I like to have the "number conversation" early on in a relationship. Some boys have been shocked/angry and not reacted kindly to my number. Frankly I'd rather not waste time with similar jerks in the future. So for me the number talk is good first hurdle to see if someone is worth my time. I really don't care about my partners' numbers, except in one circumstance when I was his first. I was glad he told me because it made me be more sensitive to what he was experiencing and maybe not sharing.

I like to know, just because I'm interested in my partners experiences. I don't judge them. Don't get me wrong, in the past I demanded test before I would have unprotected sex, but that was just to protect me from getting Syfa-gonna-herpe-aids.

Leave the past in the past, lets live in the present and future.

no i just want to make sure they're clean. if he tells me though, i won't mind

Yes, both times, I wanted to know. My husband wouldn't tell me until after we were married, which annoyed/angered me. I told him MY number without reservation. I thought, and still think to this day it was because he was embarrassed he had 3 and I only had 1.

I don't really want to know, but having some idea is nice. It's part of getting to know someone...no specific numbers, but what sort of relationships they've been involved in, in the past.

Yes i do since i dont want to be with a man who has had hundreds of women that would be a complete turn off

I agree with Taylor.

Nope, I don't think its important at all.

I don't ask but if they do, I don't give an honest number. I most likely would in a serious relationship though.

Yes i sure do not want to find out I am number 200 or something.

dont care

A general idea is kind of nice, but I wouldn't need a specific number.

No it's not important, but it is extremely interesting. I lovvve those early relationship talks where everyone shares their sexy past info. Unnecessary, but very fun as long as no one gets too serious about it.

What happened before me is just that...before me. When we first got together, we were both tested for STDs as neither one of us were super safe. We have both been monogamous and have been tested regularly throughout our relationship. I think that living in the past would be unhealthy for us.

I'd like a general idea because I don't want to end up with someone who's had a god awful amount of gfs before me. It makes me uneasy when a guy tells me he's had so many in a certain amount of time, usually there's a reason for that, and usually it's a bad reason, at least to me.

We don't really talk about the past, it's just that, the past, As long as were both clean of anything catchy which thank god we never contracted one. It's all gravey.

The number isn't important so much as the blood work saying my partner is clean.

Hard to say. I voted no, but it really depends on how much info both parties WANT to know and WANT to give. I prefer knowing every single thing! I'm strange, but I like knowing. I could understand someone not wanting to share their number especially in the beginning or with someone you just hooked up with. Some people don't want to be judged right away by only their number. I prefer the person really knowing me before knowing my number. Also it's common for women to be looked down on solely on the number and some lose respect for you right away if it isn't the number the hoped to hear. I guess in that case the person wouldn't make a very good partner, but still. I can understand not doing so for those resons. The numbers can be important to some though and I do prefer knowing everything about my partner, even his past. I don't get upset about it, but I just like to know. I don't think a person's number of partners is anything to judge them on though.

I know how many partners my husband has been with before me. For the 1st year we were intimate it was difficult for me because I was constantly comparing myself to them in my head. Then one day I just said screw it and havent cared about it since. The important thing for me was that he was clean when we started having sex and after every partner he got tested to make sure he was clean. Thats what was/is important to me.

No, I just want to not hear about it, and know that she is clean and has been tested

As long as I have a general idea of whether they are experienced or not I don't care at all about knowing specific numbers. Just get tested and prove to me you are STI free and I don't remotely care about your past relationships.

I picked other, because it's not important to me as far as sexual experience, but it is important to me as far as openness in our relationship

My partner and I discussed each others sexual pasts without much detail. I don't care for details and imagery (who does?).

I think for me, the biggest thing was discussing relationships -- like the more concrete facts I knew about the past relationship, the less I could imagine. I was more comfortable knowing things like, "this was a partner I had in the past. around that time i was x, y, z. this was good. this was why it didn't work."

Most of our past partners were not very significant or important. However, my partner got out of a long-term relationship before we started dating. i took some time to understand what happened there -- i don't know if many would do the same. the facts i learned put things in perspective. For instance, i learned that in his last relationship, my partner didn't feel as sexually fulfilled and that he didn't enjoy relationship dynamics similar to a parent-child. Those sort of details just emphasized the positive aspects of our relationship -- like how we're sexually compatible and how we treat each other like equal partners.

Anyone experienced something similar?

I'd like to have a ballpark figure, as in if we're talking 2 or 200, but I don't need specifics.

When I'm in love with someone, I have to know EVERYTHING about them. I'm just very curious like that.

i dont mind sharing it- and if they feel strange about telling me then i stat to wonder why... or why of all people they would feel strange or ashamed to tell me? but i can b jealous so while i want to know... i dont need specifics...

I want to know experience, not how many. And I never tell my number.