So an update as asked for...

The other night we had one of those the kids have gone to bed early and were swimming in the pool all day nights where you know they arent getting back up.

We ended up watching a movie that slowly turned to porn as we shotime and every once in a while at night they show some softcore porn.

So the long and the short of it I added a few spanks into the mix. I stacked up our two pillows that happen to be body pillows and gently put her face down on the pillows and took her from behind.

I added my own flavor to the situation and I have found I enjoy firmly asking questions and getting responses and she enjoyed it because it was exactly what vanessa was saying above just one or two with a firm but non offensive correction or a direction back to the on going event.

Every few strokes I would give her a spank and tell her in a firm but low voice I love how wet you are and I am enjoying every ridge of your body. Almost like here's a spank and now that I have your attention here is what you are going to listen to. Almost a get ready for this announcement type of thing. It wasnt domination exactly and I would never hurt her and I think after a time or two she started enjoying it.

I also have to throw it out there that last night she had me pull her hair for the first time which was FUCKING HOT.

She went down to get the laundry and it was sitting on top of another pile of laundry but the newly dried stuff was still hot. While she was bent over I hooked her panties, pulled them aside and gently persuaded her to let me take her doggy style on the warm laundry which she loved.

While this was going on I jokingly said this is where I grab your hair right? She surprisingly said please do and pull it hard. I guess I am not the only one who likes it rough around here!

The worst part of it is though... she turned me on so much that she made me cum VERY quickly after that.

Going for using them both tonight LOL! less

I've never had my hair pulled sexually, just tugged playfully. I've noticed that most ways it gives me a headache but one or two people have managed to do it without causing my head to hurt for a while. Do you think that the difference could be in how high up it's pulled/tugged from? less

For me, that is difficult to answer. I would think there would be several variables to that equation. Things like the way you most often wear your hair, do you like scalp massages, do you like it when your partner runs their fingers through your hair, the mood you are in when it happens, the way your partner pulls your hair, etc.

I'd say it is possible. I do know that if someone pulls your hair from the ends (the tip farthest away from the scalp) that is going to hurt. For example let's say an infant is having a rough day and decides to yank your hair. They will grab it from the ends furthest away from your scalp. less

You don't keep your pony tail too tight do you? Sometimes my partner leaves it super tight and it leaves the area sore and tender, almost like a quasi bruise, where the band was/is. Watch out for that. Hope that helps. Also, remember, this isn't for everybody. You like what you like. This might not be your thing. less