OMG, so sorry....

Maybe he wasn't truthful. Maybe he wasn't who you think he is/was!

I sent this in an email to someone, but it really does the best job of explaining what today has been...

"This is just such a mind-fuck. I woke up this morning to find over 40 messages from him, all begging me to get online and talk to him.

He explained that he was being stalked and harassed by someone from his past. I know that a girl he dated years ago was stalking him awhile back -- I spoke to her on the phone, and she confirmed that yes, she was the ex, and that she still loved him...kept asking me why he was avoiding her!

So... On one hand, I do believe that it's possible that he was being stalked and harassed. He also says his accounts were hacked into -- and if he's being stalked, that's always possible, too.

It's the waiting 5 days that gets me.

Of course every man that I talk to is saying, "5 days? No big deal! It's not even a week." But to me, it's 1 day? Way too long to leave me hanging like this.

Not sure what is going on now... just kind of trying to make sense of everything. "

wow hun i'm sooooo sorry i hope he's being honest with you now, i'd be freaking out too ... i just bought tickets to visit my long distance bf and his family for thanksgiving, idk what i would do if he disappeared on me ...

I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of this. Since the ex is crazy he may have thought he was doing the best thing. Not sending you a message beforehand is really bad, but I've seen other men do those types of things in the past.

Maybe I'm a different type of guy, but 5 days is a long time to wait to contact. Most guys probably wouldn't think it's too long, but it's still long for me. I hope everything works out for you, I can't even imagine how much stress/pain/grief you've had this past week.

How are you feeling about this now???

Sugar gliders!! Oh my gosh, I want to see a picture. lol

I understand what you mean about slowing down. I had to learn the same lesson. How have you guys been?

Just read this now...sounds fucked to me. Sure he isn't married or something? Surely he would have called to explain something to you and not leave you hanging for 5 days (even from a payphone or something so you didn't worry)...or create another email address to let you know what was going on. Not a considerate thing to do.

I once dated someone...it was an unusual situation, but she up and moved to the west coast without notice and wouldn't reply to emails or phone calls until I made some sort of plead and offhanded threat. I was not happy. That is no way to treat someone you love or sleep with.

Good luck to you. MY GF is from the UK too, but she lives here thankfully. I know she would never pull something like that.

This still sounds sketchy but it's good that you got some answers. I don't know, I'd probably cool things off for while. And take anything he says with a grain of salt...

If someone cut me off like that, I wouldn't want to be with them anyway...

Interesting turn of events...

Here are two stories for you:

1) A girl falls madly, head over heels in love with a guy on the internet. Gets close and feels like they know each other body and soul and has real, intense feelings for him.

One day she gets an email saying he's been in a tragic accident and didn't make it. Cue hysteria and feeling like her world had been flipped upside down, inside out, and shredded to pieces.

A little investigation reveals it was someone who had actually lost their goddamned mind and felt it necessary to mess with this poor girl. No guy, no tragic accident, just a bored female online with nothing better to do than fuck up someone else's life.

2) Girl meets girl in real life. Spends two years getting to know her, falling for her, only to discover that everything Girl 2 said to Girl 1 was a complete lie and Girl 2 was given the reason "but I wanted to impress you" by Girl 1. As if this was going to make up for all of the bold-face lies she told in the process.

The first, I watched unfold online and I was not involved but if I were to go back to that community, I guarantee they'd still be talking about it in some way.

The second, actually happened to me and it has caused me to think long and hard about what people are really capable of in life. In either event, both scenarios were the workings of sociopathic minds and if you're being given red flags now, I'd hate to see the flags you'd get once you got over there and started setting things up - people don't stalk people for no reason. And while the woman in question may be completely nuts, it doesn't mean the things she's saying happened didn't happen.

I'd still tread very, very carefully if I were you.