Is it hard for you to orgasm?

Contributor: Mistress Sassy Mistress Sassy
Well, for me it's not too much of a problem to orgasm, but I have yet to experience any g-spot orgasms yet. My boyfriend is still trying to sensitize my body into realizing it has other pleasure zones besides just my clitoris! Though, sometimes it can take several minutes for me to orgasm.. like about 5 to sometimes 20 minutes. I have always been able to achieve a clitoral orgasm, which feels incredibly wonderful! We're going to keep trying an experimenting too!
07/24/2012
Contributor: nori nori
It depends on my mood. but not usually.
07/24/2012
Contributor: Brittanyx Brittanyx
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Originally posted by KrazyKandy
If the tv is on I cant because I get distracted
Same here. Distractions make it extremely hard. T.v, and phones what is technology doing to our sex lives?
07/24/2012
Contributor: hybridinsurge hybridinsurge
I've never had an orgasm. It's not uncommon for women not to have an orgasm until later in life or to not be able to orgasm with a partner or during vaginal intercourse.
07/24/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
Sometimes I have a lot of trouble reaching orgasm. Other times, it's much easier... Sadly, today was one of those times that I (we) had a lot of difficulty and it took a while. It can be frustrating...
07/24/2012
Contributor: heather-mooney heather-mooney
it's hard for more women than you might think!
07/25/2012
Contributor: SparklyGlitter SparklyGlitter
it depends on the day
07/31/2012
Contributor: Gettinmymojoback Gettinmymojoback
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
i love coming so its very frustrating, but the good thing is when i do come after my body fights its like an major major OOOO moment!
08/01/2012
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
I think I am one of the lucky ones who can reach climax multiple times during foreplay/intercourse. My fiance was the first to help me achieve it during oral though. He gets a thrill out of seeing how many times he can get me off.
08/01/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I have a hard time here and there, only certain things will make me orgasm, other things just won't.
08/01/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
Sometimes. I am a size queen and I married a man with an average sized penis. I think for the bigger the easier it is for me to have an orgasm. I sometimes fake it for his sake. I don't want to hurt his feelings.
08/01/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
Generally no, but sometimes I do have a hard time.
08/11/2012
Contributor: snarknemesis snarknemesis
I have trouble even when I'm by myself.
08/12/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I don't usually alone or with a partner. It takes a little while at times, but mostly I just have difficulty when the other person doesn't do things the way I like them or makes me uncomfortable, or if I'm horribly sensitive from being oversexed (this has happened!).
08/12/2012
Contributor: Augustxsins Augustxsins
I used to orgasm at the slightest provocation, but the medicine I've been on for about the last two years makes it very hard for me to get off. I can still orgasm, but it takes a lot of effort and stimulation.
08/12/2012
Contributor: ellieprobable ellieprobable
It can take some real practice. You're in the right place, though!
08/14/2012
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
By myself no. But with my husbamd sometimes. He doesnt put time and effort anymore...
08/14/2012
Contributor: MK434 MK434
Yes, I am 30 and I have noticed that as I have gotten older and had 2 kids I have a much harder time having an orgasm vaginaly but alomst never any problems analy.
08/14/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
I have orgasmed once at 14 and never again after. My two current lovers have never experienced an orgasm in their lives. It's not for lack of trying, believe me.
08/15/2012
Contributor: molly molly
It's super easy for me to cum...most of the time I come multiple times during sex (not necessarily multiple at once, but like...one during oral, one during intercourse, etc).
08/20/2012
Contributor: panthercat23 panthercat23
Most of the time I have no problems orgasming but some times it is harder than others.
08/20/2012
Contributor: indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
it takes long for me to get to an orgasm with a partner than it sometimes does for my partner. but this is why we have toys, and why men have fingers and why I have fingers. we both always get there sometimes you just have to take a different path than expected
08/20/2012
Contributor: Shadowed Shadowed
It's a lot easier for me to orgasm when he uses his fingers. I don't know how he does it, but he can move his arm at incredible speeds. Clit orgasms are much more frequent, but I've never been able to cum from oral sex (very frustrating, because I'm constantly right on the edge). For me, doggie style and reverse cowgirl are the best positions for intercourse. It hits you in just the right spots. Foreplay is typically a must. If you don't get heated before the main event, how are you supposed to enjoy yourself thoroughly?
08/22/2012
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
I have a hard time when I'm focusing on other things
08/22/2012
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I actually used the Rockin rabbit toy today from here ( EF) and it took about 3 minutes which is FAST! Try a toy similar to that. Some people need internal and external to get there. Just a thought.
08/22/2012
Contributor: shielaray shielaray
It's not really hard for me to make myself orgasm under the right circumstances, but with a partner it has always been a pretty big challenge.
08/26/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
Not at this particular time, but over the years there have been issues for me.
08/26/2012
Contributor: MrsHouseWife MrsHouseWife
My husband and I started having sex quite young so it took me a while to have an orgasm through sex (or with a partern for that matter). Its not so much of a issue now, but sometime if I have to much on my mind it can be quite hard.

My best friend has been sexually active for a few years now and has NEVER and I am mean Never had an orgasm, alone or with either for her partners (2). Thankfully she is now with someone that is willing to take the time to figure out what is good for her and I even sent her to EF to have a look at a few toys.
08/26/2012
Contributor: chikisses chikisses
I have a hard time having a orgasm. I used to have them all the time when me and my husband were first married actually for about the first 3 years. Then all of a sudden sex want as often then fewer and fewer orgasms. So now they are rare. I can have an orgasm with my toys though. But not all the time..
08/26/2012
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
No, I only have a hard time if I'm on some type of medication that can interfere with orgasm.
08/26/2012