We've been married for 50 years, 51 in January, and I've never even considered cheating on him. I've had opportunities, and I enjoy texting cute younger men casually (no, not sexting!) to feel "young", but I'd never cheat. Never.
have you ever cheated?
12/10/2011
no, but i have been cheated on.
12/10/2011
It so wasnt worth it. Should have resisted temptation...
12/10/2011
No I haven't cheated. Trust takes awhile to build and I wouldn't want that lost. Also, I can not stand the thought of hurting him.
12/10/2011
I cheated on my last boyfriend, but ended up breaking up with him the next day.
12/10/2011
i have. it was toward the end of the very faily relationship.
12/11/2011
No. I've been cheated on, though, and I would NEVER do that to someone else. If I really wasn't happy with them, I would break it off before I thought about seeing someone else.
12/17/2011
i have not cheated. however, while doing long distance, my partner and i did discuss an open relationship. while we are currently monogamous, we've both agreed to be honest and open so that we don't get into a cheating situation with dishonesty and infidelity.
03/21/2012
No never
03/22/2012
i have cheeted before
03/22/2012
I haven't, but I haven't been so lucky with partners and their own cheating. :/
03/22/2012
Nope. Never would. If I'm unhappy, I break off the relationship and get another partner ASAP.
I have been cheated on before. It's NOT a good feeling. I would never do that to someone, no matter how bad things were. I never cheated on the one boyfriend I had that cheated on me multiple times. It's just not something I could do.
Side note: I'm also Bipolar. I don't think being Bipolar has anything to do with cheating. Yes, when you're manic it's difficult to control impulses, but your real self is still in there somewhere. Even in my worst manic state where I'm hallucinating and hardly know who I am, I've never cheated. Not cheating is too much a core part of who I am. One of my husband's doctors told him I would cheat on him because of my illness. WTF?! You don't know me, how do you know what I'll do???
The way I see it, Bipolar is no more an excuse than being drunk or on drugs. Cheating is NEVER okay, no matter what the circumstance is. Haven't had sex in months? Leave. Fighting all the time? Walk away. In a drunken stupor? Realize you're drunk and go home before you screw up. No one deserves to feel the way one feels after being cheated on. Yes, a breakup might suck, but not nearly as much as being cheated on.
I have been cheated on before. It's NOT a good feeling. I would never do that to someone, no matter how bad things were. I never cheated on the one boyfriend I had that cheated on me multiple times. It's just not something I could do.
Side note: I'm also Bipolar. I don't think being Bipolar has anything to do with cheating. Yes, when you're manic it's difficult to control impulses, but your real self is still in there somewhere. Even in my worst manic state where I'm hallucinating and hardly know who I am, I've never cheated. Not cheating is too much a core part of who I am. One of my husband's doctors told him I would cheat on him because of my illness. WTF?! You don't know me, how do you know what I'll do???
The way I see it, Bipolar is no more an excuse than being drunk or on drugs. Cheating is NEVER okay, no matter what the circumstance is. Haven't had sex in months? Leave. Fighting all the time? Walk away. In a drunken stupor? Realize you're drunk and go home before you screw up. No one deserves to feel the way one feels after being cheated on. Yes, a breakup might suck, but not nearly as much as being cheated on.
03/22/2012
never have and never will
03/22/2012
Yeah but then I met someone who changed that =)
03/22/2012
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I've never cheated.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
well, according to this post, all the articles i quoted are BS!
ha. restores my faith in humanity.
ha. restores my faith in humanity.
No kissing, touching, sexting or even THINKING of doing anything with anyone I wasn't in a relationship with.
03/22/2012
Haven't cheated on my girlfriend before and not something that will happen. I'm so introverted it isn't easy for people to get close to me so forming a close bond would take a long while. I can be friendly, but getting close to me where you could be intimate just doesn't happen.
03/24/2012
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Never. . . and I never will.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or
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i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or sexting, or the real deal, it's cheating if your relationship boundaries have it labeled as such.so... have you ever?what, if anything did you do about it? did you tell your partner? did they find out? did they forgive you?thanks for sharing.
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03/24/2012
No. I've been tempted
03/25/2012
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you would think so wouldn't you?
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
No - I honestly don't see how it so many people do. When you've decided that can no longer stay true to your commitment, you tell your partner BEFORE taking action on your desires.
Honesty and integrity - what a concept!
Honesty and integrity - what a concept!
03/29/2012
Nope. Never.
03/31/2012
No I have never cheated. You would have to take the idea of what counts as cheating to a pretty unreasonable extent to honestly qualify anything I've done as such.
03/31/2012
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Honestly, no.
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or
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i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or sexting, or the real deal, it's cheating if your relationship boundaries have it labeled as such.so... have you ever?what, if anything did you do about it? did you tell your partner? did they find out? did they forgive you?thanks for sharing.
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03/31/2012
never have and never will
04/01/2012
No and never would.
04/05/2012
absolutely not
04/05/2012
I've been cheated on and would never do that to someone.
04/05/2012
I had feelings for other people while I was with my ex, but never acted on them in any way and didn't want to leave him. However, I realize that by his standards, that would've counted as a form of emotional infidelity, which really bothered me because I can't automatically shut myself off from ever finding other people attractive or desirable.
Now I'm in a poly triad relationship, and my partners and I regularly discuss our crushes with each other. I find that a lot more fun, and it allows me to have a sense of honesty and trust that I didn't have in my past relationship because I was scared to so much as call another person cute.
Now I'm in a poly triad relationship, and my partners and I regularly discuss our crushes with each other. I find that a lot more fun, and it allows me to have a sense of honesty and trust that I didn't have in my past relationship because I was scared to so much as call another person cute.
05/20/2012
I've cyber dirty talked and cammed with a few strangers and never told. We're still together - almost a year now. the guilt gnaws at me, sometimes, but I don't plan on telling him. It was at the beginning of our relationship and we never explicitly said that something like that would be cheating.
I feel bad about it. Awful, really. But the trouble wouldn't be worth telling him.
I feel bad about it. Awful, really. But the trouble wouldn't be worth telling him.
05/20/2012
Quote:
I have never cheated and never will
Originally posted by
aliceinthehole
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or
...
more
i saw a statistic in an eden cafe article stating that a men's health magazine poll showed that 22% of people cheat. i think it's much higher than that. be it a simple kiss, a fantasy world you've created with another, cyber dirty talk or sexting, or the real deal, it's cheating if your relationship boundaries have it labeled as such.so... have you ever?what, if anything did you do about it? did you tell your partner? did they find out? did they forgive you?thanks for sharing.
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05/20/2012
No, I have never cheated.
05/22/2012