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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: THE SMART GIRL'S GUIDE TO PORN and REAL LIVE NUDE GIRL (September 28, 7-11 PM EST)

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Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Andromeda
Oh my god, I must answer this one.

It would begin with my end of high school/early college experiences called "Confessions of a Technical Virgin" then "The Art of Sexiling" "Long-distance Relationships aka Thank God ... more
I must read anything titled "Masturbation and Mini-fridges"
09/28/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I am very fond of the term 'sex-positive'. I warm up when I read it; it tells me that this person cares about the issues, can handle an adult discussion (with or without giggling), and is passionate about learning more. I love meeting people that want to elevate the head to places the body may go, and vice versa (my favorite kinds of writing always pace the bridge between carnality and intellect).

It is interesting to see where this intersects with feminism. A feminist is not inherently sex-positive, I've found. The sex-positivity comes from a personal place, and how one feels about themselves, as well as how they have the right to interact with others. Feminism still leads as an ideal. But is sex-positivity inherently feminist?
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
LOL, thanks. Maybe I'll just have satirical chapters, y'know.. "It Wasn't Sexy But Now I think It's Pretty Damned Funny"
Ha! See, you are witty!
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Andromeda
Oh my god, I must answer this one.

It would begin with my end of high school/early college experiences called "Confessions of a Technical Virgin" then "The Art of Sexiling" "Long-distance Relationships aka Thank God ... more
I love them! And I totally want to read anything that involves "Masturbation and Mini-fridges!" (Total tangent here, but I hate it when people spell it "frig.")
09/28/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I must read anything titled "Masturbation and Mini-fridges"
Same here! We're also LOLing over "Long-distance Relationships aka Thank God for the Internet and Dildos"
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Same here! We're also LOLing over "Long-distance Relationships aka Thank God for the Internet and Dildos"
yes!! I'm talking with my fiance on AIM and he thinks those are hilarious too, lol
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by clp
I am very fond of the term 'sex-positive'. I warm up when I read it; it tells me that this person cares about the issues, can handle an adult discussion (with or without giggling), and is passionate about learning more. I love meeting people ... more
Excellent point about feminism and sex-positivity, CLP. I think both Violet's and Carol's books explore the feminist aspect of sex-positivity within the framework of a society that is often anti-sex and anti-woman.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Same here! We're also LOLing over "Long-distance Relationships aka Thank God for the Internet and Dildos"
Head smack! Now I know what CLP meant by LDR. Sheesh. It's not like I haven't been in a few myself...
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Head smack! Now I know what CLP meant by LDR. Sheesh. It's not like I haven't been in a few myself...
Don't worry, it always takes me a few minutes to catch that one when I see it
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
For those of you who haven't read The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn, I just wanted to let you know that Violet includes a lovely resource section with websites to free porn!
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
For those of you who haven't read The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn, I just wanted to let you know that Violet includes a lovely resource section with websites to free porn!
Awesome! Just another reason to go pick that book up
09/28/2010
Contributor: clp clp
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Excellent point about feminism and sex-positivity, CLP. I think both Violet's and Carol's books explore the feminist aspect of sex-positivity within the framework of a society that is often anti-sex and anti-woman.
I always love reading Violet Blue for this. It isn't just something that's nice; for her, it is a requirement.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
For those of you who haven't read The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn, I just wanted to let you know that Violet includes a lovely resource section with websites to free porn!
She does, and she also includes a section on how to protect your computer from viruses and such while you're doing so. WITH some suggestions for freeware programs.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by clp
I always love reading Violet Blue for this. It isn't just something that's nice; for her, it is a requirement.
Well said.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
She does, and she also includes a section on how to protect your computer from viruses and such while you're doing so. WITH some suggestions for freeware programs.
This lady sounds like a whole ton of awesomesauce
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Awesome! Just another reason to go pick that book up
Not to mention the list of porn rental sites. There are several!
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Not to mention the list of porn rental sites. There are several!
09/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I must read anything titled "Masturbation and Mini-fridges"
I had that same thought!
09/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by clp
I am very fond of the term 'sex-positive'. I warm up when I read it; it tells me that this person cares about the issues, can handle an adult discussion (with or without giggling), and is passionate about learning more. I love meeting people ... more
That's a great question. I say yes, sex-positivity is inherently feminist. Of course, there would be people who are feminists and would disagree.

For me, feminism is about the freedom to choose my own path, regardless of what that path may be—nobody has the right to dictate it for me. Sex-positivity is, for me, that same ideal, focused on sex.


At the heart of both philosophies is an ideal that says other human beings and their choices should be respected as what's right for them, if not for you.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I've been quietly lurking around while writing up a review I haven't read either of these but definitely want to get my hands on Violet Blue's book now. It's Sons of Anarchy time so I'm outta here, but I can't wait for our October meetings because I've read the books and I love the fantasy/fairy tale topic Goodnight all!
09/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I love them! And I totally want to read anything that involves "Masturbation and Mini-fridges!" (Total tangent here, but I hate it when people spell it "frig.")
frig? Who does that? I shall stab them in your honor.

(This coming from someone who uses thru and tho and cringes while doing it.)
09/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
She does, and she also includes a section on how to protect your computer from viruses and such while you're doing so. WITH some suggestions for freeware programs.
Ugh - it's killing me that I have both of these books somewhere and have been searching for them for weeks! I was super excited to read them and... put them up somewhere when my daughter came back from being away for the summer.

And now... gone. I hid them REALLY well!!! *sob*
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I've been quietly lurking around while writing up a review I haven't read either of these but definitely want to get my hands on Violet Blue's book now. It's Sons of Anarchy time so I'm outta here, but I can't wait for our ... more
I'm reading fairy tale lust right now, on the very first story, and it's great so far.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Ugh - it's killing me that I have both of these books somewhere and have been searching for them for weeks! I was super excited to read them and... put them up somewhere when my daughter came back from being away for the summer.

And ... more
You'll find them eventually! Otherwise I'll let you borrow my copy of RLNG
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
frig? Who does that? I shall stab them in your honor.

(This coming from someone who uses thru and tho and cringes while doing it.)
I know a lot of people who use "frig" and I guess it's because it's reFRIGerator-- there's no "d." But frig looks like it should be pronounced like friggin'.

I digress. As usual. Thanks for stabbing them in my honor.
09/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm reading fairy tale lust right now, on the very first story, and it's great so far.
Oh, yay!
09/28/2010
Contributor: clp clp
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I'm reading fairy tale lust right now, on the very first story, and it's great so far.
Oooh, I'm going to HAVE to get this one before the club meeting. I am such a sucker for fairy-tales!
09/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Jul!a
You'll find them eventually! Otherwise I'll let you borrow my copy of RLNG
Yay

I am sure they will show up eventually and I'll be all "Why the hell did I put them THERE?"
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Yay

I am sure they will show up eventually and I'll be all "Why the hell did I put them THERE?"
You'll have to let us know where you find them, if you do, lol
09/28/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by clp
Oooh, I'm going to HAVE to get this one before the club meeting. I am such a sucker for fairy-tales!
Yes, you definitely are. I wanted all the ones for October, so I might just pick up the others because I love stuff like this.
09/28/2010