My SO wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed anyone else feel this way? Will the feeling pass?
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Would you ever let your SO watch you masturbate?
hansen3
05/03/2012
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Long distance relationship, so, we can't really be intimate without it.
Tell him that you want to see him masturbate as you masturbate. Levels the playing ground, and makes it more fun!
Tell him that you want to see him masturbate as you masturbate. Levels the playing ground, and makes it more fun!
05/03/2012
I was painfully shy the first few times, but after realizing how turned on he got it is now one of my favorite activities. Of course, he reciprocates!!
05/04/2012
We do that together occasionally. He has walked in on me before and I kept at it.
05/04/2012
It doesn't bother me.
05/04/2012
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You might feel a little embarrassed at first, but you'll get used to it after a few sessions and you'll be fine.
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hansen3
My SO wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed anyone else feel this way? Will the feeling pass?
05/04/2012
I've done it several times. It's really sexy for a lot of men to watch - it gives them the sense that they're watching pornography and then they get to join in (so I've been told from previous partners).
At first, you'll probably be embarrassed and won't go at it the way you do when you're alone. For me, I was self conscious about the way my body looked when I was writhing around on my own. What helped me was remembering this:
Your partner already knows what you look like, both clothed and naked. Your partner knows every fat roll and protruding bone and awkward mark, whatever. And THEY STILL WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU. Don't worry about it. Get into it. If you have to, role play being a Dom. Don't let them touch you while you're getting yourself off, if you don't want to.
Be aware of your limits.
At first, you'll probably be embarrassed and won't go at it the way you do when you're alone. For me, I was self conscious about the way my body looked when I was writhing around on my own. What helped me was remembering this:
Your partner already knows what you look like, both clothed and naked. Your partner knows every fat roll and protruding bone and awkward mark, whatever. And THEY STILL WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU. Don't worry about it. Get into it. If you have to, role play being a Dom. Don't let them touch you while you're getting yourself off, if you don't want to.
Be aware of your limits.
05/04/2012
There is nothing to be embarrassed about if you are already sexually involved with them.
05/04/2012
Most men LOVE it. You'll be so turned on by his reaction that you'll forget to be nervous!
05/04/2012
She will never do it for me in a million years.
I did it once and she got pissed.
I did it once and she got pissed.
05/04/2012
I'd easily masturbate in front of my partner if they wanted to watch. I'd probably be turned on by it
05/04/2012
I love watching and being watched!
05/04/2012
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I am a shy person. I used to get VERY shy about things like this and shy about anything in front of a male partner. I couldn't even get naked in front of my partner and wouldn't eat in front of any male--totally different story, but I was freakishly shy! Lol. Anyways, after a couple of years of being together, I was more comfortable. Mostly, it's how he reacted to me and my body that made me comfortable. I'd never been comfortable with any male, especially naked and never would've done this in front of my ex partners. I guess after hearing my partner say such positive things about me, I finally did it! Lol. I was a little nervous and heck, I still get a tiny bit nervous at times, but it's fun for me too. I think it's normal that you're embarrassed and I do think it will pass. No worries.
Originally posted by
hansen3
My SO wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed anyone else feel this way? Will the feeling pass?
It may take some warming up, but I think you'll be comfortable doing it. When I do, my partner usually jumps in to "help" so that makes me less nervous and makes it more fun!
05/04/2012
we do all the time but usually never last because we have to touch each other
05/04/2012
Although I have no interest in doing this - I have been trying to get my wife to do it for years, she will not oblige.
05/04/2012
No problem at all with doing that. For me, knowing he's watching is a huge turn on!
05/04/2012
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I am fine with this.
Originally posted by
hansen3
My SO wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed anyone else feel this way? Will the feeling pass?
05/04/2012
Love!
05/04/2012
I may have been a bit shy and nervous at first, but I have no problem with it now. When I was younger I was definitely more apprehensive about letting boyfriends watch, though. It's all about confidence and being comfortable with your partner, or at least, that's what it was for me
05/04/2012
Whats a SO?
05/04/2012
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spineyogurt
Whats a SO?
05/05/2012
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Significant Other, aka partner
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spineyogurt
Whats a SO?
05/05/2012
I'm pretty open, so doing this with my partner is pretty easy for me. We do this all time, I think it's interesting to see how my partner does things as well.
05/05/2012
I don't mind if he watches, but I prefer to be alone. When he watches it take me longer.
05/05/2012
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if you dont feel comfortable then dont do it but if you still want to then make him masterbate next to you so hes not just soley sitting there watching you !Or/and pretend hes not there..the feeling will pass with some but once again if you dont like it..dont do cuz he wants you too!
Originally posted by
hansen3
My SO wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed anyone else feel this way? Will the feeling pass?
personally I get off now on having him watch me by the time im half way through hes begging to touch me..sometimes i let him sometimes i just make him watch!Although..he wont masterbate in front of me because he said its to personal to him!
05/05/2012
Just because you're embarrassed is no reason not to try something. I'm not saying that you should give in to him pressuring you to do something, but you should try things that he wants you to try and vice versa. If I refused to do everything I was uncomfortable with, I never would have tried pegging, BDSM, and other various activities that we enjoy immensely!
You can wear sexy underthings and start off by masturbating through them. You can, as many have suggested, ask him to do the same at the same time so you have something to watch and focus on as well. You can watch some porn together.
Think of it like this, he wouldn't be asking you to do it if he didn't think you were hella sexy, so embrace that feeling of sexiness and glam out with your clam out!
You can wear sexy underthings and start off by masturbating through them. You can, as many have suggested, ask him to do the same at the same time so you have something to watch and focus on as well. You can watch some porn together.
Think of it like this, he wouldn't be asking you to do it if he didn't think you were hella sexy, so embrace that feeling of sexiness and glam out with your clam out!
05/05/2012
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I am fine with this.
Originally posted by
hansen3
My SO wants me to masturbate in front of him but I'm embarrassed anyone else feel this way? Will the feeling pass?
05/05/2012
I voted the last one, but really, it's kind of an "Other" situation.
I'd never let a guy watch me masturbate the way that I personally like to masturbate. Albeit, it's a huge part of one of my most recurrent fantasies, it's not something that I could ever feel okay showing off. I often feel pretty embarrassed about it, even though I'm learning more and more women do it.
Just sitting in front of him, masturbating with fingers or a toy, doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes, depending on the night or position or lighting, I'll get a little self-conscious and not be very into it. Especially if he's not responding the way I want. But other times, I really get into it and it feels incredibly sexy and wonderful.
I'd never let a guy watch me masturbate the way that I personally like to masturbate. Albeit, it's a huge part of one of my most recurrent fantasies, it's not something that I could ever feel okay showing off. I often feel pretty embarrassed about it, even though I'm learning more and more women do it.
Just sitting in front of him, masturbating with fingers or a toy, doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes, depending on the night or position or lighting, I'll get a little self-conscious and not be very into it. Especially if he's not responding the way I want. But other times, I really get into it and it feels incredibly sexy and wonderful.
05/05/2012
I'm okay with it but at first it was taboo. I blame my prude mother.
05/06/2012
Very sexy to do it but too difficult not to touch each other.
05/07/2012