I usually have to get myself off after my man finishes. Im okay with that tho.

I have a hard time if I'm really stressed, or not feeling well. It really depends on my mental state and whether I'm distracted or not.

Depends on what's going on

It's extremely hard for me to get an orgasm by penetration.

I voted sometimes as I have no trouble with myself but when I'm with someone else I tense up and get nervous so its not as easy.

I never had an O until I got with my current partner 5 years ago. Ever since then, during "intimacy" I've never not had at least one or two. It's very VERY rare for me to have a hard time getting there. Mostly because my partner's so determined Everytime he wants to make it better and better for me so it's always a win situation. The only time I've had a hard time getting there is if I'm tired or stressed badly. The worst is when I'm tired. It's crazy how hard of a time I sometimes have when I'm tired and others it's multiple O's. We just try to skip sex if I'm really tired or have been highly stressed or upset that day. Other than that, it always happens. Some days it will take a bit longer, but it always happens.

Alone, I have no problem..but I've never had one with a partner.

I can't orgasm at all without a toy.. I feel bad for my partner because he tires very hard, but I just can't...

I don't have very much difficulty. Sometimes I'll go at it for 45 minutes and realize it's not going to happen; other times 5 minutes and I'm done. During intercourse it's not difficult for me either if the person pays attention to my needs.

I just want to point out that sometimes being able to orgasm easily isn't as great or as fun as it seems. It seems like my husband sent me a link about this a few months ago - but here is my situation.

I can get horny very easily - too easily if you ask me. I can't ride in a car for long (any car) because it makes me horny and then my back aches. If I take a shower - yep - I'm horny immediately. Can't stop it.

Yes - I do orgasm easily most of the time (in the last month we've come to realize just how "multi-orgasmic" I am and how much it has influenced my life to not have them because my headaches and backaches have stopped and my "mind fog" has disappeared).

The last couple of days I've been too tired to want to start to play....so hubby will set me up with a bullet and maybe a vibrator inside and tell me to take a nap.

He'll come back an hour or two later and I'm all wet and have started to cum while dreaming and THEN I can really play.

I guess what I'm saying is that orgasms are great and that whether you can have one or more is wonderful - but when it gets to the point that the lack of them affects you as much as it does me - or when you get horny as easily as I do (and never realized why my darn back was hurting so bad) - it can be frustrating and I wish I was less "orgasmic".

In mutual masturbation types of situations or while hubby's just watching me it usually takes me longer to orgasm if I do at all. Other than that, it's not too hard to get there for me.

Sometimes....usually when I'm tired or stressed.

You wanna manage a few things so everything is set fine for the purpose:

the environment undisturbed, nobody around who could disturb you, at all, not even coming home (or whatever else) for a few hours for sure

your state of mind calm, relaxed, balanced - if you are a stressful, anxious kind of person then try to set your mood to the pleasure time, you just wanna relax, have fun, enjoy it - nice, beautiful music you like and keeps you smilin can help a lot, and books and movies, videos you enjoy too, especially the erotic kind

you don't wanna rush, you don't wanna force anything, it's best to start to read or watch something, and take your time by caressing yourself very longly first

you wanna go step by step and slowly, the best is when you can't hold on anymore and wanna go on to the next level - but don't wait too longly, my experience is that when I wait too long it's hard to get back into the mood physically again, as your focus can get tired too, so you wanna follow yer desire, but stretch it as long as possible

and of course you wanna please yourself in every way you enjoy it, no matter if you find a position which looks funny, or if you have a fantasy what others would find ridiculous, it is yours, nobody sees you, nobody can laugh at you, go for it, and enjoy it, that's why you are doing it

and it's a good thing to stretch your arousal too, not coming so fast, though you can go for it

focus on yer clit, arch your muscles, but don't tire yourself too much as well - even while you're having a quick break keep on exciting yourself lightly

some more good advices, by personal experiences:

make the temperature good, it sucks to stop and get warmer or cooler

look sexy, it feels even better to feel that you are a delicious sight in your pleasure

eat and drink if you haven't for a long while, you don't wanna stop because of such a silly thing

same goes for other bodily functions, go to pee, better to do it before you start, cause if it takes hours you don't wanna stop in the middle of it because of such a discomfort

and of course what we all know already, use toys, any toys you want, better have many of them around, cause batteries and charges can go low in the hours of pleasure, you wanna have plenty of power handy...

If you want to achieve ultimate pleasure with your mate (I mean your precious chosen one, I just like to call mine my Mate... ^^) then you wanna ask him to set his mind ready to put all his heart into it and be willing to spend hours with pleasuring you, focusing on you fully, and you also wanna tell him in the process what you like and what not, you wanna dare to speak up, and ask him to do everything for you to help, I do believe that it will work cause, blah, just because I think that you have a wonderful loving mate (hopefully!!!), and with such a precious one everything is possible!!!

I read encouraging things in yer profile btw, but if you still couldn't make it, well, I wish the best luck with it, and dare to shoot a message whatever you wanna ask or tell, I do hope that this is a good initial walkthrough in a nutshell for anyone having similar troubles...

It takes a while but sooner or later it happens and one learns how to enjoy life fully, the key is open mind, and a lot of patience, with them nothing can go wrong...

Sometimes I have a hard time. I think it usually has to do with what kind of mood I've been in lately.

It really depends on how i am feeling when i go at it. Sometimes it is easy, other times not so much.

It can be sometimes

There are a lot of times that I eel like I have to try really hard to reach that point but I always do.

Sometimes. There are some days where I just get so stirred up that I'll try and try... and can't get close. It's usually when I have a migraine coming on.

I can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, but that is usually pretty easy for me.

I'm honestly not sure if I ever have, I squirt with alot of g-spot stimulation but it's accompanied with a very small orgasm if any at all...

i never orgasimed with anyone until i met my fiancee and now its much easier

I have never had an orgasm with a partner, which is really weird because as I have gotten older I want sex more often!

depends on my mental state at the time...

Yes, it used to be harder, but some days it's still out of reach. My most reliable orgasms are using the Hitachi Magic Wand in a humping position. Other than that it's hit or miss, and when I do have an orgasm it takes a long while.

I also highly suggest the book Sex for One by Betty Dodson, if you haven't read it yet.