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Do you believe that viewing porn is emotional cheating?

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Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Neither of us consider watching porn to be cheating and so long as one isn't picking porn over actual interaction, we both encourage the other to watch. He's still getting used to not getting crap for watching porn since he spent about 3 ... more
It is cheating if he is sexually aroused by women and is therefore not giving her the attention she wants.

He shouldn't have done it if it made HER uncomfortable.
But, since you aren't uncomfortable with it, then there isn't a problem.
01/29/2012
Contributor: Do-Re-Mi Do-Re-Mi
I think it really depends on the couple and situation. If watching porn for the one person is becoming an addiction and they're keeping it hidden from the other then it becomes a problem. But if you're really open with your partner and share the fact that you do enjoy watching porn it's not really a problem. Heck I've even watched porn with my boyfriend before.
01/29/2012
Contributor: MaiNai MaiNai
Depends, but frankly, how many of us have watched romantic movies and sighed or thought "Oh man how great would that be?". Is that "emotional cheating"?
Same basic concept, to me.
02/16/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
No, as long as you are honest about it.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
It's hard to say. You can view it and not be emotionally cheating, but does it really matter if you lover thinks it is?
02/17/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
Absolutely not, porn is just a fantasy and its normal and healthy to enjoy it occasionally.
02/18/2012
Contributor: jokerzwild jokerzwild
Not at all, can't think of a way it would be cheating.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Kush Kush
NOOP.
02/18/2012
Contributor: AU AU
I think "emotional cheating" is a bit much. I feel like that is more of an appropriate term for an outside relationship that has not become physical. But I know what is meant. For us, porn doesn't have a very comfortable place in our relationship. I feel a little guilty digging in alone. People may think this is excessive, but each relationship has its limits, and boundaries for one may not be healthy for another. We are very happy as we are.
02/18/2012
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
I look at porn all the time. I don't think it's cheating. It baffles me that other women have a problem with it.
02/19/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Absolutely not!
03/05/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I have no problems with it. Usually when he looks he comes to me to get off anyway!
03/05/2012
Contributor: Swish Swish
there is no emotional connection, most people hardly remember the porn they watch
03/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
Since we watch it TOGETHER and it is simply EYE CANDY as a "turn on" aid, NOPE. Not cheating at all. No more then watching some hunky dude or gorgeous woman on a soap opera or seeing beautiful people on a beach on the travel channel would be!!! It's FANTASY. Nothing more.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Avant-garde
porn is just a fantasy. If you count a fantasy as cheating then were all cheaters.
Every time you see an attractive person in the mall or at work and spend an extra half second looking at them, it would be cheating!!! Sorry..no way. I agree with you fully. Looking is HUMAN nature. Cheating is doing a LOT more then looking, it is DESIRING and then ACTING in some way ON that desire.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by P'Gell
No. No more than watching a "chick flick" or romantic comedy is.

Porn is fantasy, fantasy isn't cheating. Also, as many people become aroused while watching porn and/or reading erotica, it often will benefit your partner, as ... more
BINGO. Well said. Gee, once more we are in COMPLETE agreement on an issue here.
03/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by SexyySarah
Nope! We watch it together and apart, not considered cheating here!
BINGO
03/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by gone77
Nope. I believe watching porn together can be a great addition to a sexy health life. Heck, even viewing it separately is healthy as long as it doesn't interfere with the couple's sex life and/or relationship.
Well said. I don't understand people that let it hurt their relationship...instead of letting that "fire" heat it up and make it BETTER!!!
03/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
Neither of us consider watching porn to be cheating and so long as one isn't picking porn over actual interaction, we both encourage the other to watch. He's still getting used to not getting crap for watching porn since he spent about 3 ... more
I agree with you, but I just don't see how someone can "choose" porn over a real life, flesh and blood lover as their "choice activity". Makes no sense to me. We watch it TOGETHER and it can be a great turn on...or just background noise and visuals that are still better then CNN or the WEATHER CHANNEL when having sex (we like having light on in the room...so the TV is perfect, not too bright lighting, truth be told. Easier to turn on and off then candles too.). Till they come up with the fully interactive, robotic "Real Doll", I just don't see "cheating" with a non real partner...including one on a screen only!!!!
03/05/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
It depends on the degree/how much the person is doing it.
03/06/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
As a guy, depends. I would say that if you're viewing it alone/solo then in a way it can be seen as that. I don't watch porn, personally though. If its being viewed together then no.
03/06/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
No, not unless either partner is choosing to watch porn as a substitute for a real relationship.
03/16/2012
Contributor: Rahel Rahel
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Originally posted by wondertoes
I think it probably depends on the couple and the person, but I wouldn't call it emotional cheating since there isn't an emotional connection.
yes. Exactly this.
03/16/2012
Contributor: dragonn dragonn
I watch porn with my partner. It's often something we share especially when we weren't living together yet.
03/22/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
No. No more than watching a "chick flick" or romantic comedy is.

Porn is fantasy, fantasy isn't cheating. Also, as many people become aroused while watching porn and/or reading erotica, it often will benefit your partner, as ... more
I totally agree with this.
03/22/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
More people should enjoy porn instead of being offended by it... after all those people chose that as their profession; it's hardly personal.
03/22/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
Of course not! It's not like the person in the porn even knows my particular boyfriend is watching them. Camming is different. THAT is basically cheating. And talking to someone and receiving pictures from someone in an intimate nature is cheating but just buying a porno? Uh, no.
03/22/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Not at all
03/22/2012
Contributor: C-Rae C-Rae
NO way! It's just PORN! But of course everyone thinks different
03/22/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
That depends, are both people in the relationship okay with it?

If no: Yes, it is.
If no: No, it isn't
03/22/2012