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Should it be socially acceptable for young females to masturbate and/or use sex toys?

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Contributor: icyqueen icyqueen
"Should it be socially acceptable for young females to masturbate and/or use sex toys?"

Yes,absolutely! It's the safest form of sex and it's improving the body image. So it should be socially acceptable for (young) females to masturbate and to use sex toys.
03/08/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I don't believe sex toys should be legal for only 18+. I live in Connecticut and the age of consent is 16. Why is it that a girl can have sex at 16 but not pleasure herself with a toy until 18? That's illogical.
03/08/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hey everyone. My name is Mandy and I promote masturbation and safe sex in my area in hopes to lower the rate of teen pregnancy, STD, and abortions. Masturbation is good for anyone in so many ways, and I'm sure many of you know that since you are ... more
yes
03/08/2012
Contributor: samanthalynn samanthalynn
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hey everyone. My name is Mandy and I promote masturbation and safe sex in my area in hopes to lower the rate of teen pregnancy, STD, and abortions. Masturbation is good for anyone in so many ways, and I'm sure many of you know that since you are ... more
yes
04/11/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
I've been masturbating since I was a child and I had my first orgasm at 12. My parents encouraged me to masturbate and told me it was healthy and normal for me to do so. I wish more people held these attitudes on the matter. I have a great deal of respect for you for trying to spread sex-positivity and information in your community.
04/11/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
I agree that women should be allowed to masturbate, but I don't know how comfortable I'd be actually teaching my daughter how to do it...I was fine learning on my own!
04/11/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Great answer! When I said taught, this is what I meant: something I come across a lot at the meetings with planned parenthood and other organizations is that girls don't know the anatomy of their lady garden. They don't know how to go about ... more
I feel they should be taught about their bodies but not necessarily HOW to masturbate. The clitoris and g-spot aren't even included in most hs textbooks though! I even know a woman who is 47 and doesn't know where her clitoris is!
04/11/2012
Contributor: hot n spicey hot n spicey
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hey everyone. My name is Mandy and I promote masturbation and safe sex in my area in hopes to lower the rate of teen pregnancy, STD, and abortions. Masturbation is good for anyone in so many ways, and I'm sure many of you know that since you are ... more
I voted yes to the masturbation part. Now if the girl is still a virgin then I would not think toys should be used. If there has been a loss of virginity then I think sex toys would be a better alternative. As a parent my daughters and I are very open to sex talks and if they had lost their virginity I would not have a problem with them exploring sex toys. But before hand I would rather not. Masturbation is a part of every ones life and for there to be such a double standard at this day and age is crazy.
04/11/2012
Contributor: Kinky T Kinky T
I feel like masturbation is a natural and necessary part of everyone's life.
04/16/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
I think that it shows our society's preference for masculinity in the fact that young males masturbating is considered totally acceptable and commonplace, while it's the opposite for females. Personally, I think that our culture telling everyone that females have a low sex drive is responsible for it. I know many women, myself included, that have high sex drives. I think masturbation and toy use SHOULD be allowed for females under 18.
04/16/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Great question, I didn't really masturbate until I was older.
04/17/2012
Contributor: TransMarc TransMarc
Yes. I'm a trans man, but I am biologically female as some say, I've masturbated since I was a toddler and remember at this point it was for pleasure too. I remember at 5 feeling ashamed when my mother entered and asked what I was doing, if I was touching my thing (untranslatable kiddy name for clitoris) so I guess I had already gotten the message that it was bad somewhere, because I was also a bit scared.
As for toy use, I'm for it. I guess people should be taught by their parents or school safety related to toys, or have access to information in real life sex shops (though when I first entered one at 18 I got explained all about porous materials and why it was dangerous, so I guess if they were allowed to enter having questions answered wouldn't be a problem!)
There should also be booklets with informations on safety and use available in pharmacies, etc. without having to talk to the pharmacist first (some kids are shy.)
But, well, it seems information and education relating to sex safety in LGBT relationships is already hard to find for teens, at least those without an Internet access. It's really a problem, IMO.
04/17/2012
Contributor: kadytheredpanda kadytheredpanda
I'm a little weary on the sex toy part, but I masturbated from a young age. It's normal; I'm totally okay with it. With sex toys, I obviously don't want eight year olds to have vibrators, but thirteen up is fine with me if the girl is for the most part mature for her age. Masturbation with sex toys is a HUGE step from masturbating with your hands, IMO. At least, that's how it felt for me.
04/18/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I think it should definitely be acceptable because I think down the line it would definitely lead to a more open culture about sexuality and everyone's own body. Along those lines I think it would help people open up about themselves in other areas as well.
04/18/2012
Contributor: MissTay MissTay
I agree. I don't think that kids should be punished, condemned, ashamed of masturbation. I remember being young and the first time I masturbated... I didn't know what I was doing but I knew it felt good. Then I got caught once and my mom punished me for it. Like someone said above, it took me years to get to where I feel comfortable masturbating again. Even now... growing up in a "christian" environment... there is a fine line between what's wrong and right as far as masturbation goes. You know, the whole... sex before marriage thing. After being around my new step mom more, she has taught me since I was about... 15 that it IS okay and its nothing to be ashamed of. She says "If you don't know your own body, how is anyone else gonna be able to know it?" (I'm now 20 btw lol) But I have no problems with sex anymore.
05/24/2012
Contributor: MissTay MissTay
I agree. I don't think that kids should be punished, condemned, ashamed of masturbation. I remember being young and the first time I masturbated... I didn't know what I was doing but I knew it felt good. Then I got caught once and my mom punished me for it. Like someone said above, it took me years to get to where I feel comfortable masturbating again. Even now... growing up in a "christian" environment... there is a fine line between what's wrong and right as far as masturbation goes. You know, the whole... sex before marriage thing. After being around my new step mom more, she has taught me since I was about... 15 that it IS okay and its nothing to be ashamed of. She says "If you don't know your own body, how is anyone else gonna be able to know it?" (I'm now 20 btw lol) But I have no problems with sex anymore.
05/24/2012
Contributor: bh253 bh253
Of course it should be acceptable! Everyone should have the right to explore their own bodies. I am very close to my mother and she is respectful and tolerant of my needs. She gives me my privacy, and bought me my first toy at 17.
05/24/2012
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hey everyone. My name is Mandy and I promote masturbation and safe sex in my area in hopes to lower the rate of teen pregnancy, STD, and abortions. Masturbation is good for anyone in so many ways, and I'm sure many of you know that since you are ... more
The results here will be inaccurate because the majority of people on this site masturbate and support masturbation. I would advise against using these statistics.
05/24/2012
Contributor: Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
By the time a person is going through sexual maturity, sexual health is very important and needed.
05/29/2012
Contributor: prttynink prttynink
I love that so many people voted yes on this. Women/girls shouldn't be ashamed by something that is a) normal and healthy and b) completely safe.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Its better than having a knocked up teen
06/12/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
i think they should be able to if they want to
06/15/2012
Contributor: Tork48309 Tork48309
Good question but I beleive God chose when a girl becomes a woman by the period. That when I think it is acceptable for maturabation and sex toys for self-exploration.
06/15/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Don't think there's anything wrong with it, but I'm not sure they need to be taught. Admittedly, it's a bit simpler, but guys have figured it out on their own for quite a few years
06/16/2012
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I think 18 and over is appropriate for people to start using sex toys. I certainly wouldn't encourage my teenagers if I had any to get toys, but masturbation I don't have a problem with.
06/16/2012
Contributor: tigertiger tigertiger
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hey everyone. My name is Mandy and I promote masturbation and safe sex in my area in hopes to lower the rate of teen pregnancy, STD, and abortions. Masturbation is good for anyone in so many ways, and I'm sure many of you know that since you are ... more
i don't see why not. masturbation is totally normal for everyone and plenty of girls could use the help
06/16/2012
Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Sex toys should be allowed for teens. that could make some difference. I know when I was 16 I wish I had proper toys, I would have been much more busy getting to know myself then getting with guys to figure it out(they never helped, that's for sure). I would have appreciated a vibrator so much!
06/18/2012
Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
exploring ones sexuality is normal and natural. i think this great that you teach this. I wonder.. would i have had a healthier sex life as a young adult and up untill being middle aged when i finally started exploring toys and such. idk.
06/18/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Hey everyone. My name is Mandy and I promote masturbation and safe sex in my area in hopes to lower the rate of teen pregnancy, STD, and abortions. Masturbation is good for anyone in so many ways, and I'm sure many of you know that since you are ... more
I think every person should know how to take care of themselves, but I do not believe in promoting sex toys to minors
07/02/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
I hope that all people, including young girls are made to feel that it's natural and healthy to engage in.
07/03/2012