I had a guy friend tell me that my boyfriend must not be be spicing things up for me, since I've been spending a lot of time looking at toys on EF. At first, my boyfriend felt the same way about my vibrator "being better than his penis". I completely disagree, but I want to know what everyone else thinks. less

I had a guy friend tell me that my boyfriend must not be be spicing things up for me, since I've been spending a lot of time looking at toys on EF. At first, my boyfriend felt the same way about my vibrator "being better than his penis". I completely disagree, but I want to know what everyone else thinks. less

The whole sexist (and cissexist) cultural ideas that "Women can't be into sex! Women don't/shouldn't masturbate! They can't have sex outside of marriage! WHAT THE FUCK IS A CLITORIS? Or a G-spot? Women are supposed to just lie back and think of Britain/whatever. WIFELY DUTY TO PLEASE MEN AND MAKE BABIES BABIES BABIES!!!! Procreative sex only!! Women are supposed to be faithful to their husbands, who get to decide whether to please them or not--and if not, then TOO BAD. But Men and husbands can have as many women as they want and masturbate as much as they want. And we must not injure a man's delicate ego and self-absorbed, entitled need to dominate everything and be the EVERYTHING AND PROVIDE EVERYTHING for their wife WHINE WHINE WHINE BLAH BLAH BLAH SEXISM, DOUBLE STANDARDS, MISOGYNY..." is at play here. Your boyfriend needs to get the fuck over himself and tell his 'friend" to fuck off and they BOTH need to address their male privilege and sexist conditioning. This isn't to say that he is necessarily a bad guy-- just that he was raised in a sexist society and is therefore complicit in oppressive social mores and THAT IS A PROBLEM THAT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED. So much of men's insecurity is rooted in patriarchy that other men before them-- and they in turn-- uphold. So the logical thing is to stop buying into it! less