwaffels
My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just ... more
Your boyfriend not liking it doesn't make it wrong. Masturbation is the most natural thing in the world and is an important part of your sexuality. If you don't know how to touch yourself how can you tell your boyfriend??
02/22/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'd ask why he doesn't like it and doesn't want you to do it.

My husband doesn't like the idea of me having realistic dildo's so we compromise and I don't own any.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by zeebot
That's your choice - it's your body, you get to decide what to do with it.
This is what I was going to say. It is ridiculous to let someone tell you what to with your own body. Do as you wish. If he doesn't like it, it is not your problem. He can't control everything and you can't always get what you want.
02/22/2012
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
I don't see why his personal preference should effect your actions while he's away. You shouldn't let him squash your sex life just because he's out of town. Have some fun with yourself.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Dr Anal Dr Anal
You shouldn't feel guilty at all
02/24/2012
Contributor: te te
Do not feel guilty. It is relaxing and has its health benefits, plus it is just fun!
02/24/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
You should also tell that boyfriend that regular masturbation to orgasm, may protect HIM from prostrate cancer.
02/24/2012
Contributor: MGDavicnigirl MGDavicnigirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Honestly, I can't see letting a boyfriend's opinion on the matter influence me to that degree. It'd be like being told that I'm not allowed to orgasm on my own terms. I understand not wanting to make him upset, but if you need or want ... more
Exactly. I never let a man tell me how to pleasure myself or not.
02/24/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Meh.
02/25/2012
Contributor: rawsonbr rawsonbr
Quote:
Originally posted by SaMiKaY
Better to masturbate than to cheat right!?
I agree!
02/25/2012