The New Intimacy

Do you care if your husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend looks at porn by themselves.

Skip to last post
Set alerts
Updates
Forum search
Contributor: KrissyRoro KrissyRoro
I know a lot of couples watch porn together, but would it bother you if they watched it by themselves ?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes !
AU , Xavier7 , teeny <3 , A Good Girl , sarahbear , vegan.guy , Cream in the Cupcake , SiNn , SexyStuff , K101 , MN58 , Shyness , Pixie5 , bayosgirl , Ilovelingerie , Sexy Housewife , mama2007 , Bodhi , MaeGal , AliMc , Noelle , Shadowed , alayamae , LunaLuthor , Squirtz Starz , Wonderstruck , pixylove101 , JADE76 , MissyKitty , VeganChick (is Gone) , A&M , .kaycat , rosythorn , No-nita
34  (9%)
No !
LikeSunshineDust , Lady Venus , Gallowraven , clp , Crystal1 , ihavenipples , ToyTimeTim , newlady , Mlee , Emma (Girl With Fire) , Vaccinium , Danielle1220 , northstar , Sammi , Morganna , Coralbell , DeliciousSurprise , tits only , Tart , OliviaKink , Rainbow Boy , UnknownGirl , mrs.mckrakn , hive83 , Alan & Michele , namelesschaos , Harlot O , Persephone Nightmare , BluePixi , jakjak , Envy , 34 , Taylor , Crash , Kindred , P'Gell , Tori Rebel , markeagleone , Mr. E , Angel deSanguine , pinkcupcakes , Miss T , liilii080 , PussyGalore , Keegski , toxie m , leatherlover , dhig , Jul!a , Waterfall , plaidpete , Diabolical Kitty , ❦Angel Of Music❦ , potstickers , sweet seduction , Airen Wolf , Dlynn , sbon , DragonEyes , Valentinka , Airekah , Lady Neshamah , VenusianThunder , Liz2 , lezergirl , danellejohns , RonLee , PassionQT , LadyEarlGrey , Lady Marmelade , *Huxley* , PiratePrincess , TheSinDoll , extrafun , BadassFatass , BuckeyeMan , Lio , Moein , VanillaCupcake , RedGoddess , al16 , Naughty Student , NaturalWoman , cobiffle , slynch , boredbi69 , Sweet-Justice , Adam02viper , Cedarlooman , Mattie Omega , Zapples , aBeastlyLittleThing , domistar , LavenderSkies , Bullfanch , El-Jaro , null , Xiel , Lummox , tickle me pink , mandiegk , cherie2188 , oopsy , xrockergirlx , eggiweg , angel142stx , kelaaa33wish , Rossie , idunshire , Miss Anonymous , Lily Night , sweetiejo , salaciousrex , ac0313 , Wyo Daisy , Sex'и'Violence , ~KillerQueen~ , Akira , Scott Ghost , bunny love , newfoundlust , Bellimum , Jazz , ToxicHeart , kokopelli , lovemuscle n cookie , Rocky LaFemme , jay28 , lanky , daniel and frances , sarki , sweetiebelle , CharlieBrown , jjdd , CoffeeCup , M121212 , Sinfully , jesseftm , Elaira , Smitty , CuteDee , skunked , Checkmate , Ivy Wilde , kmm88 , onehotmomma , Noira Celestia , zracer , Marble , Jackol , Reyes , redstarr681 , Shorty32 , Eucaly , Endocott , js250 , CreamySweet , Marziba , EvilHomer , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , Sunshineamine , BellaDonna2884 , SaMiKaY , Errant Venture , Lizzy , mpfm , Graniteal , oneeyedoctopus , Eliyahu , Destri , Undead , Sohotdinosaur , unfulfilled , NurseKitty , LAndJ , Stagger13 , Lucky21 , All His , scottg1986 , xoflxokcxo , glassdoll , Silverdrop , fredacarl , bunniebunnie , Midway through , Mwar , bilovers79 , purple579 , Swish , jokerzwild , Harpina is gone , Anastasia Beaverhousen , Howells , ejrbrndps , plaidvulva , rom323 , Paula , dragonn , DiamondKoala , catsin , Honeybee , CandE , gsfanatic , VelvetDragon , ScarletFox , Raigne , pixxie87 , mlmac , Kitten has left the site , *Camoprincess* , Gone (LD29) , Femme Mystique , Breas , SouthernBelle , toyluvers78 , Mistress Sassy , queergaze , elli , RTC , solitudinarian , pix , pasdechat , Love Obsessed , thisisadeletedaccount , That Guy over there , friendswithfangs , Chami , Falsepast , Sauceboss , lilgrump , Jon S , xilliannax , ginainohio , wes , Lildrummrgurl7 , KrissyNovacaine , luvslukin , Deeder , SMichelle , Girly Juice , TheirPet , quackbuster , Rory , Andrey2052 , BrittaniMaree , Incendiaire , MissK680 , pyratess , cburger , SavingMyself , ChuChii , yummyos , Liberalqueer , Trysexual , Velocity , J5ive , JennSenn , Beautiful-Disaster , gorgeous , spiced , FLIPxMODE , DixieDoo , Hermosura21 , Rainbows , Llewey , Nissa Nissa , Hummingbird , Martiniman , I Am Sherlocked , brevado , Bubba29 , Sassy Pam , brandi2009 , bog , SecretKinksters , marmouse , sixinfirst , Catan , Eugler , JinxPinx , llellsee , libbyv , MsDrProfKitty , sunkissedJess , padmeamidala , charmedtomeetyou , pixiedustVixen , Cinnyree , John E W , ColeDaddy , Adnerbmw , SaucyxGirl , lalalalove , mr115393
294  (74%)
I guess it would depend.
Yoda , ~LaUr3n~ , Gunsmoke , Hallmar82 , Redboxbaby , indiglo , SexyTabby , Lucidity , Misfit Momma , REDRUM , BexvanKoot , staceejaxxx , XxFallenAngelxX , married with children , ud328 , darthkitt3n , C4ss , razmataz , streetshark182 , Shellz31 , *HisMrs* , Linga , VanillaFreeSex , GoodMorningSunshine , Lime , Mz.GreenEyez , sixfootsex , honeybee7484 , ninaspinkturtle , (Re)tired Stripper , Joie de Cherresse , AngelicaU , Lithaewyn , SugarAndSpice , Sebmissive , KsPlaything , MaryExy , tesseract , curmudgeoncat , ThoughtsAblaze , Starbrite , Ghost , ZenaidaMacroura , GeekWife , Possibly Normal , The Curious Couple , Kayla , PDXlady , MissCandyland , (k)InkyIvy , KyotoAngel , WhoopieDoo , Apirka , Kush , Chae , eroticmutt , WanderlustinGypsy , JessCee , treefrog88 , powerandintent , humpday , LaSchwartz , neil i. , Do emu , SadoMas , Dixiemomma , skeeterlynn , dks210 , TJtheMadHatter
69  (17%)
Total votes: 397
Poll is closed
01/27/2011
  • Upgrade Your Hands-Free Play!
  • Long-distance pleasure set for couples
  • Save Extra 20% On Love Cushion And Toy Set!
  • Complete strap-on set for extra 15% off
  • Save 50% On Shower Nozzle With Enema Set
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I say no, but if he did it all the time and instead of having sex with me then there'd be a problem.
01/27/2011
Contributor: Gallowraven Gallowraven
I voted no. we both watch porn, sometimes together, and sometimes alone.
01/27/2011
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
My wife feels porn is sexist, and for the most part, I agree. When I think about it, and I mean REALLY think about it, porn just makes me feel sad, and I start to think that our society values all the wrong things. I'm sorry if that's a major downer for anyone, but I can't think my way around this one.
01/27/2011
Contributor: clp clp
I love for him to! We share tastes, so we also share porn. Its also a great way for us to gauge how the other feels about acts/fetishes. We've found out some pretty interesting things about each other this way, when there probably wouldn't be window for them to be normally explored.
01/27/2011
Contributor: clp clp
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
My wife feels porn is sexist, and for the most part, I agree. When I think about it, and I mean REALLY think about it, porn just makes me feel sad, and I start to think that our society values all the wrong things. I'm sorry if that's a major ... more
Most mainstream porn definitely is sexist and catering to a horny, ignorant male audience but there is still lots made by gender-, size-, sex-positive people that are just as passionate about equality as they are making porn. It can be pretty liberating to enjoy that kind of porn, even more so than erotic sometimes!
01/27/2011
Contributor: Crystal1 Crystal1
I don't mind at all if he watches, as long as it isn't obsessive or anything.
01/27/2011
Contributor: Mlee Mlee
I would say no but i would have a problem with it if he would rather look at porn the look at me
01/27/2011
Contributor: AU AU
I voted yes, but it really depends.

It's complicated. It doesn't have much to do with body types, such insecurities. My problem probably goes to the days when I had a hyper-sex drive. And He didn't like that all I thought about was sex. We had sex then less than I wanted to. I found out that he still looked at porn. Yes, yes, I have considered different things, trying to be sensitive. But I couldn't help but to feel sad. My porn stash, his, was somewhat hidden for a few years.

A few years ago, I felt re-awakened to the beauty of erotic art. I got some old art books out. I loved the new eroge (Japanese games with sexual aspects.). So, we slowly started working this stuff back into our lives. But we didn't get it to beat off with. Truly. It was a deeper appreciation.

My partner probably gets his fix to look at naughty things in the manga he reads aimed at women (it's not really hentai. He likes romance more.). But he doesn't get any time at home alone with how our lifestyle is, so if he feels excited by it, he holds it in and takes his pent up energy out on me later.

We've tried taming things to make each other happy. I don't think our approach is unhealthy. We seem a lot happier than a lot of couples we know...

Also...I mentioned not feeling insecure about body types. No, that isn't the problem. It's the aesthetic I find in most porn unpleasing. If I found my partner getting off to something with the opposite of what I go for physically, I'd feel like I didn't know him. But mostly, he likes imaginary girls more than flesh and blood ones.
01/27/2011
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I don't care at all.
01/27/2011
Contributor: northstar northstar
Turns me on!
01/27/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I watch it a lot by myself, and it doesn't bother him, and vice versa. Most of what we have is stuff we watch together as well.
01/27/2011
Contributor: tits only tits only
I don't care.
01/27/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I put other because it would bother me if they hid it from me or lied. Otherwise...not at all! I do!
01/27/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Actually I wish she watch porn once in a while. I think she would be less up-tight - but alas people who are uptight don't want to see that others are not! Catch-22 I think?
01/27/2011
Contributor: Rainbow Boy Rainbow Boy
I wouldn't be bothered at all. I find it very kinky actually. I think it would be a great way to learn what kind of things your partner is into, and maybe you could even try them out together.
01/27/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Gallowraven
I voted no. we both watch porn, sometimes together, and sometimes alone.
That's the situation with us. We don't even give it a second thought.
01/27/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
not at all
01/27/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Actually I wish she watch porn once in a while. I think she would be less up-tight - but alas people who are uptight don't want to see that others are not! Catch-22 I think?
Ha! Get out of my mind, man!
01/28/2011
Contributor: hive83 hive83
Quote:
Originally posted by KrissyRoro
I know a lot of couples watch porn together, but would it bother you if they watched it by themselves ?
Not really.
01/28/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Vaccinium
Ha! Get out of my mind, man!
Common experience eh!?
01/28/2011
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Not at all. We both do it and it's no big deal either way.
01/28/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I voted no, because it wouldn't bother me. Although if they where hiding it, lying, about it, doing that instead of taking care of responsibilities then it could be indicative of a problem, but generally speaking I wouldn't have a problem.
01/28/2011
Contributor: AU AU
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Actually I wish she watch porn once in a while. I think she would be less up-tight - but alas people who are uptight don't want to see that others are not! Catch-22 I think?
Yes, like your partner--I'm pretty uptight and people who are too relaxed frustrate me. I have a weird sort of pride attached to my uptight-ness! Uptight people, unite! I'm sorry that it bothers you, though.
01/28/2011
Contributor: kawigrl kawigrl
it doesn't bother me I mean maybe if they watched porn all of the time like every day and masturbated to it might bother me
01/28/2011
Contributor: Harlot O Harlot O
If the porn is being watched for the purpose of getting off (and yes, my partner sometimes watches porn like other people watch The Simpsons!), my rule has always been 'Not if I'm around and up for some action'. Other than that, he can jerk away!
01/28/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by AU
Yes, like your partner--I'm pretty uptight and people who are too relaxed frustrate me. I have a weird sort of pride attached to my uptight-ness! Uptight people, unite! I'm sorry that it bothers you, though.
It doesn't bother me - I love way too much for something that small to be an issue. She's very receptive to my suggestions - so we just go with it that way. Would I like her to have an idea once in a while yes - but it is what it is.
01/28/2011
Contributor: AU AU
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
It doesn't bother me - I love way too much for something that small to be an issue. She's very receptive to my suggestions - so we just go with it that way. Would I like her to have an idea once in a while yes - but it is what it is.
You love her a lot, and she's willing to take suggestions, those things right there mean a lot. I wish you two the best!
01/28/2011
Contributor: Morganna Morganna
We watch porn together and while we're apart. We both do it so it doesn't really bother me.
01/28/2011
Contributor: 34 34
does not bother me at all
01/28/2011