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while i'm all about education and not shaming regarding masturbation at all ages, i really dont think that introducing folks to sex play with toys or mutual masturbation is going to make them stay abstinent longer.
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ToyGurl
That's exactly how I feel. I lost my virginity at 14 also, and honestly I do regret that. I didn't contract any diseases. My boyfriend at the time was a virgin, as was I. But we had unsafe sex, nonetheless. No condom, no birth control, and we
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That's exactly how I feel. I lost my virginity at 14 also, and honestly I do regret that. I didn't contract any diseases. My boyfriend at the time was a virgin, as was I. But we had unsafe sex, nonetheless. No condom, no birth control, and we seriously had no idea what the hell we were doing... Trying just about everything in the world.
I think that if girls are at least informed that masturbation (solo and mutual), or sex play with toys are options to having sex... they might just make the choice to stay abstinent. There are so many ways to enjoy sexual intimacy with someone, and pleasure yourself, without having actual intercourse. Whether they be straight, bi or lesbian. You can contract STD's all ways, and definitely get pregnant more easily than they think by having sex with a boy... even WITH a condom.
Just today I was so freaked out about how all these young boys with smaller genitals are using magnum sized condoms to impress their girlfriends/partners.. . and then their girlfriends/partners get an STD or get pregnant because when they remove their penis from the vagina the condom either slips off and leaks semen, or stays inside their vagina altogether dripping semen!
I think sexual education just isn't enough... When we go into high schools, we actually have guidelines for what we can and cannot say to the teens. We cannot promote safe sex half the time, we can only promote abstinence altogether. We can't hand out condoms. We can't talk about birth control at most schools. It's usually just "STD's blah blah blah... oh yeah, DON'T HAVE SEX". less
I think that if girls are at least informed that masturbation (solo and mutual), or sex play with toys are options to having sex... they might just make the choice to stay abstinent. There are so many ways to enjoy sexual intimacy with someone, and pleasure yourself, without having actual intercourse. Whether they be straight, bi or lesbian. You can contract STD's all ways, and definitely get pregnant more easily than they think by having sex with a boy... even WITH a condom.
Just today I was so freaked out about how all these young boys with smaller genitals are using magnum sized condoms to impress their girlfriends/partners.. . and then their girlfriends/partners get an STD or get pregnant because when they remove their penis from the vagina the condom either slips off and leaks semen, or stays inside their vagina altogether dripping semen!
I think sexual education just isn't enough... When we go into high schools, we actually have guidelines for what we can and cannot say to the teens. We cannot promote safe sex half the time, we can only promote abstinence altogether. We can't hand out condoms. We can't talk about birth control at most schools. It's usually just "STD's blah blah blah... oh yeah, DON'T HAVE SEX". less
contrariwise, i think it would have an adverse effect.
that's like saying giving a kid one M&M is going to make him avoid wanting brownies, chocolate cakes, and cookies. or that giving a kid a joint is going to make him not want to try other drugs.
thats just silly.
if i had known more about mutual masturbation and sex toys at a younger age, i would've felt more comfortable with it, and probably would've lost my virginity sooner than i did, at age 17. i held off before then for religious beliefs and shame. if the shame was taken away, gone would also be the guilt, and i likely would've dove in, feeling more confident and experienced. skipping the exploration/trial runs and getting right down to business.
masturbation and sex toys for me spice up my sex life, spice up my sex DRIVE and make me... well, hornier.
