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Which of these two terms do you prefer?

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Contributor: joja joja
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I prefer using the actual terms rather than slang but when I write slang I use the term "cum" for sperm and "come" for orgasm. But I have no problem with either.
Agreed. "Cum" is a bodily fluid, "to come" is a verb.
04/21/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I'm fine with either, but with "cum" there's no question of which word it is. "Come" can be a bit more ambiguous.
04/21/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
I always use cum instead of come. I also make no distinction between male and female in its use although if you wanted to get technical and cum is the slang for ejaculate it is not truly the same, but it has been adapted through use to mean both. When I am writing I tend use orgasm or just describe the physical reactions, especially for females, although I have no issue with using cum.
04/21/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I use cum, to mean semen, and cum to mean the verb of orgasming. However, in the past tense, I conjugate the verb, "came". Example sentences!

I told him to come to my house so he could cum on my face.
He yelled "I'm cumming!" right before he came on my face.
His cum was all over my face.
04/21/2011
Contributor: luvendia luvendia
Quote:
Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I agree. I NEVER read "come" and think "orgasm." It bothers me a lot when authors use that version.
right i think everybody pretty much knows what cum means as to what come means
04/21/2011
Contributor: luvendia luvendia
Quote:
Originally posted by Epiphora
I started using "come" a while back because "cum" freaks me out. I can't explain it.
do you just not like dirty talk
04/21/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Cum
04/30/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
don't care
05/08/2011
Contributor: Noira Noira
Well, someone in the new page needs to stick up for "the word cum is awful and deserves to die a painful death."

I will use the word "came" to indicate the aftermath of an orgasm. I may have spelled "come" where it was absolutely forced in a literary situation. But as it stands there are much better, less cringe-worthy words than "cum" that can be used to describe ejaculate and/or orgasms. In fact, one of the problems I have with the word "come" is that it doesn't differentiate between an orgasm and the results of said orgasm. Someone's orgasm isn't going to get all over my face.

And to stand for my point: my dictionary, when I searched ejaculate, says "informal: come"... I think that's sufficient for me.

To the poster asking Epiphoria, since I share her distaste--I do like dirty talk, but the word cum GRATES on me like a bad metaphor. Just like some people would cringe at "you're a fucking bitch" in dirty talk, I happen to cringe at cum spelled with a u.
05/09/2011
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
Quote:
Originally posted by Noira
Well, someone in the new page needs to stick up for "the word cum is awful and deserves to die a painful death."

I will use the word "came" to indicate the aftermath of an orgasm. I may have spelled "come" where ... more
Bravo! I agree. It's either a latin conjunction (ex: magna cum laude) or a math abbreviation (short for cumulative). Any other use is a turn-off for me.
05/09/2011
Contributor: Dizzykakes Dizzykakes
Come is like.. Are you coming to the game? Cuming on the other hand is like... Oh my god I think I am cuming. It completely looks different to me.
05/20/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
cum
05/21/2011
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
I like to text my bf and ask him when hes cumming home from work...
05/21/2011
Contributor: Devz Devz
I like cum more for special reasons
06/01/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
either is fine but I do admit that cum instantly makes me think of sex in some way vs come
06/02/2011
Contributor: cec578 cec578
to me cum is something associated with semen, so a guy cums. But when I have an orgasm I view it as come. Although, I'm not upset or offended if my guy would descirbe me as cumming when I have an orgams
06/02/2011
Contributor: Ukulele Guy Ukulele Guy
I once heard my mom say "cum" in a conversation, and it still sometimes makes me cringe.
06/02/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
I prefer "cum" because "come" to me doesn't doesn't translate to "orgasm."
06/03/2011
Contributor: big b big b
cum sounds dirty i like that
06/03/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
I usually call it cum.
06/03/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
Quote:
Originally posted by Lara
I don't know if this is me being a prude or old fashioned or a language Nazi or whatever, but I've never liked "cum." For me it's just... ugh. I've got absolutely no problem with kink or vulgarity, but that one word gets to ... more
"Cum" as the substance (semen) but "come" as the verb is what I prefer.

I don't like to see "cumming" at all.
06/04/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
OMG! I thought I was the only person who thought of that! I don't mind the word "cum" I use "come." I think it mostly comes from my schooling in writing, editing, etc. I notice things like that and tend to kinda irritate me. It doesn't bother me or anything and I certainly don't think much of it when it's written on forums or something because it's easy to get sloppy when you're typing and writing all day. I have learned to appreciate abbreviations, but when I read "cum" in a book or somewhere that would other wise require a bit of professionalism of some sort it does kind of stick out to me.
07/21/2011
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
Quote:
Originally posted by Lara
I don't know if this is me being a prude or old fashioned or a language Nazi or whatever, but I've never liked "cum." For me it's just... ugh. I've got absolutely no problem with kink or vulgarity, but that one word gets to ... more
The word cum used to kinda make me blush and feel awkward and shy. Now it kinda turns me on. I love hearing a boyfriend say it and get a bit tingly when guys say it on tv (whenever they rarely do). I love reading it in erotica and I'd prolly put it in my future reviews.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Jess.McCleod Jess.McCleod
I always use "cum" and so does my partner when we send each other dirty texts all day. I think I'd be confused for a moment if they used "come" in that circumstance.
07/29/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I don't like the word "cum" and don't use it.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
Agreed. "Cum" is a bodily fluid, "to come" is a verb.
Yeah, I think of "cum" as ejaculate (either male or female), whereas when I say "come" as in, it will "make you come", I mean orgasm. For me, the word "cum" makes me think of fluid...
09/03/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
For some reason I just always use "cum"
09/04/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
"come" is too ambiguous
09/09/2011
Contributor: Chul Chul
You aren't the only one. Cum to me just looks kind of like an uneducated person's way of writing "come". Not to say I equate people using cum as to being uneducated by any means at all, but just the word itself looks very elementary and sloppy.

Older dictionaries explain "cum" as another form of the actual word "come" and is more like slang. It doesn't actually refer to an orgasm taking place or ejaculation as it does in modern definitions.

So, I think they are interchangeable and have the same exact meaning, but I just prefer to write it as "come". It flows better with the past and present tenses of come, such as coming and came better than it does with cum or, even worse, "cumming".

However, I also think this whole issue is of personal preference and I don't really mind how anybody uses the words.
09/10/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I don't generally prefer to use "come," since I usually think of the more conventional verb (are you coming over?) rather than any sexual idea. So I do use "cum" more, but then we come (ha) to my real issue here; I wish there was another easy, slang/distinctly sexual sounding word to use instead of "cum," because when I hear "cum" I tend to think of semen. So, if I use the word for myself, it just seems weird. I see "cum" as much more of a noun than a verb.
Language is a funny thing.
09/15/2011