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How do you prepare for anal sex?

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Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Jen - BM is a bowel movement.
Oh. That makes sense.
08/02/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by ScottA
Anal sex (unless otherwise indicated) generally means any type of anal play according to Morin, so fingers count. My guess is that this thread deals mostly with partner play, as in solo play "messes" aren't as ... more
Hehe I like the phrase "butt fun". But yes, I like the distinction between anal play and anal sex because it's clearer to me.
08/02/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I am a woman and I:

-need to poop a few hours before so I'm not worrying about that
-need to have recently cleaned my booty in some manner. nothing too intense, just a baby wipe is fine or having recently showered
-need to warm up fairly extensively with plugs because I have a small butt
-clitoral orgasms are helpful sometimes, but I actually find being very aroused sometimes helps me get more into anal
-sometimes my bowels are just not feeling it and try as I might I'm just not comfortable and I have to stop
09/18/2010
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I don't do anything different from how I prepare for vaginal sex, other than the fact that we use lube. I shower before and he fingers me to get me ready.
09/21/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i have to orgasm before. then i have hubbie fuck me with a small vib and then hubbie. otherwise it hurst way to much
10/11/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
It complicated or feels that way for me. My rectum is not always as up for it as I am sometimes. I usually shower and clean as I normally do. If my body is up for it I use an anal plug to prepare. My man isnt patient so sometimes he wants me to rush it but I must obviously take my time depending on the size of the plug. We procede by making love and then when I feel I am ready I take out the plug and put a condom on my man....the hardest thing to do in the world as it is unerotic for him and turns him off. So I have to do it quickly before he loses his erection. Somtimes after I remove my plug I am no longer willing to have anal, especially if I have had an orgasm before I remove my plug.
10/11/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I have to know my ass is totally clean - inside and out!
10/18/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
It complicated or feels that way for me. My rectum is not always as up for it as I am sometimes. I usually shower and clean as I normally do. If my body is up for it I use an anal plug to prepare. My man isnt patient so sometimes he wants me to rush ... more
Oh, you two use condoms, I can see whereas this is certainly responsible, it could make for longer preparation. My Man and I are fluid bonded and we don't bother with a condom. My Man is in his 50s and usually will lose his erection as soon as we try to put a condom on him.

I HATE rushing, too. My Man is pretty patient. Everybody is different in what they need to do. I relax enough to not have to use a butt plug, (but sometimes I do during oral, just for fun!) but most of the time I have to have just had an orgasm it's the thing that relaxes me more than anything. Also, once you get used to anal sex, your outer anal sphincter will actually start to relax and open on it's own from most forms of arousal, at least in most people. Some people do take longer to get to this relaxed arousal phase, though.
10/27/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
haha "butt fun"
10/28/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
haha "butt fun"
Guess I'll have to try popularizing that now. I was surprised by the positive reaction.
11/07/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
I am a female and I always shower before hand, definitely have to have a BM beforehand, wine helps, as well as butt plugs. Also if he licks my asshole that gets me really horny and relaxes everything. But it doesn't always work and sometimes he ends up cleaning off his dick so we can just fuck.

I also try to avoid eating anything heavy for a few hours prior.
11/10/2010
Contributor: GeekWife GeekWife
Wow, I feel all weird now and junk. I never actually do any sort of "preparation" for anal, it just kind of happens sometimes. Hubby is cool with whatever happens, and it's usually for a grand finale more than anything else.
11/10/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Blinker
Wine helps. A lot. And being clean because I'm always worried about that. Anyway a lot of warm up is needed and if it doesn't feel right for me, we don't do it. I tried an enema once and it kept me on the potty all damn night long.
The standing joke in our house after the last time I used an enema is we finally know just exactly how full of shit I am...>.< A warm bath, rubdown and slow gentle play helps me 'warm up'. Like Alicia I need several heavenly bodies to align for it to work.
11/10/2010
Contributor: m4rshm3ll0z m4rshm3ll0z
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Originally posted by Liz2
For most of us, anal sex is not usually a spontaneous decision. To be pleasurable some thought and planning is entailed beyond lots of lube. Though I love anal intercourse, I am not always "just ready" for the experience.
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I'm not always ready for it either. For me, I usually need to stretch prior to having anal sex. It is actually hard for me to stretch my ass if I do not have lube, so I recommend that!
11/21/2010
Contributor: shankinbro shankinbro
Before I know im going to be receiving anal, I like to insert a butt-plug larger than the dildo that will be getting thrusted in me.

Works out pretty well, especially if I prepare for a few days before hand.
11/22/2010
Contributor: Ropeguy Ropeguy
For me a nice warm shower is nice and a good amount of warm up is great. The last time was the best warm up ever.
A massage with candle wax (low temp) dripped on my back and my girlfriend playing with and massaging my ass
11/23/2010
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by Liz2
For most of us, anal sex is not usually a spontaneous decision. To be pleasurable some thought and planning is entailed beyond lots of lube. Though I love anal intercourse, I am not always "just ready" for the experience.
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I relax, usually let my hubby insert a butt plug and have lots of foreplay then try to go all in with him with lots lots lots of lube!
11/29/2010
Contributor: mmike mmike
sometimes, the anal prep can be so damn tedious. when you're in the heat of the moment, the washing up part can be a drag.

foreplay is always fun.

sex prep is usually tedious.
01/18/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by mmike
sometimes, the anal prep can be so damn tedious. when you're in the heat of the moment, the washing up part can be a drag.

foreplay is always fun.

sex prep is usually tedious.
If you communicate and plan ahead you can do the "prep" part before the foreplay.
01/29/2011
Contributor: Xomandypantsxo Xomandypantsxo
anal just kinda freaks me out...
02/01/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I definitely agree with the eating healthy part. If my digestion is healthy and happy, and my body well taken care of, I am much more up for anal sex. It's such an intimate act, I find, on such a base level. There is no hiding from it or denying what it feels like. On several different levels, one being good health and diet.

There is such a deep level of trust involved that I find I have to be very comfortable with my partner and with my body to enjoy it. A willingness & luxury in going slow and savoring the process is very beneficial.
02/06/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Good ideas for prep
02/07/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I've been looking at the title of this post for weeks, and I just want to post to the question, "How do you prepare for anal sex?"

"Bend over, screw my eyes shut and hang the fuck on!"

LOL! I'm not really in an expansive mood right now.
02/08/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by M121212
I definitely agree with the eating healthy part. If my digestion is healthy and happy, and my body well taken care of, I am much more up for anal sex. It's such an intimate act, I find, on such a base level. There is no hiding from it or denying ... more
Perfect.

P"Gell - if you have to flinch you're not doing it right. Unless you mean you're hanging on to keep from collapsing from the pleasure.
02/08/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ScottA
Perfect.

P"Gell - if you have to flinch you're not doing it right. Unless you mean you're hanging on to keep from collapsing from the pleasure.
I'm kidding, Scott. I don't flinch. It doesn't hurt. We're doing it "right." I love it. It was a joke.

And, yes, the "hanging on" was to prevent collapse from pleasure. That, and to prevent being banged off the bed.
02/21/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
Just make sure you shower first
02/21/2011
Contributor: RedGoddess RedGoddess
I agree with most of these answers- as for others too- for ymself i need to feel physically ready. We generally plan for anal sex, but if not - i will surpise him sometimes, but i generally use the same routine. I like to have had a bowel movement, i use a enema bulb and give myself a few little cleanings just to make sure.I like to have a shower, shave, and be clean. If i feel fomfortable though- i will just use some wipes to freshen up.

Then i will generally use a plug or a comfortable insertable flexible toy like the Silicon Beads. if not, we will work up from small-to-larger toys as we go, till i am stratched enough for anal sex.
03/08/2011
Contributor: Vesper Vesper
Most of the time I just wait for a BM, wait a while, then put on a disposable glove and feel around a little to make sure the 'zone' is clear. If I'm planning on being particularly adventurous I get the disposable enema bottles from the supermarket, replace the contents with lukewarm water, and use that to rinse a couple times, then wait an hour or two (as suggested in The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, by Tristan Taormino, great book!).

Eating lots of high fiber fruit can be very helpful in making sure the pipes are as clean as they can be, especially apples and grapes!
03/09/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Vesper
Most of the time I just wait for a BM, wait a while, then put on a disposable glove and feel around a little to make sure the 'zone' is clear. If I'm planning on being particularly adventurous I get the disposable enema bottles from the ... more
You might want to avoid foods with small, hard seeds when you're eating. Small, hard bits can be very irritating if there are any hanging around.

A water wash-out will help with that if you have eaten berries or other stuff that fits in that category.
03/09/2011
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Eating healthy is an important thing too.
This is how I prepare. Eat healthy.

It is strange, I now get so turned off by chocolate, but hand me the bunny food (or fruits) and I am ready to go!
03/09/2011