I'm also testicularly inclined and I have also slapped an ass or two. Why? Well, sometimes for fun, sometimes for affect or pleasure and usually to reign in attention. I can't have her mind wandering off just anywhere. I find that a well placed and strong tap brings the attention back to the situation at hand. less

From a girl's perspective, that is exactly what happens lol.

On the rare occasions it does happen, that I get those little 'pay attention' slaps, my mind is immediately brought front and center, and my first thought is, "Did he just do that? Omg, yes he did!". I'm purely refocused and working even harder. less

...and now you know... With regards to the questions that Bignuf posed to the forum, for me, "Is it controlling?" Sure, I want all of my partner's attention focused on the pleasure I'm giving. I will admit that it is also selfish, but it can also be stimulating. To each their own. less

I'm also testicularly inclined and I have also slapped an ass or two. Why? Well, sometimes for fun, sometimes for affect or pleasure and usually to reign in attention. I can't have her mind wandering off just anywhere. I find that a well placed and strong tap brings the attention back to the situation at hand. less

So an update as asked for...

The other night we had one of those the kids have gone to bed early and were swimming in the pool all day nights where you know they arent getting back up.

We ended up watching a movie that slowly turned to porn as we shotime and every once in a while at night they show some softcore porn.

So the long and the short of it I added a few spanks into the mix. I stacked up our two pillows that happen to be body pillows and gently put her face down on the pillows and took her from behind.

I added my own flavor to the situation and I have found I enjoy firmly asking questions and getting responses and she enjoyed it because it was exactly what vanessa was saying above just one or two with a firm but non offensive correction or a direction back to the on going event.

Every few strokes I would give her a spank and tell her in a firm but low voice I love how wet you are and I am enjoying every ridge of your body. Almost like here's a spank and now that I have your attention here is what you are going to listen to. Almost a get ready for this announcement type of thing. It wasnt domination exactly and I would never hurt her and I think after a time or two she started enjoying it.

I also have to throw it out there that last night she had me pull her hair for the first time which was FUCKING HOT.

She went down to get the laundry and it was sitting on top of another pile of laundry but the newly dried stuff was still hot. While she was bent over I hooked her panties, pulled them aside and gently persuaded her to let me take her doggy style on the warm laundry which she loved.

While this was going on I jokingly said this is where I grab your hair right? She surprisingly said please do and pull it hard. I guess I am not the only one who likes it rough around here!

The worst part of it is though... she turned me on so much that she made me cum VERY quickly after that.

Going for using them both tonight LOL! less

That is exactly what I'm talking about. Nothing mean and nothing offensive. Just a little whack that grabs attention. And the hair pulling---love! It's one of those heat of the moment things that gets me every time. It doesn't happen every night but if it does, I personally know he's doing it because he is so out if his mind with passion and not actually trying to hurt me. It only fuels us on further

Yay YOU!! YAY Mrs Secretary less

Bingo! Now you understand what I'm talking about. Oh and the hair pulling, you pulled it from the base (the scalp) and not the ends, right?

I have found that a firm but gentile grab of her hair can enhance the mood as well. I like to run my fingers through her hair starting in the back, and grab hair that way. less