Banish? Stalk? Or Stay Friends?

Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I mentally ignore the person without physically blocking them. Less drama that way.
12/10/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I prefer to leave them in my past and get on with life.
12/15/2010
Contributor: misslady misslady
Depends on how it ended. If I did it because I lost interest, I probably won't do the unfriending stuff because it's not really worth it. If it was mutual and amicable, I'd keep him on my friends list because there's no reason to remove him, and what I love about facebook is that it connects me to people I would have forgotten about otherwise and often means that I can get something from them later .

If I did it because he wronged me, I still probably won't do the unfriending stuff because I'll want to check in on how miserable he is without me.

If he did it, unfriend, totally. My ego can't take that hit and I don't want to see pictures of him and his new girl.
12/15/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
It depends on the situation. If it's a particularly nasty break up and I never even want to see a picture of his face again, I would just unfriend him and not care. If it's just a regular break up, though, I would probably keep him as a friend and maybe do a little stalking every once in a while.
12/17/2010
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I laughed at the "Who follows their boyfriend on twitter anyway" My boyfriend was the reason I joined twitter. He got me hooked. I kept following him about two months after we broke up. Unfollowed him when he started tweeting about fucking his roommate. About a month later he unfollowed me. I suspect it was because I was tweeting about World of Warcraft. I basically have no connection to him now, haven't spoken to him in about 6 months. I still use twitter regularly, though. So I have him to thank for that (well, also my love of lady gaga)
12/30/2010
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
i never use my real name or anything. don't want to be found by anyone. unfortunately with some breakups you have to start everything over and change everything. (don't forget the visa card too) its crazy how many things that have to be changed online, it was a process. and seemed like i'd keep thinking of new things that needed changed.

and important to change privacy settings, make sure you can't be found on social sites by searching email address, etc. thought about writing a pamphlet for battered womens shelter for online to do list after finding freedom.
12/30/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by VanillaFreeSex
i never use my real name or anything. don't want to be found by anyone. unfortunately with some breakups you have to start everything over and change everything. (don't forget the visa card too) its crazy how many things that have to be ... more
That would actually be a great idea. A lot of people don't remember to cover all their online bases if they don't want to be found and it would work well for those who just want to make sure they have their privacy settings exactly where they want them as well. A checklist and instructions would help out a lot of people.
01/18/2011
Contributor: BJismyname BJismyname
to be as honest as possible i'm not sure what i'll answer.

my worst break up was just that, the worst. i did all the wrong things. i stalked the FUDGE out of him... he stopped talking to me. then we kept not talking and ignoring each other and blocked each other and whatnot for like... 6 months? it was really bad. i was really torn up about it. so much so that it negatively impacted me well into the first 6 months of my current relationship. Quite frankly i'm not sure i can say i got over him until my partner and i settled into a relationship that has been the best thing to ever happen to me. But after a year or so after the breakup i got a message asking how i was, and we've been able to be friends since. we don't hang out or talk often, but it's nice to still keep in touch.

on the other hand, the relationship i was briefly in BEFORE that wasn't so bad. the breakup was of course sucky but i just stopped talking to him. and it worked.

so i don't know if i can answer. i'm not even sure i can be of any help giving advice lol. i get emotionally wrecked by things like that verrrry easily so. perhaps i shouldn't try to input anything helpful rofl!
01/18/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Lol to the "He's a dick report him as spam!" Ha Ha. I have no idea what I'd do. My partner doesn't do the whole internet thing and if we broke up, I'd probably mention it to my close friends, but probably would either leave him on my friend's list just so he didn't think I was too upset, but then again it depends on why we break up. If it was a bad breakup, I would probably ignore him and possibly delete him.
04/16/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
My first guy I tried staying friends with on there after we broke up. But then he kept sending dramatic messages so I unfriended him. I don't spread the word everywhere, though.
04/16/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I don't have any problem blocking someone, but I'm not actually on any social networking sites. I've had to change my phone number and block email addresses in the past due to some stalking - so I have absolutely NO problem blocking someone. If they get mad then maybe that should be a lesson to them in how to treat a friend/girlfriend.
04/16/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Victoria
Doooood, I have you all beat - my hubby's ex stalks him *and me* online! Hahaha...and after 3 years, she still "blogs" on her myspace about him/us (as recent as TODAY). WTF? Even better is that she writes in the most error-ridden ... more
I could contribute and would love to read other peoples dirty laundry!! It is so fun to read true stories of the ex from hell..... Just survived one, barely!
12/12/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I would just unfriend the person, who cares what anyone else thinks of it.
12/12/2011
Contributor: northstar northstar
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to Exes & Sexes: The Twits of Splitsville

I haven't had to worry about it in a longggg time but I can't help thinking about it after this article. These days we're ALL connected via our blogs and Twitter and messengers ... more
If there's no point in the relationship and we wouldn't be in touch outside of facebook, then I'll just delete with no remorse.
03/28/2012
Contributor: Paula Paula
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Originally posted by Nashville
I rely on the rules of Bitchery 101. Everything is HIS fault- I'm innocent, I'm perfect, and I deserve a medal for staying with him for so long.

Now, I keep him on my list but I then create a fake profile to harass him with, or to ... more
Lol! I'm so tempted to do this to the cheating bastard in my life!
03/29/2012
Contributor: breebree breebree
if its done then its done
04/22/2012
Contributor: ginas ginas
I try to forget them. If I can't, let's just be friends then.
04/22/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to Exes & Sexes: The Twits of Splitsville

I haven't had to worry about it in a longggg time but I can't help thinking about it after this article. These days we're ALL connected via our blogs and Twitter and messengers ... more
Mentally blocking for me.
04/22/2012
Contributor: corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
It really depends on the boy and the break-up. I prefer to remain friends, but if I end up in a happy relationship before they do I try to be considerate and filter what I say about that online.

If he/she was a jerk, however, I will not hesitate to ban or block a person. If my friends want to create drama over it that's their issue, not mine.
04/22/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
It really depends on how bad it was. I could do everything from maturely staying friends with them and never saying a bad thing about them, or, I could be psychotically vengeful and stalkerish, or I could just block them. I try to do the first though.
04/23/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to Exes & Sexes: The Twits of Splitsville

I haven't had to worry about it in a longggg time but I can't help thinking about it after this article. These days we're ALL connected via our blogs and Twitter and messengers ... more
Unfriending all over the place. After all, like I want him or his friends to know what's going on with my life afterwards. It's none of his business.
04/26/2012
Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Related to Exes & Sexes: The Twits of Splitsville

I haven't had to worry about it in a longggg time but I can't help thinking about it after this article. These days we're ALL connected via our blogs and Twitter and messengers ... more
honestly i am going through that now. i left my hubby and ended up deleting TOO MANY of our mutual friends because it wasnt fair to make them choose and i dint want the run back and tell chris what chantal is doing stuff so.. took one for the better well being of myself.
04/26/2012
Contributor: karenm karenm
I told the necessary people that we broke up and gradually unfriended his family and friends who I will never talk to again. And I tried hard to remain friends with him but I'd moved on and he hadn't, so it was too hard for him and we never talk anymore. Breakups after long relationships are almost always messy.
06/04/2013
Contributor: Hipposterous Hipposterous
I stay friends if it is reasonable. If that is not an option, I delete him. The only time I've had to go to unreasonable lengths about breaking up with someone was when my ex became abusive. The ones who believed me stayed friends, the ones who didn't? Good riddance.
06/22/2013