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Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
Short version: that is SO wrong to me.
You can't "turn" someone straight, as it is not a choice but simply how you are born.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I've heard of this before and have known people who have done this (or tried) but I, myself, would not. I think it's wrong to try and change someone in the first place, so I wouldn't try to change someone's sexual orientation, especially since that seems like a shady reason to date someone!

I am, however, very picky about who I date. I've only ever dated bisexual men and women, as a preference, and there have been times that I didn't KNOW for certain that they were bi, but it just turns out that way, each and every time.
06/25/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I think that it is silly to try... sexual attraction can't be forced.
06/25/2012
Contributor: EdenUser EdenUser
It sounds incredibly stupid.
06/25/2012
Contributor: All His All His
I think the acts are absolutely wrong
06/25/2012
Contributor: sweetiejo sweetiejo
I have heard these terms before, sadly I hear them very often. When I was in high school a few years ago these were very common terms to "joke" around with guys on the football team. Even then I found it very wrong to use them. The guys use Fag Hag a lot I never really knew what they meant until reading this. It was used mostly because of the rhymes I think.
06/26/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have heard of them. But I have never done this.
06/26/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I've heard of the terms but am not/don't know of anyone who does it.
07/02/2012
Contributor: hem hem
Other people policing someone's sexuality is just so infuriating ughhhh
10/14/2012
Contributor: Katelyn Katelyn
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Originally posted by KnK
What? I've heard of these, but I never heard of those definitions. I've heard that a fag hag is a female that tends to have a lot of gay male friends, and a dyke tyke is a guy that has a lot of lesbian friends.

Margaret Cho proudly ... more
I have only heard this referring to people who are friends with queer peoples, I haven't heard the negative connotation. I think it's a rude thing to call someone though, either way.
Just because someone happens to have a lot of non-hetero friends, doesn't mean they are a "fruit-fly"
11/23/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Never heard of this and I don't do this. Sounds ridiculous.
11/23/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I heard these terms today and didn't know what they meant. Because they might be offensive to others, I am going to use the terms Gaygal and Lesbro (alternatives I found). i apologize if this offends anyone.

Basically these terms are used ... more
This is a new one to us. We know there are some people who try to "convert" gay's to a straight lifestyle (mostly religious thing), and we have several gay friends who have had this "tried" on them, by family or acquaintances, but this business of dating a guy guy or gal to "switch them"? Why would the gay partner get involved with the straight partner??? In short, why would a Lesbian date a guy or a gay man date a woman? The one's we are friends with are too honest in their relationships to date a person of the opposite sex (who they are not interested in) and thus be deceptive and "lead them on". They would not do that.
11/23/2012
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I heard these terms today and didn't know what they meant. Because they might be offensive to others, I am going to use the terms Gaygal and Lesbro (alternatives I found). i apologize if this offends anyone.

Basically these terms are used ... more
I have heard of this but i think its rediculous how people are trying to change others because of their choice in who they love to me personally I live and let live gay men and women r awesome and are normal and wouldnt want to change them no matter what
11/23/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
My gay friend calls me these terms all the time. I'm not offended.
11/23/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Never heard of this...
11/23/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I've only heard fag hag used to describe a woman who happens to hang around with a lot of gay men, or one in particular, thus becoming that man's "hag". Never in the context of trying to get them to "turn straight again". ... more
Me too!
11/23/2012
Contributor: wildshores wildshores
the first term is only used for women who want a ~gay bff~ and hang out with gay guys, and is a manifestation of homophobia and fetishization. i would assume the latter is the same, but with the genders reversed.
basically, i'm not okay with straight people using these slurs ever.
11/30/2012
Contributor: butts butts
It surprises me how many people haven't heard these terms before, I figured they were really common. Fruit Fly, Burnt Rice, there's a few terms I've heard for both sides.

I'm gay, but I don't have any friends who are friends with me because of it. I think it's really weird, not super offensive, just weird! It DOES get offensive to me when the fag hags/dyke tykes try to "convert" or convince their gay friend to be straight for them, THAT'S a shitty game to play.
02/03/2013
Contributor: jfree jfree
Yeah, like others have said, the terms are about straight people who hang out with homosexuals/LGBT/queer people more often than other straight folk, not usually for dating purposes or trying to convert them. As someone who calls their straight dude friends lesbros in any case...

I'm not too perturbed by people calling themselves that, mostly because I find it kind of quaint and amusing. Maybe I'm being a little sardonic though.
02/04/2013
Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
Wow. Did not know about this before. But in my books that's just another form of psychotic. Like the people who think "oh, they just don't know they love me yet!" or whatever.
02/04/2013
Contributor: xilliannax xilliannax
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I heard these terms today and didn't know what they meant. Because they might be offensive to others, I am going to use the terms Gaygal and Lesbro (alternatives I found). i apologize if this offends anyone.

Basically these terms are used ... more
I've only heard of 1 of the four you've mentioned (and that's because of Will & Grace)
05/07/2013
Contributor: mdnght mdnght
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I heard these terms today and didn't know what they meant. Because they might be offensive to others, I am going to use the terms Gaygal and Lesbro (alternatives I found). i apologize if this offends anyone.

Basically these terms are used ... more
Huh, I've never heard those terms used in that context. I've only heard it referring to female friends of gay men...
05/20/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I've never heard the terms and I don't do this. I've liked a lot of guys who I discovered were gay, but obviously I gave up when that happened.
06/05/2013