I almost did, but my husband was tuned into me looking for sex outside our celibate marriage and stopped me. I wish HE would have cheated, so at least I would know that he HAD a libido - he never did, he was too bone idle.

With my own situation, it had many complicated layers, but it really came down to just being married to the wrong person. I've always firmly believed in being faithful (after ten years in a celibate marriage, I don't know what else would qualify as faithful), but when one of my college classmates came on to me that one time, I was desperate for sexual attention. I should have divorced (sex was just one of many reasons) and gone on with my life, but I was trapped in believing I had no choice and had to stay with him. Thankfully, I came to my senses and booted him out.

If you have the libido and the spouse doesn't, it has a 98% chance of happening. (He still had the nerve to be surprised, despite being on the look out for it. What a martyr complex.) So, this may be coming from the opposite end of the spectrum - instead of being a 'cheater' personality, it was desperation for something that others seemingly had regular access to. Took me years to get over guilt that I was not responsible for.

Does it sound as bitter as I felt while typing it?

Cheating, for me, is about the dishonesty. Having sex with another person isn't that big a crime because I don't see sex as sacred, I see my relationship as sacred. So if you lie... it doesn't matter about what. The lie is the betrayal.

My partner and I don't need to cheat, nor would we. We have an open relationship. Granted, neither of us really has the time to get out anyhow, but the option is there. We just have to tell the other.

There was a really good episode of House that dealt with a sick woman in an open marriage. House are his team were fascinated of course, but there was still deceit in the marriage no matter how open it was. The wife was fucking whomever she wanted, while the husband couldn't. He said he loved her too much and didn't want to stifle her desires. I remember the wife being really, rreeaallyy upset that her husband was NOT fucking other women.

I kind of wanted to slap the bitch.

Anyhoo, I've been cheated on several times. So has my current boyfriend. I don't like thinking about whether or not people cheat when women like Jennifer Aniston and Halle Berry can't even keep their men somewhat tamed...

...now I'm sad and lost my train of thought

I think everyone is capable of cheating, but I don't think that everyone cheats.
My husband has never cheated on anyone in his life. I have cheated on many boyfriends when I was a teenager. Usually I cheated when I was done with the relationship instead of just breaking up with the guy because I was young and stupid and I didn't know what I wanted. I never cared about any of them enough I guess. It's one of the reasons that I think teens get in relationships way too young, I don't think at that age we're really made for monogomy, in fact I think I read an article that said the same thing, that as teens we're naturally polyamorous or something.

I don't consider myself a "cheater" though, even though I cheated on almost every boyfriend I had when I was a teenager. That was over 10 years ago, I have never cheated in an adult relationship and I never would even think of cheating on my husband. Even though my ex thought sure I cheated on him (even though i never did), since I had cheated on ex's, I don't have that issue with my husband. He's never questioned my loyalty and he understands that it's not "once a cheater, always a cheater" because there's just too many variables in relationships to say it like that.

Anyway, that being said I think that everyone DOES have the capability to cheat and I think that people should be aware without being accusing. I don't think my husband would ever cheat on me, I'm 99.99999% sure he would never, but if he ever started acting strange I wouldn't pull the wool over my eyes, I'd look into it and check it out without accusing him of doing something.

I do not cheat, therefore I do not think that everyone cheats.

Never have, never will. I don't think everyone cheats because statistically, since I don't, that flaws the conception of the idea that everyone does.

Being the person who has been cheated on I know how it feels and it's not a great feeling...therefore b/c of that I would NEVER cheat on my husband and b/c I LOVE him too much to even think about it for a second!

of course not everyone cheat...

I think maybe 99% of the population do.

I've never cheated and I don't intend to start. I'm in a sexually open relationship and I can't stand having to lie anyway.

Cheating is in the rules of the couple. For me and hubby it is anything kept secret not told. Kind of broad, but yes I mean anything. We have dos and don't s, okay not okay. Cheating goes with trusting, but in making our rules we clarify what cheating is, and if we do a don't or not okay then we fess up with a no harm no foul; but if the other finds out we cheated and didn't fess up well...more than unpleasant. So we ask a lot of questions before we do if we are unsure.

How simple is that? Communicate, clarify, and acknowledge we all change through time.

I don't think everyone cheats. But I think at some point in time, in some way or another (whether it's what they consider cheating or someone else's viewpoint), MOST people do.

I don't think everyone cheats, but I do think guys are more likely to.

Cheating is a trust and moral issue not really sexual. Without trust there is no relationship. Whatever kind of relationship people have doesn't really play into it. Open relationships still require communication and honesty.

Trust and honesty are paramount to bond. If you're lucky it'll lead to love. Everything else leads to drama and hatefulness. Not worth the suffrage I should think but I've never cheated either.