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Contributor: CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
A number of men I have been with have mentioned to me that I am the first woman they have met who prefers being the big spoon. None of them ever said it in a negative way, in fact, they all seemed to think it was awesome that I like being big spoon.

But it has always made me wonder, is it really that rare?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I identify as a woman and I prefer being big spoon.
10  (9%)
I identify as a woman and I prefer being little spoon.
56  (50%)
I identify as a man and prefer being big spoon.
16  (14%)
I identify as a man and prefer being little spoon.
3  (3%)
I do not identify as being a man or a woman / I like being big and little spoon equally / I prefer not to spoon at all.
26  (23%)
Total votes: 111
Poll is closed
04/23/2012
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
He likes to sleep on his right side and I like to sleep on my stomach, so I'll spoon him and then roll over in the middle of the night. He then rolls over and spoons me...we're equal opportunity spooners? Hahaha
04/23/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I love being the little spoon, but I LOVE snuggling on my honey too.
04/23/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
He likes to sleep on his right side and I like to sleep on my stomach, so I'll spoon him and then roll over in the middle of the night. He then rolls over and spoons me...we're equal opportunity spooners? Hahaha
Ah! I do this too.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
We are a little of both.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Being a big girl means I'm always Big Spoon. Hate it, like I'm mommy holding a baby or some shit. And it just feels weird when the guy (who's smaller than me) cuddles against my back. I don't feel small and protected - I feel like I have a barnacle on my back. XP

Maybe I'll get to be Little Spoon in my next life ...
04/23/2012
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
I love being the medium spoon that can go both ways!
04/23/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
I'm a guy. Both are equally great.
04/24/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I'm a female and I like to be little spoon.
04/24/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I like to be little spoon but either are great!
04/24/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We don't spoon much at all - but when it happens I'm the larger spoon.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by CoffeeCup
A number of men I have been with have mentioned to me that I am the first woman they have met who prefers being the big spoon. None of them ever said it in a negative way, in fact, they all seemed to think it was awesome that I like being big spoon. ... more
I like both. I suppose normally I like being the little spoon but being the big spoon is great for me as well. I guess I just naturally tend to be the smaller spoon.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I like to spoon and be spooned!
04/24/2012
Contributor: LovesAPoet LovesAPoet
Most of the time I'm the little spoon and love it but some days I'd just rather be the big spoon. I think my boyfriend is the same way, we're both pretty flexible.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I definitely love being the little spoon.
04/24/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
It doesn't matter to me! I just like to cuddle!
04/24/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
i like being the little spoon because im so small i cant see over him as the big spoon and because i get cold easily
04/24/2012
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm not big on spooning. If I had to, I'd choose little spoon. But I don't want to be touched while I'm falling asleep. It's like - don't ya have enough damn room on your side of the bed!
04/24/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Spoon is no longer recognizable as a word, just sayin'.
04/24/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
My husband is a lot bigger than I am. He's about 15 inches taller, but we take turns being on the outside of the "spoon." He likes to be massaged to sleep, so I am often behind him and end up hugging him from behind. He also loves to hug me from behind in bed. Either is good for me.

His being the "big spoon" is more likely to lead to sex, though. (He has a thing about my butt, he touches it and off he goes..... )
04/24/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Spoon is no longer recognizable as a word, just sayin'.
Spoonspoonspoonspoonsp oonspoon.....
04/24/2012
Contributor: LoveBug721 LoveBug721
either way
04/24/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Little spoon all the way!
04/24/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
And my fellow likes being the big spoon, works out perfect.
04/24/2012
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
I like to be little spoon.. Mainly because my husband is very beef and bulky, and I have problems being the big one.
04/24/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
I like either one ^_^
04/24/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I USUALLY like being big spoon, because I tend to get a bit claustrophobic, but there are some times I just really want to be little spoon, and held! So I chose the last option. I identify as female.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Various Various
I usually prefer to be the little spoon, but I'll assume big spoon position whenever.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
I'm just little to begin with compared to hubby so it'd be odd for me to try and be the big spoon lol.
04/24/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
Little spoon here. I love it.
04/24/2012