I try to be as honest as I can with doctors because I don't care about their personal judgements on me and answers can impact their treatment plans. That being said, I've had to stretch the truth. Recently I had a UTI and a nurse asked if I'd had sex recently. I had. She asked if I had multiple partners or something to that effect. I'm an HIV prevention specialist and knew that she was essentially trying to see if this could be something else so I told her that it was with a longterm fluid-bound partner. This is true, but I didn't mention I have another longterm fluid-bound partner. If there was any doubt in my mind that it was anything other than a UTI (which it was), I would've gone in for a UA, but I knew it wasn't so I just left out being poly (my doctor knows I am, but this nurse didn't).
Poly and Doctors
12/13/2011
I try to be honest with doctors, but I've found they rarely believe a word I say. Probably because I tell all of them about my history of anorexia, despite the fact that I am now overweight. Apparently the fact that my weight ballooned after I destroyed my body is surprising.
When I had never had any partners, I was frequently given pregnancy tests. I asked for an STD test at my upcoming gyno check-up, because my ex was cheating on me with I don't know how many people, but I don't know how that's going to go yet.
When I had never had any partners, I was frequently given pregnancy tests. I asked for an STD test at my upcoming gyno check-up, because my ex was cheating on me with I don't know how many people, but I don't know how that's going to go yet.
12/17/2011
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All the time I don't know why, I just don't like them knowing. Unless I'm itchy down below, it ain't none 'a there business ;P
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
12/21/2011
My doctor is also my mother's doctor. I don't want anything said, and she tends to ask about me. Even though it's legally not allowed, it still happens because he's a "family" doctor. So yeh, I tend to lie.
12/21/2011
I've just never had to.
01/12/2012
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its a scary thought, your gynos look of judgement.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
01/23/2012
Haven't had the need to.
02/04/2012
I have definitely lied. It's just too personal sometimes to let a stranger know all that
02/04/2012
A doctor should never judge you
02/05/2012
i don't lie to my doctor
02/07/2012
I never lied but then I don't go to the doctor often and usually the answer is either 1 or 2. They still look at me like they don't believe me (maybe its the way I dress or my age, I dunno).
02/10/2012
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Best wishes on a negative result. So sorry this is happening to you.
Originally posted by
hyacinthgirl
I try to be honest with doctors, but I've found they rarely believe a word I say. Probably because I tell all of them about my history of anorexia, despite the fact that I am now overweight. Apparently the fact that my weight ballooned after I
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I try to be honest with doctors, but I've found they rarely believe a word I say. Probably because I tell all of them about my history of anorexia, despite the fact that I am now overweight. Apparently the fact that my weight ballooned after I destroyed my body is surprising.
When I had never had any partners, I was frequently given pregnancy tests. I asked for an STD test at my upcoming gyno check-up, because my ex was cheating on me with I don't know how many people, but I don't know how that's going to go yet. less
When I had never had any partners, I was frequently given pregnancy tests. I asked for an STD test at my upcoming gyno check-up, because my ex was cheating on me with I don't know how many people, but I don't know how that's going to go yet. less
02/20/2012
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i have lied to my doctor before but it had nothing to do with sex it was about smoking
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
02/22/2012
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I don't see why my doctor needs to know how many partners I've had. You can get the same thing from one person as you can from 10.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
I've been approving additional STD testing at my yearly gyno appointments ever since I began having sex. I've seen no reason to stop doing that. I find it hard to believe that just because you're married, a doctor won't test you for STD's. Especially if you've approved the tests. Your sexual situation doesn't matter.
I guess I don't really understand why numbers are relevant.
03/10/2012
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I had to fight with my doctor's office to get simple STD tests run because I was married and it was assumed that because I had been married over 7 years that I was clean! It took my husband admitting to the doctor that he cheated on me and that we had opened our marriage to get them to pay attention to me. Further it took my openly telling them that my son was not my husband's child AND the Dr. meeting my lifepartner to get them to stop questioning why I needed any test other than a yeast/BV or PAP smear. So ya it can happen.
Originally posted by
InnocentISwear
I don't see why my doctor needs to know how many partners I've had. You can get the same thing from one person as you can from 10.
I've been approving additional STD testing at my yearly gyno appointments ever since I began ... more
I've been approving additional STD testing at my yearly gyno appointments ever since I began ... more
I don't see why my doctor needs to know how many partners I've had. You can get the same thing from one person as you can from 10.
I've been approving additional STD testing at my yearly gyno appointments ever since I began having sex. I've seen no reason to stop doing that. I find it hard to believe that just because you're married, a doctor won't test you for STD's. Especially if you've approved the tests. Your sexual situation doesn't matter.
I guess I don't really understand why numbers are relevant. less
I've been approving additional STD testing at my yearly gyno appointments ever since I began having sex. I've seen no reason to stop doing that. I find it hard to believe that just because you're married, a doctor won't test you for STD's. Especially if you've approved the tests. Your sexual situation doesn't matter.
I guess I don't really understand why numbers are relevant. less
It doesn't matter what you do if you are married you are treated like a child by most medical professionals and they WILL question every time you ask for STD tests unless you hit them between the eyes and they understand you are not monogamous and you are SERIOUS about getting tested.
Often it is easier to go to a health clinic but the risks are just as bad there that you will get blown off.
03/11/2012
use to tell little lie
03/11/2012
i s9metimes dont like it but i am truthful
03/11/2012
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Hmm. I'd have found a new doctor.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
I had to fight with my doctor's office to get simple STD tests run because I was married and it was assumed that because I had been married over 7 years that I was clean! It took my husband admitting to the doctor that he cheated on me and that
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I had to fight with my doctor's office to get simple STD tests run because I was married and it was assumed that because I had been married over 7 years that I was clean! It took my husband admitting to the doctor that he cheated on me and that we had opened our marriage to get them to pay attention to me. Further it took my openly telling them that my son was not my husband's child AND the Dr. meeting my lifepartner to get them to stop questioning why I needed any test other than a yeast/BV or PAP smear. So ya it can happen.
It doesn't matter what you do if you are married you are treated like a child by most medical professionals and they WILL question every time you ask for STD tests unless you hit them between the eyes and they understand you are not monogamous and you are SERIOUS about getting tested.
Often it is easier to go to a health clinic but the risks are just as bad there that you will get blown off. less
It doesn't matter what you do if you are married you are treated like a child by most medical professionals and they WILL question every time you ask for STD tests unless you hit them between the eyes and they understand you are not monogamous and you are SERIOUS about getting tested.
Often it is easier to go to a health clinic but the risks are just as bad there that you will get blown off. less
Maybe it's the fact that my doctor knows my husband is out of town about 60% of the year and just assumes one of us cheats.
I still find it hard to believe that a doctor will deny you any STD tests that you specifically request or approve. There are a million physicians out there. You can still be honest with a doctor while maintaing your privacy. If one doctor refuses to respect you when it comes to the matter of a simple STD test, then it's time to find a new one. People get second opinions all the time.
I just don't think a doctor needs to know my entire life story, how many people we've brought into our relationship or any personal stories. All he needs to know is that I have my own personal reasons for wanting to be tested.
03/12/2012
My doctors generally don't ask how many sexual partners I've had, we tend to get stuck at how I'm sexually active, don't use birth control, but there is no way I could be pregnant. Surprise! Lesbian.
03/21/2012
I am poly but still have a small number of partners, so I don't really lie.
03/29/2012
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I agree with this. Be honest, who cares what they think? If they judge you or act weird, change doctors to a professional you can trust.
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
I was involved with a married man last year and he had multiple partners aside from me and his wife. I have ovulation problems as is with PCOS and have to keep a pretty accurate medical history with my doctor. I told him about my relationship and
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I was involved with a married man last year and he had multiple partners aside from me and his wife. I have ovulation problems as is with PCOS and have to keep a pretty accurate medical history with my doctor. I told him about my relationship and he didn't judge me. It's not their job to judge you, just to make sure that you're healthy. Hiding anything from your doctor is a mistake because if anything happens it's not in your medical history. You should always be open with your doctor. They about bound by HIPPA to not share your information with anyone but you and him/herself.
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07/08/2012
No, I am honest with my doctor.
07/10/2012
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Good information and advice. Dr.'s have seen it all so you shouldn't worry. Nothing you say should surprise them. I know a few nurses into BDSM
Originally posted by
VieuxCarre
I was involved with a married man last year and he had multiple partners aside from me and his wife. I have ovulation problems as is with PCOS and have to keep a pretty accurate medical history with my doctor. I told him about my relationship and
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I was involved with a married man last year and he had multiple partners aside from me and his wife. I have ovulation problems as is with PCOS and have to keep a pretty accurate medical history with my doctor. I told him about my relationship and he didn't judge me. It's not their job to judge you, just to make sure that you're healthy. Hiding anything from your doctor is a mistake because if anything happens it's not in your medical history. You should always be open with your doctor. They about bound by HIPPA to not share your information with anyone but you and him/herself.
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07/14/2012
I cant lie to a doctor. I just would be unable to do it.
08/18/2012
nope have not
08/21/2012
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I am always honest with my health care providers, but I have had comments and judgements made (and then found new providers) lying to doctors is always a bad idea, if you can't be honest with them, ffind one you can be
Originally posted by
Ansley
Have you ever lied to avoid judgment from a medical professional when it came time to fess up about the number of lovers you've had for the year? What, if anything, did you do?
08/22/2012
Lied to a Doctor, ohh hell yes all the time, about sex stuff no.
10/12/2012
I've honestly never had a doctor ask me how many partners I've had. Just whether or not I was sexually active.
12/01/2012
Only when my mom is there
12/04/2012
I'm open with my doctor, I think it's important to be as honest as possible with health professionals. I don't really care if he or she judges me, because I know that I'm content with my relationships and that we're all being safe.
12/12/2012