I have been the other women/girl(when I was younger) on multiple occasions. Not proud of this or anything though. Its not always fun.
Have You Ever Been the Other Woman/Man?
09/06/2010
Not knowingly - I always respect relationships. If she wanted me, she need to break it off with the other guy first. Likewise I have never cheated on a partner - I'd always break it off first.
09/20/2010
it seems everytime i had let them choose me they were hooked up. always ended up the one thy stayed with, but was also the one they for another. so i finally choose and now she's my wife. and no others in sight.
09/20/2010
It wouldn't work for me.
Call me selfish (and Im sure someone will ) but I can't split the attention... sharing isn't my for-tay.
Call me selfish (and Im sure someone will ) but I can't split the attention... sharing isn't my for-tay.
09/21/2010
Lol, as a sex worker, you're kinda always the other woman! Even the kindest men need something different once in a while..
09/23/2010
Nope, and I hope not to be. No reason for me to be, either, I'm happy with my guy, and last i checked he had eyes only for me. (He'd better... )
09/23/2010
I was kinda with a guy and he was pretending to be with another girl as a joke on his friend. So every time we would hang out I would be like you can't kiss me u have a girlfriend. lol then we joked about how im like the mistress.
10/07/2010
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There is nothing wrong with finding someone who fills all the voids or only leaves small areas for you to finish! It's a wonderful thing just like finding someone who can share with you the joy of other people. What makes you happy is always the best thing you can do, so long as you aren't hurting anyone.
Originally posted by
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
It wouldn't work for me.
Call me selfish (and Im sure someone will ) but I can't split the attention... sharing isn't my for-tay.
Call me selfish (and Im sure someone will ) but I can't split the attention... sharing isn't my for-tay.
10/07/2010
I have been...and I am not proud of it... I let it go on for WAY to long... bleh
11/10/2010
No never was
11/11/2010
Once had an emotional affair with a man whose girlfriend was pregnant with their second child, about 3 years ago.
We've just started talking again.
We've just started talking again.
11/12/2010
I could never do that. I would feel too guilty.
11/14/2010
Once.
12/06/2010
I have been. Though not voluntarily. The guy wanted to fool around and I told him I wouldn't because of his girlfriend. He said they had broken up a week before... they had not. I didn't have anything to do with him after that.
01/04/2011
I was the other woman with Hubby but I didn't know it until after the fact. Apparently he was with her before me and kept her around for sex cuz he knew I wasn't gonna give it up no time soon. He ditched her pretty quickly though after he realized I was gonna be long term with or without sex.
I think you made the right decision. Somewhere out there is someone just for you and you alone.
I think you made the right decision. Somewhere out there is someone just for you and you alone.
01/04/2011
Not that I have ever known about. I wouldn't want to do that to somebody so I avoided that situation.
01/04/2011
Not since high school. Back then I didn't really care about such things. There were a couple of times when I hooked up that I knew the guy had a girlfriend. I've never done so as an adult, nor do I plan to.
01/04/2011
I have been the other woman before. A couple of times.
It was just basically sex. Their wives knew about me,knew about our relationship. I was a student at the time, and didn't have time to foster relationships, I just wanted sex with a man, who I knew could be trusted to keep his mouth shut, who wasn't sleeping with the rest of the women in my classes or doing the university experimentation thing.
Their wives were ok with it, as they knew what I wanted, and knew I did not want a relationship with their husbands or to break up their families. Some of the wives were having problematic pregnancies, doctors forbidding them to have sex, lack of interest in sex after childbirth as well.
We had rules laid out, and they were not to be crossed.
It was just basically sex. Their wives knew about me,knew about our relationship. I was a student at the time, and didn't have time to foster relationships, I just wanted sex with a man, who I knew could be trusted to keep his mouth shut, who wasn't sleeping with the rest of the women in my classes or doing the university experimentation thing.
Their wives were ok with it, as they knew what I wanted, and knew I did not want a relationship with their husbands or to break up their families. Some of the wives were having problematic pregnancies, doctors forbidding them to have sex, lack of interest in sex after childbirth as well.
We had rules laid out, and they were not to be crossed.
01/16/2011
I have "sort of" been the other woman- but it was VERY brief. I knew he was going to break up with her, we both knew we had feelings for each other, and we had some interesting circumstances- I was going to Florida the next day and he was supposed to be going to boot camp for the Marines shortly after I came home. We hooked up the night before I went to Florida and we were both aware of what we were doing. He broke up with her the next day. I didn't feel all that bad because they weren't together for very long, and it wasn't very serious at all. Plus, we're still together after almost 4 years
01/16/2011
I have been the "other woman". With the same person, for a long time off and on. It's been both emotional and physical. I wouldn't exactly recommend it.
01/16/2011
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Yup, I have, a few times.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
I had recently been offered the position of 'mistress' by another friend from high school who had regarded me a close friend back in the day and trusted me not to go all drama on him. He says that his girlfriend hasn't had any interest in
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I had recently been offered the position of 'mistress' by another friend from high school who had regarded me a close friend back in the day and trusted me not to go all drama on him. He says that his girlfriend hasn't had any interest in sex at all since the baby was born (two years ago), and he really misses it.
I'm flattered, but also miffed that I'm regarded with such disrespect as to want the thankless position of being 'the other woman'. After being with Mulder (who had been separated from his wife for three years by the time we got together, but still had to look after his family with her), I had discovered that I don't like living out Whitney Houston's song "Saving All My Love For You". I would prefer to be his first priority, not the last and when he can find time for me.
I said I'd think about it, but I decided I will turn it down (mainly due to not wanting to participate in any pain this would cause his family just because his girlfriend's Closed For Business For Eternity). Which is a royal pain in the ass, because I want him, too. I did the Right Thing - so I got some Karma points, but I'm still miserably alone with unfulfilled needs.
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I'm flattered, but also miffed that I'm regarded with such disrespect as to want the thankless position of being 'the other woman'. After being with Mulder (who had been separated from his wife for three years by the time we got together, but still had to look after his family with her), I had discovered that I don't like living out Whitney Houston's song "Saving All My Love For You". I would prefer to be his first priority, not the last and when he can find time for me.
I said I'd think about it, but I decided I will turn it down (mainly due to not wanting to participate in any pain this would cause his family just because his girlfriend's Closed For Business For Eternity). Which is a royal pain in the ass, because I want him, too. I did the Right Thing - so I got some Karma points, but I'm still miserably alone with unfulfilled needs.
So, the question: have you ever been the other woman or man? Feel free to share your thoughts, too. less
01/31/2011
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I never have, but I have had many married men try to have an affair with me and I have not consented...
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
I had recently been offered the position of 'mistress' by another friend from high school who had regarded me a close friend back in the day and trusted me not to go all drama on him. He says that his girlfriend hasn't had any interest in
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I had recently been offered the position of 'mistress' by another friend from high school who had regarded me a close friend back in the day and trusted me not to go all drama on him. He says that his girlfriend hasn't had any interest in sex at all since the baby was born (two years ago), and he really misses it.
I'm flattered, but also miffed that I'm regarded with such disrespect as to want the thankless position of being 'the other woman'. After being with Mulder (who had been separated from his wife for three years by the time we got together, but still had to look after his family with her), I had discovered that I don't like living out Whitney Houston's song "Saving All My Love For You". I would prefer to be his first priority, not the last and when he can find time for me.
I said I'd think about it, but I decided I will turn it down (mainly due to not wanting to participate in any pain this would cause his family just because his girlfriend's Closed For Business For Eternity). Which is a royal pain in the ass, because I want him, too. I did the Right Thing - so I got some Karma points, but I'm still miserably alone with unfulfilled needs.
So, the question: have you ever been the other woman or man? Feel free to share your thoughts, too. less
I'm flattered, but also miffed that I'm regarded with such disrespect as to want the thankless position of being 'the other woman'. After being with Mulder (who had been separated from his wife for three years by the time we got together, but still had to look after his family with her), I had discovered that I don't like living out Whitney Houston's song "Saving All My Love For You". I would prefer to be his first priority, not the last and when he can find time for me.
I said I'd think about it, but I decided I will turn it down (mainly due to not wanting to participate in any pain this would cause his family just because his girlfriend's Closed For Business For Eternity). Which is a royal pain in the ass, because I want him, too. I did the Right Thing - so I got some Karma points, but I'm still miserably alone with unfulfilled needs.
So, the question: have you ever been the other woman or man? Feel free to share your thoughts, too. less
One also claimed that he felt that he was emotionally cheating on his wife with me; it confused me because this I was trying to get this guy friend of mine to get back with his wife.
01/31/2011
not that ive been aware of. one guy gave it a try and was caught by his wife. jerk told me he was single. had a wife and children. she txt me asking who i was and i was 100% honest with her. i felt really bad and apologized
01/31/2011
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i second this
Originally posted by
Kindred
You absolutely made the right decision to turn him down. You deserve to be with someone who loves and wants you, not someone that is just looking for a sex partner.
01/31/2011
I have been "the other woman" before. It never ended well for me, and there isn't enough money in the world to make me do it again. I think you made the right decision!
01/31/2011
No, I haven't been asked this. I wouldn't do it if I was and you're right to say that you deserve the respect of being his one and only.
02/01/2011
When my husband and I first started seeing each other, we were both with other people. He was dating this girl and I was married. We stopped seeing each other after a while and then started again when he was in a different relationship, and I was still married. We couldn't stay away from each other. Something always brought us back together. I've also been on the brunt of being the one being cheated on too, so I know how that feels too. I'm sorry I did that to my ex, but I found the love of my life. I can't help it just happened at the wrong time.
02/11/2011
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Ditto - almost. She was engaged and I was close to it. After meeting we agreed to settle those relationships and reconnect after we were disencumbered. It was the right thing for our former relationship partners and for us.
Originally posted by
Joie de Cherresse
When my husband and I first started seeing each other, we were both with other people. He was dating this girl and I was married. We stopped seeing each other after a while and then started again when he was in a different relationship, and I was
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When my husband and I first started seeing each other, we were both with other people. He was dating this girl and I was married. We stopped seeing each other after a while and then started again when he was in a different relationship, and I was still married. We couldn't stay away from each other. Something always brought us back together. I've also been on the brunt of being the one being cheated on too, so I know how that feels too. I'm sorry I did that to my ex, but I found the love of my life. I can't help it just happened at the wrong time.
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Integrity is a good thing!
02/12/2011
I've been the other woman, but never in any sort of long-term situation. Only ever for like "one time" things.
02/12/2011
Good for you for sticking to your guns. I have never ben in this position and don't envy the tough decision you had to make. I can't imagine being the other woman (or man) would be fulfilling because no one wants to be the secret. You deserve someone who is proud to show you off and wants to be with only you (unless you both agree to a poly lifestyle).
02/12/2011