I guess it's water under the bridge at this point, but it's not something I would have been discussing with my parents anyway. I know my mom has come across my rabbit vibrator, and I'm pretty sure my Dad has seen my boyfriend's and my collection, and nobody ever talked about it. It wasn't, and isn't, something that needs/ed to be discussed between the two parties involved.
I feel pretty hurt...
09/14/2011
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you poor dear! while me and my ma have been quite open, and she would rather me have sex with something that vibrates than something that can get me pregnant, I feel for you. That sucks and I'm sorry you are stuck in such a sticky sitch.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Well, for years my husband and I have had to shut up about our use of sex toys because my parents didn't find it acceptable. The other night I was looking through my mum's closet for some masking tape and BAM! Right there in front of me is a
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Well, for years my husband and I have had to shut up about our use of sex toys because my parents didn't find it acceptable. The other night I was looking through my mum's closet for some masking tape and BAM! Right there in front of me is a dildo and a clit vibe. I feel really hurt that they would lie, and hurt that they singled me out when they were doing the same thing.
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01/27/2012
I'd be more mad that my mom was invading my privacy by going through my stuff IN MY OWN HOUSE.
01/27/2012
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Have you confronted her yet?
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Well, for one, I'm married. That shouldn't be some secret since she was front row at my wedding and I've been with him since my high school years. She always said that when I was married I could do whatever I wanted in my own home. So why
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Well, for one, I'm married. That shouldn't be some secret since she was front row at my wedding and I've been with him since my high school years. She always said that when I was married I could do whatever I wanted in my own home. So why is she going through my closet?! lol... I would buy her a vibe or something but I don't want to make things worse and I feel disrespectful. I wish I knew a way to confront her without being disrespectful to her as well.
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I know I would have to if my mom was doing this sort of thing. You have a right to know why she's treating you this way, if she's doing the same thing. It's ridiculous.
I'd go and throw hers away and the same thing right back at her. Or throw them all on the table and wear plastic gloves like she did. That's humiliating that she put you through that. I'm so sorry, you are definitely taking a more calm and nicer approach than I would.
If this is disrupting your relationship with her I would confront her. Keeping those feelings in is not good. You can approach her nicely about it if you want. But I know this would fester in me if I didn't say anything.
01/27/2012
It sounds hypocritical and I would be hurt as well, yet like someone else stated, maybe you got her curiosity up. Maybe she's a closet sex toy lover to your dad as well. Maybe you need to hope that's the case just to help you cope with the pain you feel. Good luck.
01/27/2012
That would piss me off!
03/26/2012
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Do it! I'd be pissed.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Believe me I want to...
03/26/2012
Wow that is so messed up. I am sorry but I can't stand people like that.
03/26/2012
I would be very upset. But I have been doing research, and if you are a believer, don't believe the God doesn't like toys thing. Do what feels right to you. I think I would confront my mom... But I would have to be in the situation to say 100% what I would and would not do in your shoes.
03/26/2012
Thats some bullshit for sure! sorry your parents were being hypocritical.
03/26/2012
I really wouldn't be that upset, though she does seem hypocritical.
It's quite possible she's terribly ashamed of using them herself(and yet also unwilling or unable to stop) and wants to set you on what she feels is a more morally correct path.
I know for a long time I felt like having toys was this dirty little secret and a sin that no one should ever discover, over the years I've realized it's nothing to be embarrassed about though.
It's quite possible she's terribly ashamed of using them herself(and yet also unwilling or unable to stop) and wants to set you on what she feels is a more morally correct path.
I know for a long time I felt like having toys was this dirty little secret and a sin that no one should ever discover, over the years I've realized it's nothing to be embarrassed about though.
03/27/2012
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Yes, they should act like that.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
Well, for years my husband and I have had to shut up about our use of sex toys because my parents didn't find it acceptable. The other night I was looking through my mum's closet for some masking tape and BAM! Right there in front of me is a
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Well, for years my husband and I have had to shut up about our use of sex toys because my parents didn't find it acceptable. The other night I was looking through my mum's closet for some masking tape and BAM! Right there in front of me is a dildo and a clit vibe. I feel really hurt that they would lie, and hurt that they singled me out when they were doing the same thing.
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03/29/2012