As in their number of lovers they've had?
Do you think knowing your lovers "Number" is important?
06/02/2011
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I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
06/02/2011
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
06/02/2011
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I agree completely. I would like to know in general, but I don't need specifics
Originally posted by
Taylor
I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
06/02/2011
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Agreed. I like knowing what each of us has done, but not how many people we've done it with.
Originally posted by
clp
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
06/02/2011
nope
06/02/2011
The 2 people I have had sex with were both virgins before me, so I feel that it was important for them to let me know that. Otherwise, I wouldn't really care what the specific number was.
06/02/2011
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I agree 100%.
Originally posted by
Taylor
I don't need to know an exact number, but I would like to have a general idea of how experienced they are.
06/02/2011
It's not something that is important to me. I might ask out of curiosity, but in the end it really doesn't matter either way. Sometimes it's best not to know. If he's been with 20 and ive been with 1...I'm bound to feel more awkward when he have sex than if I didn't know the number.
06/03/2011
not something i need to know or really honestly want to
06/03/2011
I'd say I don't need to know the exact number, but rather how experienced they were. Since I'm in college, which is like a breeding ground for STD's, I'd also usually go with them to get tested, regardless of the number. All it takes is one unprotected encounter.
06/03/2011
I don't need to know an exact number, but I like to have a general idea if it's been a lot.
06/03/2011
I don't think it's important at all.
06/03/2011
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I totally agreed with you!
Originally posted by
clp
I don't like discussing my past with a current partner because I can't stand hearing about theirs. Jealousy is powerful but negative, in this case. Questions lead to more questions and its just a dark down spiral.
06/04/2011
I don't need to know how many partners they have had however I would like to know how experienced they are.
06/04/2011
I mean... the number itself doesn't matter, but if they are withholding it it is more of an issue of the trust factor.
06/04/2011
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Exactly. Though I don't really care about the number itself, I would be weirded out if they were insistent on keeping it from me.
Originally posted by
ichigostrawberry
I mean... the number itself doesn't matter, but if they are withholding it it is more of an issue of the trust factor.
06/05/2011
Nope, Because what he did before me shouldn't matter, We didnt know we were going to cross paths so i can't be upset or worried about what was before me.
06/05/2011
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I don't think it's very important.
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
06/07/2011
My husband and I have been married 10 years now and I still don't exactly know how many partners he has had and he doesn't know an exact number of mine. It was never important. We had both been careful and when we weren't, we were tested regularly afterward. I do know that my number at the very least doubles his, but he was more discerning and picky about it. Almost romantic about his previous encounters. And I was out for experience and experimentation.
06/07/2011
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His number is his past
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
06/10/2011
NO! There have been times where I have wondered about a partners or a love interest numbers, but really, I don't want to know. I don't want that running around my head and wondering where I fit in - as in how good I am compared to them.
06/11/2011
I have no clue how many lovers my partner has had, and I don't care. It's all in the past.
06/11/2011
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Obviously we are in the minority on this one, but both of us (him and her) feel that in a long term, trusting relationship, one should know the history of the person you are spending your life with. It is a window in to who they are now, and why. Helps you also repeat what is good for them, and avoid what they did not like...even in others.
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
As in their number of lovers they've had?
06/11/2011
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I am wondering if this is a generational thing. Older lover I am guessing, might want to know more then younger ones, who grew up in a culture where having "lovers" did not mean there was a huge emotional attachment and commitment of self for "long term", as it did in the past? Just guessing.
Originally posted by
buzzvibe
I have no clue how many lovers my partner has had, and I don't care. It's all in the past.
06/11/2011
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This is exactly how I feel - if I knew the number I would be thinking about it all the time.
Originally posted by
Shellz31
NO! There have been times where I have wondered about a partners or a love interest numbers, but really, I don't want to know. I don't want that running around my head and wondering where I fit in - as in how good I am compared to them.
06/11/2011
Nope!
06/14/2011
I don’t need to know my partner’s number but I do like to know their experience level. To me someone’s experience doesn’t have to go hand in hand with the amount of partners they havehad, and knowing just helps to determine if they know firmly what they like and don’t or of they are still exploring and I need to be extra careful. I am also paranoid of STI’s so I always go with a new partner to get tested while getting tested myself.
06/14/2011
I don't want to know about his past relationships at all - I'm the jealous type.
06/14/2011
well i just want to be safe thats it.
06/15/2011