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Do you believe that viewing porn is emotional cheating?

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Contributor: Taylor Von Taylor Von
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Originally posted by joja
I think what constitutes cheating in a relationship has to be determined by the people involved. I'd never consider porn cheating, but I know some women who are horrified by the idea of their men watching porn, and knowing they do causes them a ... more
I agree, if there is dishonesty or some sort of violation of trust. Also, if it does not become an addiction or obsession.
02/23/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
I think what constitutes cheating in a relationship has to be determined by the people involved. I'd never consider porn cheating, but I know some women who are horrified by the idea of their men watching porn, and knowing they do causes them a ... more
The dishonesty or violation of trust is only when they're hiding it though. If there's nothing to hide, then there's no problem. I'm trying to get my man to watch porn again because I think removing the stigma and the secretiveness, takes away all the power. Besides, I know he'll only watch it when I'm unavailable sexually. Specifically on my TOM week. Other than that, we have sex too often for him to need porn as stimulation.
02/23/2011
Contributor: ZapperZepper ZapperZepper
Not unless they chose porn over me (never gonna happen though : )
03/07/2011
Contributor: Mr.RightNow Mr.RightNow
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Originally posted by Avant-garde
porn is just a fantasy. If you count a fantasy as cheating then were all cheaters.
nicely put
03/08/2011
Contributor: cobiffle cobiffle
I see porn as just a sexual relief and nothing more really.
03/08/2011
Contributor: lkb lkb
I don't know that many people have emotional connections to porn, firstly. Secondly, it's a fantasy. It's some form of media - video, pictures, literature - how can one cheat on a partner with media?
Personally, I prefer that my partners watch porn if they like it. If they don't, whatever, but there should absolutely be no restrictions of that sort.
03/09/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
I watch porn to just watch porn
03/09/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
I think it completely depends on the situation. I like porn and I enjoy watching it with my partner and I know he does too but if one day porn was all he wanted and instead of being with me sexually, he was watching porn then yes.
03/09/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
My guy is a long haul truck driver and is gone from home for 5-6 days then home 1-2. He watches porn all the time when he is on the road. I think it is a healthy release and considering the alternatives, a great choice.
03/10/2011
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
I'd say no, but there are situations in which I'd say yes, such as when the partner is being neglected in favor of pornography. Because I have a close tie to a relationship like this and have witnessed this sort of behavior since I was young, porn is a very difficult subject for me.

However, I try to be understanding and open about it since I do enjoy it myself and realize that in a healthy relationship, pornography is so far from being a replacement that I would probably laugh hysterically if someone tried to push that ideology onto me. As much as I enjoy porn, I'd gladly give it up for my partner—even though that's absurd!—because the two aren't anywhere near synonymous.
03/20/2011
Contributor: LaBellaVita1982 LaBellaVita1982
No I don't think it's cheating.
03/20/2011
Contributor: PersonalAngel PersonalAngel
its not cheating unless he grows feelings for the porn actress.
03/21/2011
Contributor: Fuck it. Fuck it.
Totally.
Just like how using a tampon is cheating.

Oh wait.
03/30/2011
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
Hahaha, I guess you got a very clear answer. But then, you have to remember who you are asking that question to.
03/31/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
nah
03/31/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
I think it can be depending on the situation
05/03/2011
Contributor: Mary-Anne-Xun Mary-Anne-Xun
I don't think so.
05/03/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
no, but if my man hid it from me I would have a problem with it, he is allowed to watch it and has no reason to hide, so the lying would upset me more.
05/03/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Definitely not!
01/20/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
For us cheating involves touching.
same for us
01/20/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
General Question
I might say yes but then I would be a cheater then so no
01/20/2012
Contributor: Jake'n'bake Jake'n'bake
No. Just like masturbating or toying isn't cheating, porn is certainly not. Cheating involves another person you're actually interacting with on a physical level, imo, not inanimate things.
01/20/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
nope
01/20/2012
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Depends on the thought behind the porn. I watch porn for ideas
01/24/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Nope, but my best friends girlfriend thinks it is and denies him from watching porn.
01/24/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I used to be offended by his porn watching but that was back when I was dealing with body image issues and he was miserable with his job and acting like a jerk for about 3 months. We're better now, worked everything out and he's got a different job so watching porn for us is more a hobby or something we like to do together on occasion.
01/24/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Not technically cheating, but can cause relationship problems.
01/28/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
it's just a fantasy really
01/29/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
nope
01/29/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Yes I agree with all of you! Porn is just a fantasy and I don't consider it cheating! Now if my partner was watching porn with another women I might have some issues there! I was just wondaring though because I have a few friends who consider it ... more
It depending on the circumstance...
Does it make your lover uncompfortable? Then yes, if it doesn't then no.
Personally I would mind if my boyfriend was watching porn that would be it for me.
But if it is something you both want to do/ enjoy doing.. then no.

Everything in a relationship has to do with keeping both of you compfortable and happy.
01/29/2012