I think it's different when you are married. We pretty much tell eachother everything. I know his and he has a pretty good idea of mine.
Do you think knowing your lovers "Number" is important?
03/17/2012
I'll ask for an estimate, but I don't have a reason for knowing. I don't judge, either way. I just like to know.
03/17/2012
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A little
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
03/17/2012
I don't particularly care about the number of partners, rather his/her standard of personal health care, etc. I'd want them to be safe and clean about things.
03/17/2012
A refuse to know, or to tell my specific number. I don't see any good that having a concrete number to freak out about. It makes it too easy to compare and gives grounds for jealousy. I only care that they were safe and responsible prior.
03/18/2012
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it's obv important to know in regards to whether or not they've been tested for STDs, but otherwise i think it's something that people use to judge character when it doesn't ACTUALLY reveal anything about your character
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
03/18/2012
No not important and maybe important not to know for some people
03/18/2012
Yes, it's important to have complete honesty in a relationship.
03/19/2012
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I think maybe a GENERAL idea, but not specifics if you don't want to divulge it. Some people get obsessed with it, and feel like they don't measure up if their lover has been with more than they have.
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
04/01/2012
I voted "other".
I did ask my partner about things like this, and he's even given me some names and shown me what they looked like, as I did with him.
I like to know for a few reasons, one being anyone we may have in common I should watch out for (a crazy ex or something) and because even though it wouldn't have changed how I felt about him, just knowing something personal like that makes me feel closer to him, because we can share that sort of thing.
Equally as important, I make sure he knows things like that as well.
I did ask my partner about things like this, and he's even given me some names and shown me what they looked like, as I did with him.
I like to know for a few reasons, one being anyone we may have in common I should watch out for (a crazy ex or something) and because even though it wouldn't have changed how I felt about him, just knowing something personal like that makes me feel closer to him, because we can share that sort of thing.
Equally as important, I make sure he knows things like that as well.
04/01/2012
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It'd be nice to know for experience, etc.
Originally posted by
Taylor
I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
04/01/2012
doesnt matter to me
04/01/2012
I def think it would be interesting to know.
04/02/2012
I don't think the numbers are important as long as they are undeniably in the past and will have minimal effect on the future of the relationship. Every has a past to deal with.
04/02/2012
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To a degree its important.
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
"Are you a virgin?" -- "No" -- Perfect
"Are you a virgin?" -- "Yes" -- "Call me when you're not"
04/03/2012
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um okay i forget if i've responded to this thread before or not but my answer is no idgaf
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
04/03/2012
I don't want to know his exact number, I know he was a man whore before me and thats even more then I want to know. We all have a past but thats where I want it to stay.
04/03/2012
I'm not really interested in another guy's number. The only thing that matters is what's happening in the present.
04/03/2012
I wouldnt say its important. Actually, I wouldnt like to know...
The only thing I need to know is: Are you clean, and the last time you were checked/examined for STDs
Knowing their experience level is a plus, but not a must for me.
The only thing I need to know is: Are you clean, and the last time you were checked/examined for STDs
Knowing their experience level is a plus, but not a must for me.
04/04/2012
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Dido
Originally posted by
clp
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
04/04/2012
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You can get an STD from having sex with one person. Likewise, you can be safe and have slept with over 100 people. Sure, the risks are higher with unprotected sex, but the amount of people someone has sex with doesn't determine how safe they are.
Originally posted by
Yessi
well i just want to be safe thats it.
04/05/2012