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How does your partner feel about your sex toy collection?

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Contributor: joja joja
I have noticed that although my partner doesn't seem to be intimidated by my toys, he definitely doesn't share my excitement about them. All he really has to say when I come bounding into the house with a new package in hand is, "Why do you need so many?"

So, I thought I'd poll the community to see how common this is. How does your partner react to your toy collection, and/or your reviewing? (I made it a multiple choice poll for those with multiple partners.)
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
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Total votes: 199 (179 voters)
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07/23/2010
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Contributor: Blinker Blinker
He loves all the toys I am getting now and even looks on the site for suggestions on what to get. He has picked out some cuffs and lubes and may even order some himself (though he would rather use me to get the buyout option, heh).
07/23/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
98% of the toys are for her - the odd thing is I pick them all out from the clues I get from her reactions to current toys.
07/24/2010
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
He is indifferent to most of the things I buy/review. However, if it is BDSM related or lingerie he is definitely more interested. He looks at it as my little hobby though, so he is interested as far as he can be without getting bored to death. He likes that we have so many options to bring into the bedroom though.
07/24/2010
Contributor: Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
Hubs and g/f enjoy being my co-testers. There have been a few -ooops- when he brings company home and I have left my toys out and website up. Most people know about my collection/hobby but they like to give me a hard time
07/24/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
He feels about the same as I do about our toys. Not more, not less. He sometimes comes home with a new toy, and bought us our first one. I didn't vote, because I wouldn't say he is MORE interested than I am, but neither is he less.

We know they are tools, and fun tools at that. It's the attitude we both take (although we do make a lot of jokes about them) and that works for us. The only difference is I am more interested in our BDSM toys than he is, but I think it's more fear of actually "hurting" me than anything else.
07/24/2010
Contributor: wolffstorm wolffstorm
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
I have noticed that although my partner doesn't seem to be intimidated by my toys, he definitely doesn't share my excitement about them. All he really has to say when I come bounding into the house with a new package in hand is, "Why do ... more
we LOVE looking for,,getting,,,and using all our toys!!!,,,
07/24/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I would say we're pretty equal on how much we like the toys. But of course, there are certain ones I like better because I use them. lol
07/24/2010
Contributor: Andromeda Andromeda
My bf loves that I use toys, and he loves using them on me. But I still love them just a little bit more
07/24/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
He is no where excited as I am but I've never had to hide anything. Some items like the Cobra vibre get him excited though. Got that today
07/24/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
She probably likes it more than me. I love buying new toys for her, it's adorable, but she definitely is more "ohhhhh" over them.
07/24/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I probably like them better, but he likes seeing what new ones come, and he likes picking them out as well.
07/24/2010
Contributor: trios trios
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
98% of the toys are for her - the odd thing is I pick them all out from the clues I get from her reactions to current toys.
I try to as well. I've bought some that I thought would interest her. However, still working on the perfect size for her, as she refuses move any vegetable from the kitchen....
07/24/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I agree with JonsBabyDoll, my partner likes having a lot of different options to play with but definitely doesn't care as much as I do. Sometimes he gets frustrated or annoyed with how enthusiastic I am about toys, but he definitely loves the BDSM stuff I bring home. I recently got him a cute cock cage and leash and that definitely excited him a lot. For the most part, while I don't have to hide anything, I do have to tone it down a bit around him so I don't irritate him lol.
07/24/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
He is no where excited as I am but I've never had to hide anything. Some items like the Cobra vibre get him excited though. Got that today
Please let us know how this turns out! I almost got my guy one of those for his birthday but because there weren't so many reviews out there for it, I opted for the flip cup instead. It looks interesting though, please do review it!
07/24/2010
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
He doesn't like them, but he won't stop me from using them. I asked him this directly, and that was basically the same words he used. Hopefully one day I can get him to use them on me.
07/24/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
My bf always wants to see what new thing I got my hands on so he can tease me about it, fantasize, or give me puppy eyes for in-use pictures, haha.
07/24/2010
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
D enjoys my toys, but since 99% of them are for me, except the lube, he's pretty indifferent. He does enjoy trying them out on me, often times stripping me and pushing me to the floor while coming at me with the newest toy that came that day LOL (that actually happened today teehee)

I try to include him in decisions and all that, but since most of the toys are inserted into my body, he leaves it up to me. I have tried getting a couple masturbators for him, but we have difficulty finding ones that work with his foreskin. *shrugs* Just reasons to try more in my opinion! LOL

He does get very excited when we get a new lube to try though
07/24/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
I do not have a partner right now, and I actually dread not being able to find someone who will be actually fine with it, since I got most of my toy within the last 8 months. But then since I want to make it a point of having someone who will be open minded about it, then I guess it'll be fine. But then, we never know what love can bring my way one day.
07/25/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
My b/f seems overwhelmed by my toy collection at times....I don't keep them all in one place for that reason. But on occasion he will choose a dil, wash it, lube it and lay it on the nightstand, so go figure...
He will also choose a harness and a dil when he wants me to peg him.
07/25/2010
Contributor: Evoluchun Evoluchun
my husband was new to the sex toys till me and now he has his collection and I have mine and he loves getting them and trying them out about as much as me now
07/28/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
We each have our own toys and we use toys together sometimes - it's a nice balance.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
He doesn't necessarily get really excited about it, but he does enjoy getting to play with me. He loves when I get him things because he wasn't ever able to use anything before really, and he loves all the little surprises
07/30/2010
Contributor: Lustful Dreams Lustful Dreams
He gets excited about some items like my latest Sapphire Falls probe but no where NEAR as excited as me. I always ask for his opinion before ordering my next one - especially one that are couple oriented because I don't want him to feel obligated to help me out and I don't want him feeling comfortable using any specific thing on me. This is a mutual quest I guess.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Both guys are a little scared and give me raised eyebrows when I pull all the toys out for a cleaning. When we get a phone call from the UPS guy Arch usually asks kind of crabbily, "What the hell did you order NOW?" Sigel just chuckles about what SOME people will spend money one.
They both like using them with and on me though.
07/30/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
He likes my sex toys and like when I use them, I think anyway. He's asked a few times for me to get him some, but he's not as excited as I am.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
I do not have a partner right now, and I actually dread not being able to find someone who will be actually fine with it, since I got most of my toy within the last 8 months. But then since I want to make it a point of having someone who will be open ... more
If a guy is intimidated by your toys then I say he is unworthy of you.

My husband is highly entertained by my toy addiction. He has a grin on his face whenever he hands a box to me or sees toys laying about.
07/31/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by joja
I have noticed that although my partner doesn't seem to be intimidated by my toys, he definitely doesn't share my excitement about them. All he really has to say when I come bounding into the house with a new package in hand is, "Why do ... more
My husband is always happy and excited about all of my toys. He jokes that I should just buy out Energizer, considering how many batteries I need!
07/31/2010
Contributor: lexical lexical
My guy is a little strange about my toys...He seemed excited about them at first and enjoyed using some of them on me, but he dislikes when I just use them on myself! I've found a way around that, with some of my remote control vibes...I get to play while he holds the controls! I think he enjoys that and it's super hot

So...I don't know! He enjoys them, but I think he's also a little bothered by the fact that I sometimes prefer the vibrations to him touching me with his hands!
08/09/2010
Contributor: Alegria Alegria
Really wasn't sure how to answer this poll. My boyfriend encourages me to get them, likes to use them once or twice with me, but is indifferent to what I choose to buy and doesn't like to hear about my opinions on them. And I can never tell when he wants to use them or not so I have to carry a few in my purse when I'm spending the night at his house haha.
08/09/2010