My husband UNFORTUNATELY had kids with one of his exes, so she is in his life. I refuse to meet her or their kids.

I think it's somewhat understandable, these people had lives and friendships together before

I don't have any issues with any of my husband's exes, and I've only met one of them. All that took place before we even knew who each other were, so there's really no point in me holding a grudge on any of them.

That said, the one I have met has a problem with me. After my husband broke up with her (it took her quite some time to take the hint and actually move out), she ended up marrying his best friend, and put so much drama and tension into the situation that (up until just recently) neither one of them were "allowed" to talk to each other. My husband, being a stand-up guy, was still close with his friend's family, and we went over to visit them once, shortly after the two of us had started dating. I didn't know it until later, but apparentlythe whole night she kept throwing dirty looks at me from across the table.

You can't win 'em all!

I've met two of my boyfriend's exes, one is married and no longer lives in the area, and the other is dumber than a box of rocks. They don't bother me whatsoever.

Nope, it's helped that she never wants to speak with them again. They're assholes, so I'd be bothered if I ever met them

I don't dig exes in the picture just because it's a painful reminder for me of when I didn't have my partner in my life. She's changed the way I see and feel everything, so being reminded all the time who she used to be with just kind of sucks. But it's natural sometimes that you have to deal with ex wives if they share children or have things to settle. I'd like to think I could handle it if I were to be in that situation, but I don't think many like the consideration of their exes or their partner's exes hanging around.

it honestly depends on the specific dynamic between the two of them, the ex and i, and within the relationship. you cannot just blanket-hate all 'exes' of yr partner