How long have you ABSTAINED from SEX?

Contributor: shielaray shielaray
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I have read so much in various Discussions and Polls here in the community about how we love sex! It is like we can’t get enough of it or we are engaged in it almost daily! I would like to reverse the question and ask, how long have you abstained ... more
I was single for 8 months, I hooked up with someone once, otherwise, that was it.
11/15/2012
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I haven't had sex since 1991 & I'm not happy about that, but oh well. (And that was my first & last time.)

Now, I can't say I haven't masturbated during that time, but the longest I can remember going without that is 3-4 months? However, if I'm feeling even remotely well enough, e.g. not in intense pain, my damned libido busts through & I jill-off.

If I don't take care of it myself, my body does while I sleep; I often awaken as I climax in sleep. So, maybe that's why I can go a while without touching myself if it so happens.

But if I want to test my will, I'll try not to eat junk, not abstain from anything involving sex, one of the great pleasures in life!
03/17/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I haven't had sex in about 3 months, however I masturbate regularly.
03/17/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
No sex = 1 year
No masturbation = a few days.
03/20/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I've never really abstained. I basically didn't have sex at all for two years when I was in a LDR (we only saw each other a week a year), but that wasn't because I wanted to. And I was masturbating during that time.
03/20/2013
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I have read so much in various Discussions and Polls here in the community about how we love sex! It is like we can’t get enough of it or we are engaged in it almost daily! I would like to reverse the question and ask, how long have you abstained ... more
about three months from both, just lost my interest!
03/20/2013
Contributor: lilyflower lilyflower
I went for 2 years once without having sex with a partner, when I was 26-28. I actually was in a LDR at the time, and when I would see my boyfriend he was having difficulties with his health which made it hard for us to do anything.

As for masturbating, I think I went for a month once without doing it. But usually I do it almost every day.
03/27/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Since I lost my virginity, the longest I've gone without sex is around 4 months. I've never gone longer than two days without masturbating. The longest my husband and I have gone without sex is two weeks, he was working out of town.
03/27/2013
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by SecretKinksters
No sex = 1 year
No masturbation = a few days.
Thanks for you response!
04/27/2013
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I haven't had sex since 1991 & I'm not happy about that, but oh well. (And that was my first & last time.)

Now, I can't say I haven't masturbated during that time, but the longest I can remember going without that is ... more
No sex for 22 years; now that has to be a record!
04/27/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I have read so much in various Discussions and Polls here in the community about how we love sex! It is like we can’t get enough of it or we are engaged in it almost daily! I would like to reverse the question and ask, how long have you abstained ... more
Let's see, since I've been with my partner -- for the last 7 years, -- I don't think we've ever gone more than 2 1/2 weeks without it & that is rare. However, it could be up to a month since in the beginning few years I was severely ill and couldn't do it very often We're making up for that now though! LOL. I'm positive it's never been longer than one month though. Possibly not even that long. Oh. My. Gosh. I'm having a realization here. So this means that since I was ... gulp... almost 16, I have not gone more than one month without sex! Holy crap. This feels like a lot of sex for me. Lol.

You are right, things get intense... and frustrating once it reaches past one week. Two weeks and desperation might set in. Lol. We go almost one week without getting a chance to do it & when we do, before the week is up, it's pretty intense. It's like "Cannot. Wait. Any. Longer!" Wild animals. Lol.
04/27/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I forgot to add and suggest, it is possible that a broken bone from a ski accident or having surgery will be moments of procrastinated pleasures of the flesh! This can be a likely period of time of abstinence!
You're right! I remember when I had surgery (for endometriosis) they told me not to do anything for 7 days. I didn't know why... come to find out they did something inside that I did NOT know was going to be done to me. And I happen to find out because I Broke the 7 day rule! LOL. I'm d-d-d-daaaangerous! LOL. Ha Ha. I was pretty upset that they went and done that to me, though. While I was asleep for Pete's sake! Can't they let a girl know these things?
04/27/2013
Contributor: Phoenyz Phoenyz
15 months.
04/27/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
No sex for 22 years; now that has to be a record!
A record I would rather not hold, dammit, but I got sick before I was ever able to really get started with sex. That window where I did finally have it, was short lived & then I got sicker. No opportunity for me to find anyone when I can hardly leave my house.

Thank God I found EF & toys I can use without irritation such as glass! Now I'm old & don't look so hot, so I'm discouraged about breaking my drought. If I do ever have sex with someone again, they may never walk again when I'm finished with them!
04/27/2013
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by K101
You're right! I remember when I had surgery (for endometriosis) they told me not to do anything for 7 days. I didn't know why... come to find out they did something inside that I did NOT know was going to be done to me. And I happen to find ... more
I've heard that for some women who have endometriosis, getting pregnant actually helps cure the disease and, therefore, avoids the need for surgery! So having sex I guess is OK!
05/07/2013
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I have read so much in various Discussions and Polls here in the community about how we love sex! It is like we can’t get enough of it or we are engaged in it almost daily! I would like to reverse the question and ask, how long have you abstained ... more
I just had to link this thread with another one called, How long constitutes a sex drought? There appears some interesting results. It could be based upon the way the question was asked.
05/30/2013
Contributor: Hentialover Hentialover
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
I have read so much in various Discussions and Polls here in the community about how we love sex! It is like we can’t get enough of it or we are engaged in it almost daily! I would like to reverse the question and ask, how long have you abstained ... more
I don't have intercourse that often, since it's very difficult to find women in my town who aren't straight. haha. Despite that, I like to feel good, and so I enjoy myself regularly, but I have gone more then a week without any kind of sexual actions. I didn't have time to think about it.
05/30/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
Years. That is all.
05/31/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by PassionateLover2
No sex for 22 years; now that has to be a record!
trust me, I'm bitter about it, too! It's a combo of being too ill to find someone & no opportunity. I try not to dwell on it or I will cry!
06/01/2013