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Have you ever cheated or thought about cheating?

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Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Just a general question.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes I have cheated
Jenniae09 , new southern girl , Trashley , butterflygirlxo , sweet sally , Hannah Savage , Phoenix77 , ZenaidaMacroura , RubenesqueAna , nyc cpl , mm4sa , darthkitt3n , barrettbn2 , CarmenGore262 , Willis2011 , LadieWithSwagg , Joie de Cherresse , Brianna91 , Redheadinfla , Sex'и'Violence , Karen Affeldt , CreamySweet , Ms. Spice , Elaira , aliceinthehole , SaMiKaY , brokenangel , bsgs , Apirka , ViVix , PeachieClean , SnippityB
32
No I haven't cheated
YvetteJeannine , Darling Jen , Airen Wolf , Madeira , Persephone Nightmare , Jobthingy , Not here , SexyySarah , Midway through , Shellz31 , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Envy , PrettyPurple , Gunsmoke , iceman681 , Selective Sensualist , wondertoes , Hot'n'Bothered , Sohotdinosaur , DeliciousSurprise , Sir , Liz2 , Pleasure Piratess , Fun Lover , Love Buzz , Persephone's Addiction , DixieDoo , Sweet-Justice , mllebeauty , Lily Night , Yiggi , wolf's lil red temptation , Harlequin , C4ss , leatherlover , Xavier7 , joja , Danielle1220 , Crystal1 , thasric05 , lamira , LavenderSkies , rdytogo , Hadespark , Curves , neon , sexygoddess , K101 , EastCoast36 , It's a Hooker! , indiglo , GravyCakes , Coralbell , cobiffle , liilii080 , cburger , REDRUM , Fuck it. , UunicornN , |Scheibe| , Howells , Stinkytofu10 , GeekWife , BlooJay , jay28 , bayosgirl , deltalima , ksparkles16 , mpfm , chibi1091 , Beck , Modern^Spank^Anthem , Harpina is gone , DiamondKoala , curious kitten , Ice1 , SJ88 , Ilovelingerie , chantalgiardina , ejrbrndps , VelvetDragon , TameTemptress , B2 , Undead , Envoutes , SadoMas , sexykiss , britanny0620 , booboo111926 , SMichelle , Andrey2052 , Lildrummrgurl7 , Nacht Stern , brevado , icelandia , Deeder , Missmarc , potstickers
98
Yes I thought about it
Airen Wolf , beautifulpierced , iceman681 , DeliciousSurprise , Hannah Savage , Naughty Student , Pleasure Piratess , Love Buzz , Persephone's Addiction , Yiggi , wolf's lil red temptation , Xavier7 , Kiwi , LavenderSkies , Hallmar82 , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , barrettbn2 , Willis2011 , Coralbell , LittleBoPeep , Sex'и'Violence , Elaira , jc123 , poetprincess , jay28 , aliceinthehole , SaMiKaY , ksparkles16 , Entropy , slynch , bsgs , Beck , chantal coopette , Apirka , Harpina is gone , Lummox , WD40watcher , curious kitten , Ice1 , Mwar , chantalgiardina , lustylusty , britanny0620 , Nacht Stern , icelandia
45
Not I haven't thought about it
jakjak , Persephone Nightmare , Jobthingy , Not here , SexyySarah , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , Envy , mrs.mckrakn , wondertoes , Hot'n'Bothered , butterflykisses , Sweet-Justice , mllebeauty , Harlequin , C4ss , leatherlover , joja , Danielle1220 , lamira , rdytogo , K101 , EastCoast36 , indiglo , GravyCakes , liilii080 , cburger , REDRUM , GeekWife , BlooJay , deltalima , Teacookie , chibi1091 , Modern^Spank^Anthem , DiamondKoala , SJ88 , Ilovelingerie , ejrbrndps , VelvetDragon , TameTemptress , Undead , Envoutes , SadoMas , sexykiss , MissCandyland , SMichelle , Lildrummrgurl7 , Deeder , potstickers
48
Total votes: 223 (150 voters)
Poll is closed
09/19/2010
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Contributor: kck kck
The fact that this is not a private poll is definitely a put-off. Don't expect to see many responses on such personal questions if you make the responses public.
09/19/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by kck
The fact that this is not a private poll is definitely a put-off. Don't expect to see many responses on such personal questions if you make the responses public.
I second this statement.
09/19/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Just a general question.
Sigel's way of dealing with his guilt over cheating and the pain it caused me was to offer me a sort of get out of marriage free card. I think he thought it would 'even the score' and I would get over it. I knew it would hurt him to take him up on it so ya I thought about it. in the end I decided that two wrongs don;t make it right so I didn't.
09/19/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I've thought about it in past relationships, but not now.
09/20/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I've put a little bit of thought into it in past relationships, but nothing serious. Either way, I've never cheated.
09/20/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
When I start to think about cheating, I end the relationship as I have done in the past. Cheating is painful for all the players and the "cheater" lessens herself/himself.
09/21/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
Not for me. I don't understand the point of cheating.. if I'm not fully invested in a relationship, I'll either try to fix it if it's worth fixing, or end it.
09/21/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Nope, never, I'm sure I've thought someone was good looking or had a sexual thought about someone before, but have never thought about actually cheating, though the thought of me having an affair with a married man did cross my mind before I was married, but I couldn't do it, I didn't want to be the "other" woman.
09/21/2010
Contributor: new southern girl new southern girl
I have thought about it and done it. There are always reasons behind someone who wants to or is cheating. Some are not as well thought out as others but I have never hidden the fact that I cheated in the past to anyone. I think if you are someone who has or thought about cheating you need to make sure you are strong enough to face the outcome of both relationships.
09/21/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
My job is to cheat and to be cheated with. I love variety, I love the little things of people, I love everyone I see. I don't think there's anything wrong with sharing your body and giving in to pleasure. Your body is a pleasure machine that you can give to anyone at any time, but your mind and heart, now there's something special. If I was in a relationship, I'd never give that shit out to anyone else. Pussy's just pussy.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I don't cheat, won't ever cheat, and despise those who do.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
Just a general question.
No, and haven't thought about it.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Never cheated and don't want to. I tell my bf everything, including little crushes I may get on others. Gotta keep that communication open ya know.
09/23/2010
Contributor: beautifulpierced beautifulpierced
i wanted to answer the poll but i answered thought about it because i was going to one time and changed my mind. i love my husband too much to do it.
09/23/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
Never cheated and don't want to. I tell my bf everything, including little crushes I may get on others. Gotta keep that communication open ya know.
I agree! You do have to keep the communication open, when you do that you have a really good realtionship and you have great trust! Very good answer! I really wish I could be this way with my man but he is very insecure!
09/23/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by beautifulpierced
i wanted to answer the poll but i answered thought about it because i was going to one time and changed my mind. i love my husband too much to do it.
....(:...GREAT ANSWER!
09/23/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Maybe it's because my father cheated on my mother - but I just consider cheating to be the lowest form of behavior. Pick your adjective, lowlife, slime ball - sorry, I know some will take offense but I've seen the effect of not being able to keep your zipper up - it's a very ugly sight.
09/23/2010
Contributor: iceman681 iceman681
i have never cheated, ive always(3 times) been the other guy(never knew), and then the guy the girl is cheating on. It hurts and just dont make sence if your unhappy enough to screw some one other, than your main squeeze. then just end it first.

yes i also checked the thought about, because once i found out i wanted to get them back, but instead i just end it.
09/23/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
Never cheated and don't want to. I tell my bf everything, including little crushes I may get on others. Gotta keep that communication open ya know.
Agreed. This is how my relationship with my husband has always been!
09/24/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
dont have to want nor need
10/03/2010
Contributor: wondertoes wondertoes
I've never thought about cheating and have no desire to. I love my husband and we are very open and honest with each other about everything.
10/08/2010
Contributor: sweet sally sweet sally
i've cheated in the past. i was in denial for a long time about the relationship my ex and i had. we always told everyone we were "happily married", when in reality we were just ambivalently living our life under one roof. We didn't sleep in the same room and had totally different schedules. We would go out on the weekends like you would with a buddy.
So, after 10 yrs of marriage and 17 yrs of being together, I finally came to the harsh reality that neither of us were truley happy/satisfied with our lives.

I am now with a wonderful man whom I experience true intimacy with and would never even consider cheating on in a million years.
10/15/2010
Contributor: butterflykisses butterflykisses
I've never thought about cheating and have no desire to. I have been cheated on by most of my ex's in the past. Now I'm engaged to be married to the love of my life who I adore. We are just honest and open to each other.
10/17/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by kck
The fact that this is not a private poll is definitely a put-off. Don't expect to see many responses on such personal questions if you make the responses public.
I'm sorry about this, next time I will choose to make a question like this private. I didn't realize you can do that until here recently. Sorry guys!
10/17/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by sweet sally
i've cheated in the past. i was in denial for a long time about the relationship my ex and i had. we always told everyone we were "happily married", when in reality we were just ambivalently living our life under one roof. We ... more
I can't imagine being in a platonic marriage, how painful that must have been! It's good to see you are finally happy though.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
I'm sorry about this, next time I will choose to make a question like this private. I didn't realize you can do that until here recently. Sorry guys!
OH heck we will answer most anything whether it's private or public. No harm no foul!
10/20/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
I cheated once. And it ended my marriage. Loooong story.

My husband and I had been having a lot of problems, and I'd been talking about leaving soon. He paid me very little attention and had begun to act like he regretted marrying me. Meanwhile, we had set up his best friend and my best friend, they moved in together, were talking about getting married, and then bam, she dumped him. She was very cold and unfeeling about the way she had ended things, and I was sympathetic with my husband's friend. We had become friends in that time, so we started hanging out. My husband was fine with it and even encouraged it. He trusted us. Then we started hanging out AND drinking. That was the big mistake, though none of us knew it would be. We were stupid. So, one night we were drinking, and we had sex. I told my husband a few days later, and that was pretty much the straw that broke the camel's back.

I hated myself for months and went through a pretty bad depression. I felt like the scum of the earth and considered suicide. But that friend and I did end up getting together afterward because we actually are very compatible. It just happened under some horrible circumstances. If it weren't for him, I wouldn't have ended my marriage or have been so down on myself, but he has also been there for me in a way my husband wasn't and without him, I probably wouldn't even be here. We're together now, and I love him deeply, but I would never do it again, and don't think it's right under any circumstance. BUT I am definitely less quick to judge people who have done it.
10/23/2010
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
The idea saddens me allot.
10/23/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I thought about it once, cause I felt upset and wronged.. and like he was hiding things from me. But the second I thought about it, It broke my heart and I cried for hours. I can't possibly think of hurting him without it hurting me.
10/28/2010