I personally with my partner I am with now and when I use toys I have NO issues what so ever with all my ex's however I did unless it was oral sex being performed on me or via toys during foreplay
Is it hard for you to orgasm?
04/20/2012
After being with my husband for over 4 years now, I'm still working on trying to get my first.
04/22/2012
depends on the day...
04/23/2012
It took me awhile to get the hang of them, and to have a clitoral orgasm I basically need a vibrator. As for g-spot orgasms, I have yet to experience a "pure" one, but I'm starting to get into blended g-spot/clitoral without too much difficulty. 99% of the battle for me has always been figuring out what kind of stimulation I like. I spent years wondering why my g-spot seemed to do nothing for me before realizing that I wasn't putting enough pressure on it. The good news is, in my experience, the more you orgasms you have, the easier they are to reach.
04/23/2012
Absolutely. I can orgasm fine with vibrators, or one or two other ways by myself, but I've had all of two orgasms with a partner, a very long time ago, and after those he never wanted to even bother with it again, guess it was too much work to make me cum.
I do have to wonder about all the guys who boast about not getting off until their partner has had at least two orgasms... it almost makes me want to get together with them and crush their ability to brag
But anyway, I really can't orgasm with a partner. I'd love to be able to, but I haven't quite had a partner yet who seems interested in actually getting me there and working with me, so I'm not sure what to do.
Luckily, orgasms have nothing at all to do with being sexually satisfied for me all that takes is some good hard fucking for a while
I do have to wonder about all the guys who boast about not getting off until their partner has had at least two orgasms... it almost makes me want to get together with them and crush their ability to brag
But anyway, I really can't orgasm with a partner. I'd love to be able to, but I haven't quite had a partner yet who seems interested in actually getting me there and working with me, so I'm not sure what to do.
Luckily, orgasms have nothing at all to do with being sexually satisfied for me all that takes is some good hard fucking for a while
04/26/2012
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I think you shouldn't be discouraged that you haven't had an orgasm. For me sometimes its really hard to orgasm other days it seems I can't stop orgasming. But I will give you some pointers.
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
1. Try and do it yourself alone
- Because to orgasm you need to be most comfortable and relaxed
2. Try and watch some porn or read some erotic stories
- Help get you in the mood, and it might give you the focus you need
3. Try using a shower head to spray water over your clit
- One of the oldest tricks in the book, the warm running water feels amazing and is a crazy amazing sensation
4. Instead of masturbating for the orgasm just do it for the pleasure of touching yourself. Sometimes if you think of the end result all the time you can get discouraged easily. But if you touch yourself because the process itself feels good you are more likely to orgasm
GOOD LUCK!!!
05/06/2012
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i had okay ones until i did some reading and tried to relax more. no pressure helps me a lot. it was definitely easier in a good, loving relationship with a lot of patience and no pressure.
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
05/07/2012
Thankfully it's pretty easy for me to orgasm.
05/07/2012
I usually don't have any trouble...if anything it might take a little longer to get off, especially recently, I'm on new meds.
05/07/2012
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That's WONDERFUL! Not many people can say the same.
Originally posted by
Redboxbaby
I have an extremely difficult time orgasming if I am alone. There is really no point in it for me. It's been like that for at least 5-10 years. However, with my husband, I have no issues.
05/07/2012
I used to be able to have a gspot orgasm but now I have to have clitorial stimulation to be able to orgasm. I have had a hysterectomy and they had to cut on some things in there. Its a little longer and a little more work but my husband doesnt seem to mind
05/07/2012
It depends. For me, if I haven't masturbated for a few days, it's easy. For me and a partner, it takes lots of foreplay.
05/08/2012
during sex only
05/08/2012
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Sometimes
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
05/09/2012
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Not for me!
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
05/13/2012
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i know what i like, so i don't really have any trouble
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
05/13/2012
Painful pelvic floor muscles -> painful playtime -> hard to orgasm. I manage, though
05/26/2012
With another person, I'm always a bit self conscious. One of these days, I'll be able to voice my desires to a partner clearly. By myself, it's very easy thankfully.
05/26/2012
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I orgasmed the first time using the Wahl.
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
05/26/2012
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Very true, me too!
Originally posted by
PiratePrincess
It's much harder for me when I'm stressed out.
05/27/2012
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very much so...
Originally posted by
unfulfilled
I've never had an orgasm, and was wondering if others had a hard time getting there as well.
05/28/2012
I've never finished during sex without the use of toys, but I'm approaching my peak and hoping that will change!
05/29/2012
I've been having clitoral orgasms since childhood (I can't be the only one who started early), but I can only reach it a very specific way, and it tends to take a really long time with a partner. Never had a vaginal orgasm and don't really expect to.
07/12/2012
toys help!
07/20/2012
It depends on the mood that I'm in.
07/20/2012
It sometimes takes some time, like over an hour, but I usually get there.
07/23/2012
I didn't have a clitoral orgasm until I was 22 and it's very specific, I have to actively be thrusting against something (usually a pillow) to get them. I didn't have a g-spot orgasm until earlier this year and I'm 28.
07/24/2012
Sometimes. I think stress has a lot to do with it, at least for me, personally. The past few months my family has been in a shit storm; cousin had an aneurysm, my dad had pneumonia and a spot on his lung (that we later found out was not cancer!) and my mom has chronic pain.
My sleep meds are kicking in so I apologize if this didn't flow well. The point I'm trying to make is all these factors play into our psych whether it's conscious or not. I think to have a successful orgasm, your mind's just gotta be in a good place.
My sleep meds are kicking in so I apologize if this didn't flow well. The point I'm trying to make is all these factors play into our psych whether it's conscious or not. I think to have a successful orgasm, your mind's just gotta be in a good place.
07/24/2012
sometimes.
life stressors dependant of course
life stressors dependant of course
07/24/2012
No. Sometimes it's hard to keep from orgasming too soon.
07/24/2012