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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
Anal is amazing!
..Well said. I SECOND that motion.
11/23/2011
Contributor: JGrey JGrey
A...i did not understand choices....
12/01/2011
Contributor: Jroc Jroc
It only hurts if you don't stretch yourself and use too little lube.
12/05/2011
Contributor: Kendrir Kendrir
The fact that you've been talking about it for a couple of weeks show that you're already on the right path of planning and communicating to ensure the experience will be an enjoyable one. When done carefully, it can be a great experience for both parties. There's already some great suggestions here for reading material, and I'll second the advice about playing with some smaller toys (especially something like a plug) before transitioning to penetrative sex for best results
12/05/2011
Contributor: ToyLady ToyLady
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
I always thought I was an "exit only" kind of gal. However, once I tried anal with my husband, I couldn't believe what I had been missing. Now, I love it. The key is for him to use a lot of lube, and go very slowly - waiting for your muscles to relax.
12/06/2011
Contributor: Fidelity Fidelity
Anal can be a wonderful thing me and my wife both enjoy it very much it has changed how we enjoy sex!
12/06/2011
Contributor: mastersonv mastersonv
I answered yes because you should explore it. I would start out small with anal beads or a vibrator. Remember to relax and have your husband warm you up (stretch your rectum) Use lots of lube and communicate the whole time! The first time may not be extremely pleasant but the more you do it the better you two will get at it together and it can open a whole idea of what an amazing orgasm is!
12/08/2011
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
I think just go with the flow. try it slowly if you want to..ease into it. You will b able to tell if you want to continue.
12/08/2011
Contributor: Hushbaby Hushbaby
Anal sex can be a great experince when done right. Just take your time.
12/17/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
It's up to you whether you want to have anal sex or not. My guess is if you are posting this, you are curious. I'd suggest starting with fingers, then move into smaller toys. If you like all of those, you should give anal a try
12/17/2011
Contributor: SweetieLuv SweetieLuv
Quote:
Originally posted by CAKES
I love anal!
me 2
12/18/2011
Contributor: SweetieLuv SweetieLuv
love it
12/18/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
Well if it hurts too much, you can always stop, so I wouldn't rule it out.
12/18/2011
Contributor: Alloria Alloria
If this is something both of you want to try I would say start off easy with some small plugs and go larger over time. Don't forget good quality lube. then when you are comfortable with that let him try. the more uncomfortable and tense you are the more painful it can be.
01/26/2012
Contributor: McTavishes McTavishes
Anal is fantastic. :3
01/27/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
Def have an orgasm before trying it, that way you'll be more relaxed. Take it slow and if it hurts - stop!
01/27/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
Anal is not supposed to hurt. If it is hurting you are doing it wrong and you need more warm up and more lube.
02/03/2012
Contributor: Kirill1171 Kirill1171
Mmm)
02/13/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I chose hurts like hell. I have tried it a couple times and i do not like it and it is painful for me.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Anal is lots of fun and shouldn't be painful with proper warm up. Make sure to use lots of lube and warm up with a gloved finger or two or some smaller toys and work your way up slowly and all should be just fine.
02/13/2012
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
do whatever makes YOU happy, I'm sure he's fine with or w/o it
02/13/2012
Contributor: SexyRayne SexyRayne
I think you should try it if you two feel comfortable. Start slow though, maybe get a thin toy first and work up to penetration with your partner. My husband and I enjoy it. And if you two want to try go ahead. It doesnt hurt to me but we went very slow and worked up to it!!
02/13/2012
Contributor: Chou Wang Chou Wang
The decision is individual but with proper preparation, trust and patience it's a great experience worth trying. However if your man is talking about that he is clearly interested and would like to have a go with you. There are great books and video tutorials on that subject for both partners to watch and read (Tristan Taormino is the best imho).

What I noticed with myself if I get some sexual wishes denied by my partner I start looking elsewhere. It takes time but happens.
02/15/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
If you do it right it won't hurt at all. Whether it's right for you is something you need to decide with your partner. Personally I love anal sex. I wish we did it more often.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Andrey2052 Andrey2052
You will be contined uses anal sex. But very many anal lube and practice.
02/19/2012
Contributor: MGDavicnigirl MGDavicnigirl
Sex shouldn't hurt. If it hurts, try going slower, using the right lube, relaxing, etc. If you don't want to do it, don't be pressured into anything.
02/19/2012
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
If you're into in, then give it a try. The worst that could happen is that you figure our you don't like it.
02/19/2012
Contributor: tinadice tinadice
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
I voted no because I've never done anal
03/04/2012
Contributor: godweensatan godweensatan
anal is key, you should try it. If done right its as good as vaginal, and adds a kink factor. dont be scared!
04/13/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by godweensatan
anal is key, you should try it. If done right its as good as vaginal, and adds a kink factor. dont be scared!
Not key, and you should only try it if you're interested and willing. If you're doing it because you "have to" it's much less likely to be pleasurable.

Personally I like anal play, either with fingers, toys, or even pegging, so I'd encourage you to try it - BUT only if you want and even then take as much time as you need to work up to it and enjoy the sensations.
04/14/2012