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Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Good responses and information so far! Thanks all!!!
10/12/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Sorry for how long this is! Thank you all for checking it out! Have a great week. CS
10/18/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
The now wife and I have been dating for 3 years and I've never cheated on her
10/18/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Well, hope you guys still like me after you read this, and hope you can follow my saga.

I was married-never cheated or thought I ever would.

The person I cheated with was married.
And my husbands-at time-best friend and coworker.

My lover chased around me for about two years, I was seriously attracted, but was trying to give my then hubby a chance to either fuck me or dump me.

My lover and I had sex in my car one night, I started divorce proceedings a month later. We were together every day.

He got divorced a month after me & moved in with me. We told our ex-spouses. My lover started his own business.

We have been married 14 years. Never cheated on each other, never would.We are soul mates, our other half. Wierd, huh?

Wow, I should write for a soap opera, huh?
10/18/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Hmm...interesting, none of the committed males have voted yay so far...
10/18/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Have a fantastic week all!!!!
10/29/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by js250
Well, hope you guys still like me after you read this, and hope you can follow my saga.

I was married-never cheated or thought I ever would.

The person I cheated with was married.
And my husbands-at time-best friend and ... more
thanks for sharing. Most people who do cheat don't plan on cheating, because usually they're not looking for a partner actively, or think it's not in their character.

I'm single but I've cheated in the past. I've been in relationships where I was in love with my partner but the same love or affection wasn't reciprocated. I felt unattractive so it was nice to be told I was beautiful by others. Essentially, I ended up cheating because I was getting something so necessary that my partner didn't want to provide. I wanted to stay because I didn't want to give up on us and I wanted us to work. But it didn't. I always thought myself as the type that would/ could never cheat.

Cheating isn't black and white; instead of blaming the cheating partner, it's a good idea to see if there's something wrong with the relationship as a whole. It's not fair to blame one single person because essentially relationships are a two person thing. Find out the reason why they cheated; a lot of it may have to do with the way the two of you are interacting, how your sex life is, how your home life is, etc. I've almost never heard of a perfectly happy couple have cheating; usually it's a relationship where communication isn't the best and someone (or both) isn't happy but trying to make things better.

Anyway, yeah, just a little of justification from the other side.Don't say you'll never do something because a thing called life has a tendency to make things difficult.
10/30/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I have never cheated and never would. I question if it's even possible for me, in my 21 years, only one person has ever aroused me.
10/30/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Have an awesome week all!!!
11/15/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I've never cheated and I never will. I feel like if you are wanting something else outside of a relationship, you shouldn't be in that relationship.
11/15/2011
Contributor: null null
My affair became my boyfriend, we are now in a semi-open relationship (lots of talking and planning, little actually happening).
11/15/2011
Contributor: Destri Destri
I am married, and was married once before. I have never cheated, nor will I ever cheat. And I trust my husband completely.
11/16/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Just a Friday bump to keep this poll rolling along. Everyone have a fantastic, fun and safe weekend!!! XOX Creamysweet
11/18/2011
Contributor: Art & Sensation Art & Sensation
I'm very committed to my partner and I have not, nor would I ever, cheat on her. I would like to keep the sparks flying within our relationship, even though it can be very hard due to a gigantic distance between us.

I do find EF to be a lifesaver on this matter, if I may say so. We're both very positive about all the ideas and information shared here. It really opens up a world of possibilities. And, of course, a world of exciting toys!
11/21/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I've never cheated on anyone.
11/21/2011
Contributor: 0letitgrow 0letitgrow
wow... you win for most dedication to a question ive ever seen.
11/21/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
Im in a relationship and have never cheated.
11/21/2011
Contributor: Trishcuit629 Trishcuit629
The man I am with now, is the man I cheated on my ex with. It was probably one of the best decisions I ever made. It got me out of a boring relationship, and brought me into the arms of someone who is more like me.
11/21/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Married and in a committed relationship. I have never cheated physically with another person but have cheated my husband of emotional closeness or intimacy that I shared with another person of the opposite sex. I have never cheated my life partner as our relationship has always been open.
I have been cheated on physically but never emotionally by my husband, my life partner has never cheated on me either physically or emotionally....but did cheat with me on my husband emotionally.

My life is totally complicated....thanks for askin!
11/21/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
Haven't and wouldn't ever. How hard is it to simply dump someone first? Not hard at all compared to the pain you'd be putting them through.
11/22/2011
Contributor: newlady newlady
Never have; never would.
We have been married for 26 years and together for 28.
Never even been tempted.
I have a wicked imagination and a more than willing husband... no need for anything else!
11/22/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I find it interesting that out of the 67 people who have so far answered, 71% have never cheated. That is far from "most" cheating. In fact it's closer to "most" not having cheated.

When we had an open relationship, it certainly wasn't "cheating" to be with other people, but when the relationship was closed, it would be. I have certainly been tempted, but did everything in my power to then stay away from that person whom I felt attracted to. I made a promise to My Man when we closed the relationship and I take it seriously. If we were to eventually get into a semi-open situation, both being present with an other couple, it would not be cheating, as we would both consent to it. (it's been talked about, but I don't really think it's going to happen.)

So, I have never cheated while in a monogamous, closed relationship.

Seventy One percent of the people on the poll answered similarly.
11/22/2011
Contributor: Jobo Jobo
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
i think women should only cheat if the guy is a member of #CUDDLEBEARGANG !
11/24/2011
Contributor: Subbi Subbi
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Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
I'm engaged and havent cheated. If your unhappy just leave!
11/24/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
My first high school gf cheated on me, and it made me feel so shitty I swore I'd never do it to anyone. I've stuck by that, and will continue to do so. I could never hurt my wife that way.
11/25/2011
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Holy crap that poll is long lol
12/02/2011
Contributor: lashes2000 lashes2000
Nope never. What is the point of cheating? If you are not happy just tell the person.
12/02/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
Never cheated before and more than likely never will.
12/26/2011
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
I am single now, but I have cheated in relationships in the past because I was bored and usually with a random one night stand.
02/15/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
I've never cheated on my man and certainly don't plan on letting myself even come close to doing so, cheating is awful and painful and I would never wish that pain on anyone, especially someone I love as much as my boyfriend.
02/16/2012