my doctor is rather judgemental...i don't tell her everything (tho i should)
Poly and Doctors
02/25/2013
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We're open with our doctors. They shake their head, but they're used to our eccentricities.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
03/06/2013
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This is disgusting- you should have reported her.
Originally posted by
onehotmomma
I've never lied to my doctor. I have had a hellish experience with a nurse though also! It makes me wonder the integrity of certain nurses, and questions my trust of them, and honestly if I ever happened to get that nurse again I would tell her
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I've never lied to my doctor. I have had a hellish experience with a nurse though also! It makes me wonder the integrity of certain nurses, and questions my trust of them, and honestly if I ever happened to get that nurse again I would tell her that we got married just to save the drama!
My bf and I both went for my post pardum check up after our last child, and the nurse told me she needed me to go to the lab to get a test for certain STD's. I refused,since I had just had them done when I found out I was pregnant 9ish months earlier, and my bf and I are completely commited to each other.
Then she looks at him, and tells him he should get tested. He says he's already been tested, she gave him an unconvincing look, like "Yeah, SURE you have been" Then she's asked When's the last time you had sex? he said about 3 months ago. Another unconvincing look. Then she has the nerve to say since we aren't married can we really trust each other? It would be better on my part for him to get tested, and was trying to convince me that since I'm not married who knows what he's been doing, especially since I was pregnant. IN FRONT OF HIM. After he had choice words with her he left. This was at the beginning of my appt. so when I saw the actual Doctor I told him what she had just done and he was like, "Oh..okay" This was the first time I'd ever been disrespected in that way because I'm not married, and I've been with that doctor's office through 2 kids, and many years.
**Edit: I should have added that the only reason I can think of the nurse trying to convince me otherwise, is she probably was reading my chart (which goes back quite a ways) and saw that we used to be in an open relationship when we first got together. Even though more recently it's been updated that I have only one partner. less
My bf and I both went for my post pardum check up after our last child, and the nurse told me she needed me to go to the lab to get a test for certain STD's. I refused,since I had just had them done when I found out I was pregnant 9ish months earlier, and my bf and I are completely commited to each other.
Then she looks at him, and tells him he should get tested. He says he's already been tested, she gave him an unconvincing look, like "Yeah, SURE you have been" Then she's asked When's the last time you had sex? he said about 3 months ago. Another unconvincing look. Then she has the nerve to say since we aren't married can we really trust each other? It would be better on my part for him to get tested, and was trying to convince me that since I'm not married who knows what he's been doing, especially since I was pregnant. IN FRONT OF HIM. After he had choice words with her he left. This was at the beginning of my appt. so when I saw the actual Doctor I told him what she had just done and he was like, "Oh..okay" This was the first time I'd ever been disrespected in that way because I'm not married, and I've been with that doctor's office through 2 kids, and many years.
**Edit: I should have added that the only reason I can think of the nurse trying to convince me otherwise, is she probably was reading my chart (which goes back quite a ways) and saw that we used to be in an open relationship when we first got together. Even though more recently it's been updated that I have only one partner. less
05/01/2013
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I've had bad experiences with doctors in the past. I try to stay away from them unless necessary.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
05/01/2013
I have always been fairly honest with my doctors. But my doctor has been EXTREMELY judgmental, so I've started refusing to answer that question. I practice safe sex practices, I get tested as often as I should, so the number is only being used to shame me.
06/15/2013
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I've never felt the need to lie about number, but I have lied about using protection because telling my doc that I don't use condoms when giving head got me a lecture as it was. I mean, I was monogamous at the time and had been for a while, and I didn't really feel like listening to her go on about how it's unsafe. She'd already told me that I shouldn't be shaving since it can increase your likelihood of getting herpes and such. I wasn't in the mood to be preached at anymore.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
06/15/2013
Of course. Pretty much the only people I lie to are my doctors.
There is no privacy laws here in China (that I am aware of), I was in for vaginal surgery, and while they did the surgery, they took pictures of my vagina and my vagina is now proudly displayed on the wall for the condition I had. Showing pre-op and post-op. The following week at work, it was the gossip of the school that the foreigner had surgery on her vagina.
There is no reason for me to tell a doctor how many partners I've had- it is not relevant to what is wrong with me. I enjoy very rough sex when I can get it, and yes, sometimes I will get a bump on the head, broken nose, strain/sprain, dislocated shoulder and look like a rainbow of bruises... or inflict these to my partner/partners. If I were tell the doctor who is treating me this, I would probably be fired and deported for having a private life- or be demanded to tell him who my partner was because I was abused (that is a hilarious memory!!!). Not to mention the horrible speech of "but you are not married! You cannot have sex!"
It is just much easy to say I was playing a contact sport (yeah like that one works when you have bite marks but go figure) that is famous in western countries but not popular at all in China.
There is no privacy laws here in China (that I am aware of), I was in for vaginal surgery, and while they did the surgery, they took pictures of my vagina and my vagina is now proudly displayed on the wall for the condition I had. Showing pre-op and post-op. The following week at work, it was the gossip of the school that the foreigner had surgery on her vagina.
There is no reason for me to tell a doctor how many partners I've had- it is not relevant to what is wrong with me. I enjoy very rough sex when I can get it, and yes, sometimes I will get a bump on the head, broken nose, strain/sprain, dislocated shoulder and look like a rainbow of bruises... or inflict these to my partner/partners. If I were tell the doctor who is treating me this, I would probably be fired and deported for having a private life- or be demanded to tell him who my partner was because I was abused (that is a hilarious memory!!!). Not to mention the horrible speech of "but you are not married! You cannot have sex!"
It is just much easy to say I was playing a contact sport (yeah like that one works when you have bite marks but go figure) that is famous in western countries but not popular at all in China.
06/15/2013
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I never have -- it's still an uncomfortable conversation, though. But I trust my doctor.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
06/15/2013
I never lied to them, especially in the sexual area of questions when I knew the reason I was there could be from a sexual contact. The only time this happened was when I had a yeast infection that wouldn't go away from having sex with a ex-boyfriend (he was literally that dirty), and a month later (after breaking up with him) had sex with another.
06/15/2013
No. I haven't been asked and there is no reason to lie.
06/16/2013