We're so similar! I confess that I don't enjoy oral either. Some men are into it and insist on doing it. Then I lie there mentally rapping my fingers on a table thinking "Are you done yet?" Even with men who are talented and vacuum-cleaner-like, its not enough for me.

The clitoral nubs of rabbits usually overshoot their mark on me too. You might like the Jopen Vr6. That one fits women like us.

This thread is quite therapeutic for me. less

OMG GREAT THREAD!!!

Alright, here goes!

I love my man, he can make me squirt like a firehose and he can make me orgasm during sex. But for whatever reason, I can't orgasm for oral.

We rarely have oral because I am so self conscious of my lady bits. I'm afraid I stink or taste bad. Ever since I got my UTI I have been having more vaginal secretions, sometimes it looks like a vaginal infection but it doesn't itch and there isn't any redness. It tastes horribly sour. So I often tell him not to give me oral in fear that I will taste gross. But I wish I was getting more oral.

I offer my guy blowjobs like crazy, everyday he gets at least one to two blowjob offers(it is not an exageration). I am a crazy giver I guess. But I wish my guy would put himself out there more often. I know he is tired but I hope once he is in better shape he will be able to offer me oral more often instead of me initiating or requesting it.

He has been more patient and more giving in the past few months but he has yet been able to bring me to orgasm through oral. He once spent one hour fingering me and stroking my clit. My thighs were shaking uncontrolably, it was so good but I was never able to get over the hill to "O" land.

I so wish I was able to orgasm this way. My guy is getting more and more patient but damn it's hard. I wish I had a magic orgasm button he could push after a few minutes of oral. It would make things so much simpler.

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Add me in too! I've never been big on oral stimulation. It just doesn't bring that much pleasure to me. I have friends who can only have an orgasm that way. I've never had one from oral! I thought maybe something was wrong with me because every woman I know loves it and I, like you Tuesday, am usually ticking off the moments waiting for penetration to start! less

To tell you the truth, I don't like my vagina all that much. I don't think it's weird, because most people don't like people who hurt them, and my vagina gives me so much pain, so often, that it¡'s only natural that I'd grow to resent it.

You see, I'm built rather small down there. So small, than anything bigger than a finger or two makes penetration incredibly difficult and excrutiantingly painful. Doctors call this dyspareunia and alternate between telling me it's all in my head and threatening to open it up surgically to see if that would improve matters...

But surgery may even make things worse, since in some cases, surgical scarring can cause even MORE pain.

It's not a problem for me when I'm marturbating, since I concentrate mostly on my clitoris anyway, and if I want to be penetrated there's always anal or thin and soft dildos that won't hurt me, but as soon as I try to share my bed with a guy things get nasty. Very few men are willing to accept that they can't have penetrative sex with me and don't seem to grasp how much it actually hurts me when I inevitably give up and let them have a go. No matter how often I tell them that if we're going to do this, it's going to have to be SUPER SLOW AND GENTLE, they always end up forgetting themselves and thrusting happily away, thinking that it's only painful at the beginning, or something.

I wish I could fix this somehow, and I've made some progress with vaginal dilators, but not as much as would be needed to have painless vaginal sex with a guy.

Needless to say, I've never been able to orgasm with just vaginal stimulation alone. Why can't guys be happy with just frotting and oral? Why is it that intercourse is so important to everybody that I'm considered a freak because I can't have it? less

I am SO sorry to hear that. And I'm not sorry about the vagina you were born with - there's nothing 'wrong' with how you are even though it may be inconvenient. You're not a freak and you can enjoy sex and intimacy just as well as any other woman!

What I'm sorry about is how insecure it's made you and about how a lot of men are total jack asses!!! Most men are really only concerned with their own pleasure and could give a damn about the woman involved. (Not all, just most in our culture. It's safe to say most men on this site would be the exception. ) The percentage of women who orgasm during sex would be a lot higher if they did. But then a lot of them are so absolutely arrogant that they think THEY are the cure for whatever issues you have with sex. Ugh! I'm surprised you haven't kneed one in the balls and asked him how that feels. less

Thanks for the support! It's hard to talk about these things with most people I know, which is why I'm trying to be more open about these things in accepting communities such as this one...

Whenever I'm dating a guy, I always dread the moment things get hot and clothes start to fall off and I need to put the breaks on and tell him there are limits to what we can do... it's not always well-accepted or understood.

It's easier, in a way, to date women, because they're generally more understanding about it and not all of them are big fans of penetration themselves, but although I'm bisexual leaning on pan, I still am more primarily attracted to men. And men *are* big fans of penetration, as a rule. -_-

Im starting to think there should be a mutual penetra`tion agreement. You can penetrate me as long as I can do the same to you (the joys of harness play!). How careful I am the second time will be directly proportional to how careful *you* were. That might make them think twice about being careless and causing me pain, methinks. XD less

I have a confession. I'm horribly ashamed of my body and getting naked in front of my partner is embarrassing. I'm secretly terrified that he'll turn away one day in disgust because I'm fat and I can't seem to do anything to get the weight off. Having PCOS keeps me in a perpetual state of being overweight and it's insanely hard for me to lose weight even when people tell me just to "diet and exercise more." It doesn't work like that and I'm horrified whenever I feel my stomach fat jiggle when he fucks me.

It's horrible. I broke down and cried about it the other day with him. He told me he thinks I'm beautiful, but I don't feel beautiful. I feel like an ugly fat slob and it's starting to really mess with me emotionally and mentally. less

I have a confession--I hate my ass! It is huge! I started calling it my own little state as a joke but I really mean it. I think that everyone has issues with there bodies I know that I have many. I am happy that my husband loves me for every inch I have. I wish I could see what he sees. I just see fat and ugly. less

I love this thread. It's so nice to not feel alone in feeling a certain way.

I feel like my labia are too large, though in reality I know I'm normal.

I have difficulty orgasming from penetration only, and it can take a LONG time.

I have trouble enjoying oral when I can't get my thoughts to just leave me alone, I'm always worried about how I smell even if I've just had a shower (my husband has never complained, and I know everything is just fine down there)...

If I get too much clitoral stimulation, it's over for me. I can be almost there, but if the stimulation changes or stops and then starts again differently, it can end up being uncomfortable and too much. I can't seem to orgasm at all once I've had too much, it just becomes uncomfortable to be touched. That is super frustrating...I don't even know if that makes any sense to anyone but me.

I worry about my weight, I too have PCOS. My husband is a fitness nut. He is always working out and I feel so inadequate sometimes next to him. It's all me though, he never says anything.

I worry about my scarring. From giving birth (episiotomy with #1, tearing with #2). Stretch marks from my pregnancies. Amazingly I even have one from delivering my first child, right down the mons. It's kinda funny, like a lightning bolt, haha...but it bothers me, though I'm probably the only one who notices it.

Typing all of that out makes me feel like a MESS. less

I love this thread. It's so nice to not feel alone in feeling a certain way.

I feel like my labia are too large, though in reality I know I'm normal.

I have difficulty orgasming from penetration only, and it can take a LONG time.

I have trouble enjoying oral when I can't get my thoughts to just leave me alone, I'm always worried about how I smell even if I've just had a shower (my husband has never complained, and I know everything is just fine down there)...

If I get too much clitoral stimulation, it's over for me. I can be almost there, but if the stimulation changes or stops and then starts again differently, it can end up being uncomfortable and too much. I can't seem to orgasm at all once I've had too much, it just becomes uncomfortable to be touched. That is super frustrating...I don't even know if that makes any sense to anyone but me.

I worry about my weight, I too have PCOS. My husband is a fitness nut. He is always working out and I feel so inadequate sometimes next to him. It's all me though, he never says anything.

I worry about my scarring. From giving birth (episiotomy with #1, tearing with #2). Stretch marks from my pregnancies. Amazingly I even have one from delivering my first child, right down the mons. It's kinda funny, like a lightning bolt, haha...but it bothers me, though I'm probably the only one who notices it.

Typing all of that out makes me feel like a MESS. less

Thanks for the support! It's hard to talk about these things with most people I know, which is why I'm trying to be more open about these things in accepting communities such as this one...

Whenever I'm dating a guy, I always dread the moment things get hot and clothes start to fall off and I need to put the breaks on and tell him there are limits to what we can do... it's not always well-accepted or understood.

It's easier, in a way, to date women, because they're generally more understanding about it and not all of them are big fans of penetration themselves, but although I'm bisexual leaning on pan, I still am more primarily attracted to men. And men *are* big fans of penetration, as a rule. -_-

Im starting to think there should be a mutual penetra`tion agreement. You can penetrate me as long as I can do the same to you (the joys of harness play!). How careful I am the second time will be directly proportional to how careful *you* were. That might make them think twice about being careless and causing me pain, methinks. XD less

I am not an anorexic girl. I am larger than the average norm of "real" sized girls. This to me is embarrassing. Especially my thighs, I feel like they are huge and that is the most embarrassing thing of all. Sure, guys look at me, but I think to myself 'yeah and are they still going to look when I get naked?'. I am pretty insecure about my body. Oh, and have I mentioned that I am only 5"5'? Yeah, I'm that "short fat" girl that skinny girl refer to. And, I'm built just like my mom (who is taller than me by the way so it's going to be worse on me) who, when pregnant, has a huge ass and hips. That said, I really want kids but I know I am going to be even more insecure when that time rolls around because I know I am going to get way bigger, and remember to put that weight on a short person.

I can squirt (sometimes) but when I do it's more of a puddle than a squirt.

It feels really good to say all of this, to get it off my chest. The best part of all, no one here knows me so it feels great to be able to say all of this and feel like I am not going to be judged. less

Ummm, why the eff did this thread ever stop?! I'm bloody crying up here in Canada! This promises to be a long post...

Confession number one, I am self conscious of my vagina for two reasons, one is that my inner lips are drastically asymmetrical. There is nothing wrong with them, just the way they are and I think it looks weird. I have never had a man comment on it. Two, all my life, I had a mole on my pubis mons, a huge one. That made me self conscious, then my doctor decided to be safe an remove it, now I have a 1.5 cm of a scar where the mole used to be and I think that might be worse. It's not the prettiest scar as it was not done by a dermatologist (live and learn). We're talking Frankenstein scar here, small though it may be. I know it's just me, my man does not even notice it.

Second confession, even on Eden I have not heard of a woman who PREFERS vaginal penetration to clitoral stimulation. In fact, I find it very difficult to orgasm without it. It can happen, but it takes forever. I feel a bit weird about that. I know there's absolutely nothing wrong with me, just more of a comfort thing. Is there ANYONE out there in the Edensphere like me?

Also, ladies is it just me or is it totally fine with you if you don't have an orgasm during sex? I don't mind at all and can feel just as satisfied without. Doesn't stop my man from trying though

Third and most painful confession for me: I CANNOT recreate my first orgasm! I have no idea why this bothers me, probably because it was so amazing. It was my first and I am lucky enough to be able to say that my first real orgasm was a g-spot orgasm from my then boyfriend fingering me. I had no idea what had happened until I thought about it after. Scared the shit out of the guy because it caused me to shake uncontrollably. Somehow though, I knew that there was nothing wrong with me. Although I have had many g-spot orgasms since, I have been unable to have one that intense that lasted that long. Urgh! So frustrating!

And just thought of another one: I have been actively masturbating since I was a small child. I had no idea what it was and I always stopped before I came because I thought I was going to pee. I loved it so much, I told my best friend and we started masturbating while in the same room with each other! I know for sure I am not the only one, but no one ever admits it.

Anywhozzle, I love this thread. Hope to bring it back! Love my Eden ladies (and guys). Great way to vent and get some stuff out there. For the next people who read this, if you haven't read the whole thread, try it, it is amazing! less

You're right. This is indeed an awesome thread. And it proves that there is no TMI in EF forums.

I'm with you in not minding if I don't come during sex. It still feels good and a big part of the wonderfulness of it is that warmth and closeness with the other person. I really dislike pressure for "success" during sex.

I want to have your first orgasm too! Cytherea shakes when she comes. I want to be like that too. But alas, it never happens. less

This thread is too amazing. I feel like I'm not alone

I want to discuss how much it bothers me and that it is literally a phobia of mine to have a man lick and tease my vagina with his mouth. When I was 15, some guy I was dating (whom I dated for like.. 4 years after this) we were experimenting since I ALWAYS sucked his cock and I wanted him to experiment with going down on me. He was more than happy to do that and even a little too excited. We always "walked around" the neighborhood which was surrounded by tree's and little paths and always found a "spot" to experiment since we were pretty much huge exhibitionists.

Anyways, he went down on me for the first time. And I was enjoying it but I wasn't thrilled. I let him do his thing. Mid-way through.. he said "I smelled" And I was like.. excuse me? Now I have a phobia of a man going down on me because of that one moment and one experience of someone going down on me. I will never forget the way he looked up to me and said that. How dumb is that? I mean.. I don't think I can really "get off" on oral.. it just doesn't appeal to me. Still, I was fifteen. I was always a "clean" girl. Now I have this irrational phobia. I have never let another man go down on me, ever. Everrrrrrr. And I probably won't let another one ever in my life do that again.

I'm self-conscious of my stomach and my vagina. It is like.. my stomach is so big and I do feel pretty, don't get me wrong, it looks like i'm pregnant constantly I swear, but when I'm being fucked.. I don't like that my stomach "jiggles" as he is fucking me. It makes me focus on other things and it makes me want to not have sex anymore. I have a super large sex drive and I love sex. I have another issue but I'll get to that in a second.

I have NEVER had an orgasm from having sex. Never. Ever. With anyone. Isn't that weird? I'm 21. I would think that I would have an orgasm by now while having sex or having a guy finger me or something, right? But, no. I haven't. I need clitoral stimulation and a lot of it to reach orgasm. I've always been more a giver in the bed then a taker and that is probably why since I have never actually had an orgasm during sex. No one has just.. took the time? I guess.

Anyways, that was my rant. And my insecurities and issues. I feel better. Thanks for making this thread.

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DixieDoo, I am one of those girls that bigger girls will say "skinny bitch!" about in a voice that I know I'm meant to hear, and? I absolutely love bigger women. I enjoy all body types but if I can be explicit for a moment, there is nothing sexier than having my face between a pair of beautiful, thick thighs. I had a girlfriend that was REALLY self-conscious about her thighs and tummy and her cellulite, but it was crazy because she was gorgeous and her body was incredibly sexy. Cellulite is just a part of the human body I don't see the big deal.

So, just keep it in mind that the exact things that you hate about yourself could be the very things that are making strangers squirm in their seats with lust when they're near you. Seriously! less