I afraid that I taste and smell bad. I'm not a vaginal connoisseur, so I have no idea what other women taste and smell like, but my ex always acted like it was some horrible chore to go down on me that I had to beg him to do. Even though the guy I'm with now does it with no complaints, he still has to be asked. Considering how much oral I perform on him without being asked, it really doesn't seem fair.

This may sound like a weird complaint, but I don't always like how sensitive I am. I'm hyper-orgasmic, and can have orgasms from having almost any part of my body stimulated, or even from being talked to in a certain tone. I have hair-trigger ASMR, which can also give me orgasms besides the nicely head-tinglies. It just... seems like it would be nice to have some work involved. It may just be because my ex was a shithead, but after he discovered my physical limits, he just lost interest. No foreplay, no talking, no seduction, nothing, because I "didn't need it". That has yet to happen with either of my guys, I'm scared of it happening again. That they'll just start waiting for me to get them hard and get them off, with my orgasms being incidental. Towards the end, my ex was treating them like they were annoying.

Confession: I feel that my labia minora is too dark and I wish it was pinker

I have smelled and tasted myself, but I have no frame of reference. I don't think I'm disgusting, but I wouldn't go down on me. Then again, I'm not attracted to vaginas, so I really don't know where I fit in.

My guy only demurs when we've had sex recently and I haven't showered, because he hates the latex aftertaste the condoms leave. But I do need to tell him that after our showers, I don't want to ask him for him to do it.

And, I know I'm above my ex, considering he found my orgasmic limits by raping me. But, of course, it wasn't rape because I was having orgasms . He raped me several times, and I had multiple orgasms in each instance, because it's harder for me not to have an orgasm than to have one. So... I had a lot of rage towards my vagina for not drying up or clamping down hard enough to hurt him, like it was somehow my fault, or that I had wanted it because of physical arousal. I can deny myself an orgasm by force of will, but it's painful and takes all of my concentration.

Then again, my sub thinks it's the most awesome thing ever, and my beau thinks it's pretty amazing as well. According to both of them, it makes them feel like the biggest studs who ever lived when they make me cum so much that I can barely move afterwards.

I'll keep it short, I hate that I can't cum without clit stimulation.

Also, my inner right labia is slightly larger than the left. Not only that but I thought it was weird that my inside labia stick out of the outer. When I started dating my bf and I told him, he said it's so common and he actually doesn't like inner labias that are "normal" and tucked inside the outer labia.

I see a lot of you on here have issues reaching orgasm in specific ways. I only wish that were my problem. My thing is that I've never had ANY type of orgasm, ever.

I've been with my husband for nearly 5 years, and I absolutely love him more than I could say. He's the only person I've ever "been with" (though he's had his fair share of partners in the past), we have a wonderful son who'll be two in May, a daughter due in June, and I couldn't be any happier than I am. Except for the fact that I just can't seem to get off.

It seems like nothing really works. I've tried relaxing and just not thinking about it, concentrating on it, trying to work it out by myself, household items (battery powered toothbrushes/electric razors/hairbrush handles/body massagers), and toys built for sex play. We've tried PIV, anal, oral, 69, fingerbanging, every position the two of us can physically manage, being tied up, in bed, on the floor, on a couch, in the tub/shower, and even the bathroom sink. Nothing.

A lot of times I even have a hard time telling if there's anything even down there. It makes me feel terrible when I'm on top and I have to ask him repeatedly if it's in, simply because I can't feel it. I have no history of abuse (of any kind), so I have no idea why I have such a hard time.

Every now and then though, it does start to feel okay. It just takes FOREVER (I'm talking close to an hour) and seems that as soon as I start to get a good buzz on I do something stupid to cause my (by then exhausted) husband to drop, whether it's unintentionally saying something funny and making him laugh, or accidentally hitting him in the balls or something.

To make matters worse, the time I believe I came the closest to getting anywhere was forever ruined in my memory because I think it caused me to miscarry our second child, (I had taken a pregnancy test a few weeks before and gotten a positive result; we were both stoked). But after about 45-50 minutes of the only really good sex I've had, I turned the light on to get cleaned up only to find myself and the bedsheets covered in blood. I still had bouts of morning sickness for weeks afterwards, so at first I figured it was just superficial. Then at my OB appointment we found out the worst. While I have the best doctor in the world who couldn't reiterate enough that it wasn't our fault, and sometimes these things just happened, I still live with the guilt that I killed our baby, all because I wanted to get off. It's not easy to live with.

My husband knows about my problem, and couldn't be any more supportive. He was the one who originally talked me into trying out different toys, and has even said he'd go with me to a therapist if that is what it takes. I know it shouldn't bother me that much, but I'm constantly reminded of it, and more and more it's making me depressed. I just can't help but think sometimes that I'm a bad wife for not being able to properly enjoy it, and that he deserves someone who can better appreciate it than me.

my boyfriend says that birth control made me less sensitive in bed

My clitoris doesn't do much. It never has. I have to have some kind of internal stimulation to orgasm (except below condition). I had my first orgasm when I was 13 and after I found out this wasn't normal I bought my first vibrator thinking that would do it for me... no luck. Clitoral stimulation feels nice, but it just makes me twitch and gets me nowhere near orgasm. I feel like this "special gift" is wasted on me because I'm gay and I know tons of straight women who would love to have my "problem." It also causes me to feel vulnerable and abnormal because I'm supposed to be "impenetrable" because I'm not a femme.

I spontaneously orgasm. I don't have a severe case where just a breeze will make me come... but it's annoying sometimes. It's not fun to have to fight it off in public. It makes me feel like a freak.

I have a little mole on my labia minoris (sp? not actually sure what the singular is). It doesn't bother me too much, but I don't particularly like it.

In the vicinity: I don't like my upper thighs. The lower parts are fine, but the upper parts are just flabby and stretch-marked and look a thousand times better covered up. This makes swimming a pain. I'm a healthy weight and I doubt they'll ever look better. I wish I had my pre-puberty thighs.

I have tons..
To a lesser extent, I'm a little worried any given partner won't like the way I taste/smell. This hasn't been an issue yet (so far, the opposite actually, which is nice) but I honestly dislike how I taste. Smell, whatever I really don't care, but I definitely wouldn't go down on myself..

Next, I honestly can't orgasm with a partner. I try. It's a chore, it's only happened twice, years ago. My first ex gave me a complex about it too, since even though he COULD get me off, he never wanted to because it was so much work. So that created some serious insecurities on top of everything else...

I also totally hate queefing >.< This isn't a huge issue, but it's so annoying and completely unsexy.
But the orgasm issue is the biggest one. Sucks.

#1- I hate that it's so easy for guys to cum during sex and I have to touch myself to get off.
#2- I have to take anxiety meds which makes having an Orgasm take longer sometimes a lot longer.
#3- I have a high sexual apatite that gets in the way sometimes, My hubby just can't keep up. Which adds to my frustration level. (I don't blame my hubby, he's really great)
#4- ever since having kids my pussy lips are darker in color.
#5- I don't get off from Oral sex

I have to do this, because I hate seeing women down on themselves.

You are all BEAUTIFUL. EVERY PART OF YOU. Your individual parts make up you as a whole!


Love yourselves!

I was always ashamed of my body even 5'9" and 145 lbs I was very self-conscious because I was well endowed. Something my elders always like to take note of verbally. As a result I came to believe my body was not beautiful and when dating time came around men always wanted to touch my breasts I was always uncomfortable.

As a result I gained weight and while I've been on many diets never got down to 145 again. It has taken me almost 40 years (I'm 59) and now approx 180 lbs still 5'9" to not dislike my body. The only problem now is because I'm older and have been less sexually active until last year, I don't O as easy during oral. It is only the toys that stimulate my clit enough. As far as vaginal O's, that has never happened during sex and finally at long last I've come to learn not every woman can, so at least I'm not the odd one out.

I'm not a super model or even the pretty neighbor next door, I have a belly and if I don't hold it in I look pregnant. In clothes especially snug ones and now that it is winter with sweaters my body looks bigger still. But at night alone with my partner, he lays out what he prefers to see me in. It's never the ones that hide my bulges but one that displays every single lump. It turns him on for some unknown reason and because it does it turns me on too. O's are still difficult for me even when we're together but not for him and it makes me happy I'm the shape I'm in. He loves it so now I do too!

I'm 22 years old, 5'4'' and weight about 320lbs so I'm very fat. I have no self esteem whatsoever, I have never felt pretty not once in my life. I don't believe anyone could be attracted to me. About a year ago I discovered size acceptance and inspirational stuff about loving your body but I still struggle.

Anyway, I'm 320lb while my boyfriend is a twig. Intimacy is not the best because I'm full of insecurities and I feel like an elephant trying to have sex with an impala. And no, my boyfriend isn't even into fat girls. He never compliments my body, he never tells me I'm sexy, I'm always the one begging for intimacy, it's pitiful. When we are about to be intimate, I seem to ruin everything with my weight, insecurities. When he's playing with my nipples, I have NO sensitivities, maybe because it's a mental thing and I feel like I'm so ugly and disgusting, there is nothing arousing about me, not even my ugly small saggy boobs. My boobs are small even though the rest of my body is gigantic. I don't fit in any lingeries so far. I've wasted hard earned $100 worth of Eden points getting myself nice lingeries to help me feel better about myself, but nothing fit. Because I have a huge body and small boobs, it seems lingeries that fit my fat body don't fit my boobs and if it fits my boobs, it won't fit my body. Even if I were to show myself wearing lingerie to my boyfriend, I doubt he would find me attractive.

Anyway, when we are trying to be intimate physically, I don't feel anything on my nipples, just discomfort. I just lie there and I don't feel any pleasure at all. My boyfriend is the total opposite, he's extremely sensitive all over while I'm so numbed. He bought me a vibrator, he probably fantasized that we would have a wild night and I ruined it. I didn't feel anything. Or maybe it wasn't a very good vibrator for me although it was high quality. My clit is sensitive I suppose, I can have quick and multiple orgasms just touching myself for a minute or two but unfortunately my clit orgasms are pathetic and dull, not satisfying.

I'm still a virgin. I bought a very thin dildo (The Slim). I tried a dozen times now to insert it and no matter what I do, I can't insert it further than an inch. I feel like I fail at everything I try. When I tried having sex for the first time with my boyfriend (virgin as well), it was utterly disappointing but I understand since it was our first time trying. The most that frustrated me was my fatness, I felt like I couldn't spread my legs enough, I tried spreading my legs and my legs hurt, I felt like I was going to disjoint my leg. I think it was because of my fat thighs, it was like my thighs were so thick that maybe my boyfriend couldn't even get between me. I'm also frustrated that I fantasize and dream about being the "girl on top" and acting wild and free during sex but my fatness and insecurities make me want to just hide in a hole underground and not be seen by anyone. I'm 320lbs and my boyfriend is a twig of a stick. He fantasizes about "girl on top" and crazy positions that I just can't do with my weight.

I feel like such a failure. No matter what I do I fail at everything. Even buying lingerie to try to help my own self esteem, I fail because nothing fit and I was looking forward the lingerie I got and now I can't ever wear them. One lingerie I was looking forward to getting, when I was finally able to buy it, it was literally the last one in stock and I ended up getting a medium size because the reviews said to only get it by bust size and that as long as it fit your bust, it would drape over your tummy. Okay, so I got the medium because that was my bust size. Yeah, the cup fits but it doesn't fit my ribcage or anything else. The frame was made for small breasted petite women and I'll never be able to wear that lingerie.

I always feel envious when I read girls saying,"My partner LOVES my body! He tells me I'm sexy all the time. I turn him on." my boyfriend never compliments me or says anything like that. It seems he only does it AFTER I get upset and whine about it which doesn't help because then it doesn't feel sincere when he does say it (again, only after I whine about it).

I get frustrated whenever I read the reviews on Eden and read girl's experience about how they wore a lingerie and drove their partner WILD with lust. I feel depressed whenever I read those descriptions because I feel like no matter what I do, nobody not even my own boyfriend will ever feel anything about my body attractive. I also get annoyed and envious when I read reviews describing the wild sex they had with their partners, trying out sex toys and stuff. I have a high sex drive, I want sex, I want A LOT of sex, I want to have a great and wild sex life but I feel like my boyfriend is happy not having sex, period. Whenever I mention that I'm aroused or I mention that I want to be intimate, he just gives me an awkward silent treatment. Not a response I want to get. It kills my self esteem even more. Makes me feel extremely unwanted. (Although in a hopeful note, these things I encounter mostly online when we're physically apart but when we're physically together, it seems to be easier for him to feel aroused with me).

I often argue with him about the lack of intimacy because months can go by and he doesn't support me enough, doesn't support my needs. We're in a long distance relationship which makes intimacy even harder but other couples don't seem to have a problem using webcam and sending photos and things like that so why is it so impossible in our relationship? I feel like it's my fatness that ruins everything, maybe he's just not attracted to me. I want to be intimate with him, even if it's just a chat or webcam or sending photos or whatever but he always acts so uninterested. Yet I'm sure that if a skinny girl walks past him, he'll easily want to f**k her brains out yet with me, it just seems awkward and like the sexual compatibility isn't there. I always feel like it's my fatness and lack of self esteem that's the reason I feel so unfulfilled.

I just got my first assignment as an advanced reviewer (a piece of lingerie). I was excited picking it out and requesting it but now that I've gotten it and stared at the model I'm terrified it's going to look awful and my boyfriend is going to laugh at me when I show it to him.

I'm 4'11'' and have DD breasts, since they're so large they are not perky which I always think is a turn off for all men (and myself). Also I'm have a few extra pounds on me and I'm afraid the straps are going to cut into my hips making me look bulgy and gross.