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Contributor: NicNat NicNat
Does size really freaking matter?
For the people that say size does matter, whats the 'right' size ? Sounds kind of weird asking.

I am a female and I personally think size doesn't really matter. I have only slept with my husband and I would say he is average ( about 7" long and 1 1/2" wide- estimating) and I think his cock is perfect, he thinks other wise, so he got these stupid pills that are suppose to help his cock grow ( porn star pills ) and help him build muscle. I keep on trying to prove to him that he doesn't need them that the way he is, is just fine.. But if I am wrong please let me know..
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am a male and size does matter.
27  (15%)
I am a male and size does NOT matter.
11  (6%)
I am a female and size does matter.
62  (35%)
I am a female and size does NOT matter.
50  (28%)
Other - There always has to be a other.
27  (15%)
Total votes: 177
Poll is closed
01/30/2012
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Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by NicNat
Does size really freaking matter?
For the people that say size does matter, whats the 'right' size ? Sounds kind of weird asking.

I am a female and I personally think size doesn't really matter. I have only slept with my ... more
doesn't matter
01/30/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Ok, I've slept with two men: one was roughly "average"-about 6" erect and average girth-and one is well above average-7.5" and very girthy. So I feel I'm somewhat qualified to answer this.

Size does matter. The larger the dick, the more the sensation. I think girth is more important than length in that area-I mean, the vagina only goes so deep, right? And having your cervix rammed is not that comfortable. Trust me. However... Size is not THE most important factor! I'd rather have an averaged sized man who was attentive to my every need in bed, and knew how to use his tongue and his fingers, than a well endowed man who relied on his massive dick alone to pleasure me.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
To me, size DOES matter! I've had smaller and larger guys. To be honest, I prefer the smaller guys cause the sex was far more comfortable for me. When I say smaller, I mean length wise. I love large girths, but I'm still very satisfied with smaller girths.

I don't like guys who are too long! No place for them here; not into painful sex.
01/31/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by NicNat
Does size really freaking matter?
For the people that say size does matter, whats the 'right' size ? Sounds kind of weird asking.

I am a female and I personally think size doesn't really matter. I have only slept with my ... more
If you google the average size it's more like 5 and a half, which is disappointing to say the least.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Size does matter. I prefer my guy's average cock. A huge cock will be too much for me to handle, and I won't be able to feel anything if his cock was small girth-wise!
01/31/2012
Contributor: True Pleasures True Pleasures
Size only matters for me with toys. They have to be at least my husband's size, or they're just disappointing; not because they're too short or too thin, but because they don't feel close enough to my husband. I'm too used to him, despite the numerous toys I have. Whatever size my husband would be, I'd be fine with it. I love the size he is but, if he were any different, it wouldn't make a difference to me.
01/31/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
I don't think size matters at all. I also want to point out to the OP that 7 inches is actually quite a big about average. Average is 5-5.5 inches. I've never been unhappy with any penis I've ever come across. Positioning has more to do with if I get pressure on my g-spot or not. I never come from vaginal penetration alone no matter what size my partner is. That has nothing to do with him its just how my anatomy is (my clitoris is very far away from my vagina). I just want a good, giving, game partner I don't give a shit about the size of his penis.
02/02/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Size does matter for my wife who is tighter than normal. She can't have a large toy or penis because she will get sore very quickly even with a couple glasses of wine.
02/02/2012
Contributor: yrnw yrnw
Does size matter? Yes.
Is it the most important factor? No.

There is span of a couple of inches in length and roughly the same in circumference that is, for most women, the "ideal" size. Much smaller, and there is really not much sensation. Much larger, and most will experience pain.
It sounds like your husband is well within the category of average/ideal. (7' is longer than average in most nations.)
02/03/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
i have never ran into that problem where it mattered
02/05/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
The politically correct answer is that size doesn't matter - after all, if your guy (like me) is not well endowed how can reconcile that you'll have a life time of sex - not knowing what you are missing?

My wife will swear up and down that my average size is great - but when we use toys - she absolutely explodes when I use some of our larger toys like the Eleven or Vixskin Johnny.

It seems her comfort zone is about 1.75" - but when she's really turned on she can go to 2" diameter.

Bottom line is that girth is more important than length. I''m just a little shy of 7" - just not very large around. We're both glad to have the toys - keeps things interesting.
02/05/2012
Contributor: Mia Fey Mia Fey
Just so everyone knows, average penis size is 3-4 inches ERECT. You heard me, look it up in something sciencey like a textbook to confirm. So anyone concerned about their "average" penis is actually not so average. We have a common misconception about penis size since porn so heavily features abnormally large penises. Size shouldn't matter, but for some people it does, and that is totally fine as long as they are not rude about it. I personally care more about my quality of lover and their concern for mutual pleasure so any size is fine as long as they are comfortable in their own sexuality.
02/09/2012
Contributor: AU AU
Quote:
Originally posted by Mia Fey
Just so everyone knows, average penis size is 3-4 inches ERECT. You heard me, look it up in something sciencey like a textbook to confirm. So anyone concerned about their "average" penis is actually not so average. We have a common ... more
Different studies show different things--I've seen quite a few of such surveys over the last decade+ that say differently. I tend to see something closer to five. But everyone knows it isn't like 9 or anything. XD Guys who are worried, look it up and don't feel too bad. Most women anyway don't seem to care very much. I think we would much more prefer a nice guy.
02/09/2012
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Quote:
Originally posted by Mia Fey
Just so everyone knows, average penis size is 3-4 inches ERECT. You heard me, look it up in something sciencey like a textbook to confirm. So anyone concerned about their "average" penis is actually not so average. We have a common ... more
Actually, you need to double check your source that is the average flaccid length, the average ERECT length is between 5-6 inches. This article include a chart summarizes several studies on it: link if that link doesn't work you can see it on wikipedia: link
02/09/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I say it matters, but only when it comes to my toys, however as long as a man is good with what he has then all is forgiven. My hubby is over 2" around and 7-8" long, so he is larger than average (going with 3-6 as average), but I have been with men who are smaller and larger, it doesn't matter unless they can't figure out how to use it.

Show your hubby some averages and measure his, tell him that he in longer than the average, so what is the issue.
02/09/2012
Contributor: SomewhatSomewhere SomewhatSomewhere
Other! Because I've only been with my boyfriend. Some people swear up and down that size matters, but I think it's more of a width thing. Just my opinion, though.
02/09/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Size does matter to a point. It's not all about bigger is better for me, I much prefer a shorter girthier cock to one that's long and/or skinny.
02/09/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
If you google the average size it's more like 5 and a half, which is disappointing to say the least.
Not to me. I'm a lady with a fairly short canal, and I'd feel a little bad for a guy who couldn't get himself most of the way in if he wanted to. And I don't like getting rammed in the cervix (I've done that with glass toys a few times - ouch!). For me, 4-5" would be a good length.

Girth-wise, I'd say between 1.25" to 1.5" would be ideal. If a man was a bit larger, I'd be willing to work up to him, and I wouldn't be too disappointed if he happened to be thinner - especially if he was happy to work in other ways, too!

So size does matter, but there's some wiggle-room, and exceptions can be made depending on the guy. If I found someone with the perfect personality for me, I think I'd be able to work with anything he had in his pants.
02/09/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Mia Fey
Just so everyone knows, average penis size is 3-4 inches ERECT. You heard me, look it up in something sciencey like a textbook to confirm. So anyone concerned about their "average" penis is actually not so average. We have a common ... more
I don't believe that for a minute - care to quote your source? I'd say 5-6 or 6.5 is more normal.

Wikipedia says: mean erect human penis is approximately 12.9–15.0 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length. link

So I'm not too far off.
02/09/2012
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
it's not about quantity, but about quality.
if he knows how to use it, then who cares about the size!
02/09/2012
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't believe that for a minute - care to quote your source? I'd say 5-6 or 6.5 is more normal.

Wikipedia says: mean erect human penis is approximately 12.9–15.0 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length. link

So I'm not too far off. ... more
As I said above she is likely confusing flaccid and erect 3-4 inches is accurate for flaccid. See previous post.
02/09/2012
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
To me the only time it matters is when it's TOO BIG, then it just hurts
02/11/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I hate to say it, but I care about size. I used to not care, until I dated a guy who was smaller down there. I just didn't have a satisfying sex life.
02/11/2012
Contributor: leelee leelee
Quote:
Originally posted by NicNat
Does size really freaking matter?
For the people that say size does matter, whats the 'right' size ? Sounds kind of weird asking.

I am a female and I personally think size doesn't really matter. I have only slept with my ... more
I agree with you
02/15/2012
Contributor: Wide Awake Daydream Wide Awake Daydream
I think it doesn't really matter. There is so much more to sex than penis size...(in my opinion).
02/15/2012
Contributor: Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
Size doesn't matter, I just want a good, giving, game partner who is enthusiastic.
02/15/2012
Contributor: cocomo cocomo
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02/16/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Quote:
Originally posted by NicNat
Does size really freaking matter?
For the people that say size does matter, whats the 'right' size ? Sounds kind of weird asking.

I am a female and I personally think size doesn't really matter. I have only slept with my ... more
That's actually above average. I think his issue is between his ears, not his legs.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
That's actually above average. I think his issue is between his ears, not his legs.
Love this comment!
02/16/2012