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Contributor: ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
If you want to do it then try it out, just make sure your lubricated and see how it feels. Some people like it some dont
06/17/2011
Contributor: phunkyphreak phunkyphreak
Try it--Use lots of lube and experiment with postions to find out what works best for you both.
06/19/2011
Contributor: lanky lanky
my wife loves anal play. Right now just my tongue and fingers. We are working on my cock. Taken a lot of communication but we are trying.
06/27/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
Yes. Try it slowly you'll like it. Try it fast, you'll hate it.
06/27/2011
Contributor: isabelerrr isabelerrr
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
i think it depend of your anatomy and the anatomy of your boyfriend, i've done anal before but with my actual boyfriend, impossible, we have tried many time, but it hurt to much, so i think that you have to try it to know it
07/26/2011
Contributor: virgomama616 virgomama616
I say if you are interested, try it! Its helpful for me to do it when Im super turned on and already had an O. My thing to remember is take deep breaths and remember to RELAX. If you are not relaxed, thats when it will hurt. And I'd start off with finger(s) and toys before jumping straight to anal sex, work up to it.
07/26/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
Feels like you going to poop until you relax and enjoy it! That takes time, you have to get use to it, right now you are use to only things coming out. You will get there have fun trying!
07/26/2011
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
I pretty much agree with ScottA's advice. Take it slow, begin with fingers, move up to small toys, and then eventually try sex there if you're interested. The ass is equal opportunity though, so you can ask him to try it out too.
08/08/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
my first time doing anal, i was scared! it hurt at first, but after a minute or so, it's pleasure to me! i absolutely love anal now!
08/08/2011
Contributor: fleshlightluvr1 fleshlightluvr1
go for it, but make sure you go SLOOOOOW.
08/08/2011
Contributor: Dr Anal Dr Anal
I love it, but start out slow and work your way into it don't just jump in head first because that is how you get hurt
08/08/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
i clicked yes but i ment no lol oops if u wanna try it then try it i liked the pain
08/08/2011
Contributor: daveysgirl daveysgirl
Do it!
08/08/2011
Contributor: mizzmilla mizzmilla
If you're curious at all you should definitely try it once. Of course be careful and go slow so you don't get hurt.. but it can be wonderful
08/08/2011
Contributor: NavyDoll87 NavyDoll87
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
I voted yes because my husband and I tried anal for the first time after 2 years of marriage. At first it hurt and there was a lot of pressure, but with time and lots of lube, we are now able to fully enjoy it. Not everyone is going to like it. The worst you can say is that you don't want to do it anymore. Just make sure to relax if and when you try it. You might find that you will enjoy it.
08/08/2011
Contributor: callsignhusker callsignhusker
anal can be really fun
08/15/2011
Contributor: acessorie acessorie
Take it slow and give it a try! Its loads of fun. Read up on what positions work best.
08/25/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
For me, although it does allow me to orgasm MUCH quicker than vaginal sex (I have to have clitoral stimulation as well) it's too uncomfortable to be worth it. I prefer a small plug in my butt if anything.
08/26/2011
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's a tender spot! yOu've been given good advice! For me, it's uncomfortable at the beginning, but gets more comfortable, just use lube, and openly communicate about your needs during it
09/01/2011
Contributor: EnMH EnMH
Take it slow and gradually work up to actually having him in your ass. We started out with beads, small toys and then up to normal dildos/him. I think if we had rushed it and just gone right for full on analysis, we wouldn't do it. It's great but takes time to adapt to.
09/01/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
For me, it took a decent amount of time, and still we need LOTS of foreplay and lube to successfully have anal sex, but when we do, it's just awesome
We started with fingering (which I actually don't really enjoy anything thin/small just is not at all fun for me), then moved to a sort of smallish vibrating plug (Tush Trainer Intermediate, to be specific!), and have finally become more comfortable with full on anal sex. I really love it, despite the work it takes, and I must say there is NOTHING that gets me wetter than any anal stimulation! Honestly, it's just absurd...
09/13/2011
Contributor: PaleBeauty6 PaleBeauty6
I really like it. Toys and lubes are a good beginner test.
09/13/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
I adore anal, but it is something that requires care to do well. If you're feeling worried and unhappy about the prospect, listen to that voice. Sex should be joyous and wild and good.

But if you do feel like anal would be wonderful, and you're just a bit nervous, I'd advise,a) starting anal play well into foreplay. Make sure you're already very aroused b) lots and lots of good lube, c) patience, and d) starting with small toys, then larger ones, than actual intercourse.

Good luck!
09/14/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
If it was an option, I would have picked - Maybe, when you are ready. It's a big change, and I don't think anyone should ever jump directly into anal sex. If you're curious about it, try using lots of lube and starting out with one finger, see if you like it, and then you can try to work another finger, once you are used to that. I would definitely do multiple sessions of lots of foreplay, and then a bit of fingering, then maybe work up to a toy, and once you can comfortably take the appropriate size, you can try anal sex. Remember to use tons of lube, and get the lube inside before attempting full on penetration.

Also, anal should never hurt! If it hurts, you either aren't warmed up enough, aren't using enough lube, or aren't used to the size. If it hurts, stop. You can always try again later - you don't want to hurt yourself & your partner doesn't want to hurt you (I hope).

That being said, some people love anal, some just think it's mehh. You never know, you might enjoy it! Just start small, slow, and lube up like crazy
09/14/2011
Contributor: CamelliaGirl CamelliaGirl
Ahh I picked the wrong answer. I didn't know how it worked...anyway, try with toys and fingers first, make it about your pleasure not his, because it takes a lot of practice to get to the point where you can enjoy rough anal. Also, you should give him anal...ie pegging or using toys on him. Only fair, right? Unless there's some deep reason why not to...
10/23/2011
Contributor: emilia emilia
Quote:
Originally posted by alliegator
Do you already do anal play? Start slow, playing with fingers to see if you like the sensation first. If you do, then move on to trying small toys and intercourse.
agree but never forget the lub.
10/24/2011
Contributor: zensgirl10 zensgirl10
Quote:
Originally posted by missthing
I haven't tried it either, I'm a bit terrified to tell you the truth. Let me know what you decide and how it goes!
tried using First time anal - lavender – vibrating probe a few times but it hurt really bad and then we haven't talked about it since. I am considering giving it another try.
11/10/2011
Contributor: Juice1 Juice1
My gf enjoyed it once. But it difficult trying to get her relaxed enough to enjoy it most of the time. If someone is tense and not comfortable with it it can be a bad experience.
11/21/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
I have been with my man for 4 yrs and we are getting married this year. we have been talking about anal for a few weeks now and was wondering how bad does it hurt, how good does it feel, should we continue without doing it?
I voted NO, you should NOT "continue doing without it". Personally, if you and your fiancé are discussing it, you should try it. We BOTH enjoy this activity and I HATE pain. How bad should it hurt? NOT AT ALL!!!! How good should it feel? Equal to vaginal sex, but in a different way. Unique.

I have a philosophy that my years have given me. Woman cheat for companionship. Men cheat for sex. They feel they can get something "better" or "more", elsewhere, so I have always figured if my guy wants to try something, WHY let him ever even think to go elsewhere for it? Why would he ever feel the need to cheat if he has his "dream lover" right in his bed every night????

Well...32 years of HAPPY marriage later, he DOES have his dream lover in his bed every night and guess what, I have NOT YET failed to completely enjoy anything he has wanted to try with me...and he claims the same. If I am wanting to bring some new toy or activity into the bedroom...he is all game!!!!

Bottom line....GO SLOW, LOTS OF LUBE, DON'T BE SCARED to change positions and forget about the classic DOGGY for anal (never EVER worked comfortable for me...I am all about MISSIONARY with a pillow under my rear) and COMMUNICATE.


If you find you don't like it...at least you tried. IF you find you DO like this...or any other activity together, it is one more "tool" in your married life, happiness tool box.

11/23/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by zensgirl10
Yes, try it.

No don't
or yes but it hurts like hell. Sorry I wasn't clear.
Then my answer was wrong in your poll. Sorry...I said "NO" you should not do without it. YES, YES, YES, you should try!!!
11/23/2011