I had recently been offered the position of 'mistress' by another friend from high school who had regarded me a close friend back in the day and trusted me not to go all drama on him. He says that his girlfriend hasn't had any interest in sex at all since the baby was born (two years ago), and he really misses it.

I'm flattered, but also miffed that I'm regarded with such disrespect as to want the thankless position of being 'the other woman'. After being with Mulder (who had been separated from his wife for three years by the time we got together, but still had to look after his family with her), I had discovered that I don't like living out Whitney Houston's song "Saving All My Love For You". I would prefer to be his first priority, not the last and when he can find time for me.

I said I'd think about it, but I decided I will turn it down (mainly due to not wanting to participate in any pain this would cause his family just because his girlfriend's Closed For Business For Eternity). Which is a royal pain in the ass, because I want him, too. I did the Right Thing - so I got some Karma points, but I'm still miserably alone with unfulfilled needs.

So, the question: have you ever been the other woman or man? Feel free to share your thoughts, too. less