Great Question.


I have read about cheating Emotionally on your partner with someone else. I am not sure if the men I chat with are cheating on their wives or not. Yes I did cyber sex (just typed) with two but its not like we have to chat everyday and always cyber. They have their lives and I mine and if we are online yes we do chat with each other or others. I do consider them friends and most I would like to meet if we were ever in the same place. I say most cause some I lost touch with, some I see online but we no longer chat.

FWB? what does the W mean?

Didn't you developed a friendship with them online? I have not slept with any of them but like I said a have thought about it, with a few. They have not really come out and said lets get together for a sex but in the flirty there has been talk if I was single or if I was there. I think they are all talk but who knows. Like I said they are older.

Yikes their wives found out and e-mail and called you. I am not sure what I would if a wife get on chats and ask me why am I talking to her husband. I guess I will say cause he is talking to me. I would not get him in trouble since most of our talks are about everyday life with some flirting in it. And usually I am the one that likes to throw in some flirting in the conversation, its fun to see them get a bit flustered and sometimes naughty.

Thanks for replying.

If you read my comments you will see that I said that all the men that I talk too are happily married. One even bought his wife over 40 roses of different colors for their anniversary a rose for each year. I helped him come up with something.

Like I have stated they are all happily married but like most of us who go online we got for fun, escape real life or to be naughty in a safe way. If any of the men I talked to were not happy in their marriage I would try to help them make it better.

I also stated that my parents divorce when I was young because my father cheated so I too have seen what cheating can do to a family. I think everybody takes their wedding vows seriously but as we all know things happen. I do not think anybody who gets married thinks that they will ever end up getting a divorce.

Will I haven an affair with a married man, I think not. As I stated I don't think I could bring myself to do, do onto others has you will like to be done onto you. Would I go on a lunch date with a married man? YES would hug him tight yes if its one of the men I considered a close friend. Will I kiss him more than a friendly kiss? I do not know.

Well, for me at least, there is a distinct line between emotional cheating and infatuation, and that line is control.

You can't control what your heart feels. You may think you can get a handle on to whom you are attracted and when, but you can't do it. To me, that isn't cheating.

What is cheating is acting on those uncontrollable impulses. Obviously sex is right at the top of that list, but all the way down to real flirting (not the kind of stuff we do here on EF) would be considered cheating. Granted, not all cheating is the same, and some forms of it are more hurtful than others, but it remains cheating nonetheless.

Where that line gets fuzzy for me is the scenario where two people are attracted to each other, each admits it to each other, but both agree that will be as far as it ever goes. Is that cheating?

I think this may be a little weird for some but I have a very old school way of thinking. I know in my relationship I am extremely happy and feel very fulfilled, I don't want to look for anything else or anyone else. I feel no need to look elsewhere. I see where some people find it easier to talk to someone online but I don't feel the need to go online to flirt with someone. I would much rather flirt with my hubby face to face. I know different people have different feelings on this matter but if I found out my husband had cyber sex with someone online that would def be a deal breaker. That in my book is cheating. If a married man were to have sex with a single woman that would be considered cheating whether it happened once or twice or everyday. I also feel flirting when you are married to someone else is disrespectful. Even when I were single I would have never flirted with a married man. I know most people don't consider that cheating but I do. All of this would be very hurtful if my husband were to do this and I'm sure my hubby would feel the same. Even if my hubby thought about cheating on me that would hurt me. Honestly I guess it's hard for me to understand how someone can have such strong feelings for their spouse and still do things to potentially hurt them. Maybe I'm just overly sensitive but my hubby and I have both talked about this and we feel the same.

I was in college and she was a YOUNG professor, who was there on sabbatical. It was a HOT fling. She was NOT going to be there more then six months. We BOTH knew it. However, I had no idea she had a Fiance waiting "back at home" till the last night before she left. Did I feel a little guilty about it all, then? I was in college, and young, and it had all been HER choice...so...not really. Poor dude...if only HE knew she was so "not loyal"!

I was with a man off an on for almost 9 years, we had a committed sexual relationship. I was the other woman most of the time. I had a boyfriend who decided half way through our 6 year that he was bi and wanted to date men. so we kept up the pretense of a normal relationship for the kids. I was accused of cheating on him by so many people but they didnt know the truth and i never told the. The guy at the time I was involved with and I remained friends and thats all we are now. im with someone who makes me happy so i do not need him but he still wants me..