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Do you look through your partners cell phone?

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Contributor: Kelly'sKitty Kelly'sKitty
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Originally posted by sarahbear
We both look through each other's phones, but there's no need to snoop. We do it in full view of each other. We both feel that there should be nothing either of us are trying to hide, so we're free to randomly go through each other's phones.
I agree!
04/26/2011
Contributor: Kelly'sKitty Kelly'sKitty
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Originally posted by Miss Jenn
I don't snoop. He knows I look. I get curious as to who hes texting, whos texting him. Occasionally I ask " who is this person " and he will tell me.

He can look thru my phone anytime he wants. I have nothing to hide either.
I agree!
04/26/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
nope
04/27/2011
Contributor: tickle me pink tickle me pink
I don't snoop though his cell, but I go through it sometimes and he knows that I'm doing it. If I ask to play around on his phone (so I can play a game or look through his photos) he'll hand it over because he has nothing to hide. But I would never take it and go through anything without permission.
04/27/2011
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by Purpleladybug
So I was just curious to see if anyone else snoops through their partners cell phone? I will admit that I do occasionally sneak a peek at my husbands cell phone to see who all he has been talking to and what about! I know I might be crazy but I ... more
Nope. I have never done that.
04/27/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I've never gone through his phone.

He sometimes asks me (when he leaves his phone at home, which he does without realizing it until later) to look in his phone to get a number for him. He can't remember numbers anymore, and so I look for him. It takes him forever to look things up on his phone. He can't get a voice mail message. He doesn't know how to text or to read text. He calls about 6 to 9 people. Me, our kids, his mom, and one or two buddies.
04/27/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
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Originally posted by Kim!
No. I don't like my privacy violated and I expect the same from my relationships. It isn't a matter of having things to hide but a matter of just liking my things being mine. I think it comes from growing up the oldest of 5 kids and sharing a ... more
I'm the same way. I dated a really paranoid, abusive man when I was 16. He checked up on me many times a day and when through all of my things, so I am really cautious. It has upset people before, and caused jealousy. It's a quirk I don't see changing for awhile in me.

My partner is actually supremely good at hiding things. I don't think he would ever cheat, but he was going through some self-esteem issues and low libido awhile back and would get up early and go through hundreds of pictures of hot girls on Facebook. He has a huge friends list and there are HIGH school girls on there, you know? They might be precocious but it still upset me.

I knew something was up because he wouldn't sleep with me and would refuse morning sex (his favourite), and denied there was a problem. After his being in total denial and unwilling to change went on for far too long, I looked at our computer's history and found this shit. I'm ok with porn (if I'm getting attention too), but this is girls with real names. Girls he is acquainted with. And he checked them out in lieu of sleeping with me, sometimes minutes after he turned me down.

After that fiasco, I will admit I checked his phone. Once someone gives me reason not to trust them, I refuse to be the fool who was tricked repeatedly.
04/29/2011
Contributor: salaciousrex salaciousrex
He has a smartphone and I don't, so when I need to get online he has no problem with me using his phone, and I do see when he gets a new text/email when I'm doing that. I can't say I've never taken a peek at his other texts in the past, but after going through a rough time in our relationship, I don't do that anymore unless we're cuddling and he's texting someone, I can't help but see it.

We trust each other, but sometimes he'll just randomly grab my phone and look at my texts and pics. I think it might just be more of a curious thing than suspicious.
04/29/2011
Contributor: SoBlue SoBlue
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Originally posted by Purpleladybug
So I was just curious to see if anyone else snoops through their partners cell phone? I will admit that I do occasionally sneak a peek at my husbands cell phone to see who all he has been talking to and what about! I know I might be crazy but I ... more
I would never go through anyone's phone, i have just always felt its personal space, like if he was to go through my purse, i'd get upset, wait he did, that's why im single
05/03/2011
Contributor: Maeby Maeby
No, I wouldn't do that. Neither of us has a problem with the other using our phones, but if I want to know who he's talking to, I just ask.
05/09/2011