The taboo makes it great!
Anal Sex and Shame-Private Poll
12/30/2012
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We live in a strange society where were encouraged to feel shame about what we like. I understand where youre coming from!
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope
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As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope there's not poop on the condom..") Sadly, these thoughts interfere with my ability to enjoy it somewhat. I'm not saying the shameful feeling is because of him--I felt this way with my ex, who was VERY open, and I feel this way even when I'm using toys. But it doesn't help! How many people also feel shame when doing any kind of anal play?
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01/02/2013
I think there are different concerns about anal than vaginal, but certainly not enough for ME to stop! WE don't do it a lot, but when we do....
01/03/2013
Why should I be ashamed? I mean no.. I'm not going to run and talk about it with the guys.. but if it got brought up in an open minded conversation I would gladly shout the praises of anal play to anyone willing to listen.
When done horrible... it's shitty (pardon the pun)
When right.... obviously those that read this thread know it is damn amazing or they wouldn't be doing it.
When done horrible... it's shitty (pardon the pun)
When right.... obviously those that read this thread know it is damn amazing or they wouldn't be doing it.
01/03/2013
I'm a little shy about it, but if someone brings it up and indicates that they're ok with it (like it or interested in trying it) then I open right up. But I'm not the kind of person who just goes around saying "Yeah, I like anal. How about you?"
01/03/2013
I don't feel any shame about it (or much of anything else for that matter). Can't say it ever comes up in conversation, except on here.
01/20/2013
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I agree with this 100%. No one should ever be ment to feel shame when it comes to a sexual activity - analyzing and finding the reason(s) for why this may be may help to broden your sexual horizon, and make you feel more empowered, but also help in understand why these totally normal behaviors are not shameful in the least.
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
I don't believe there should be any kind of shame associated with sex. Yes, there are sexual mishaps that can be incredibly embarrassing, but it shouldn't be shameful. Sex is about pleasuring not only yourself, but your partner, and I think
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I don't believe there should be any kind of shame associated with sex. Yes, there are sexual mishaps that can be incredibly embarrassing, but it shouldn't be shameful. Sex is about pleasuring not only yourself, but your partner, and I think that only good feelings should be a product of that.
If you feel shame, it may be a good idea to analyze what makes you feel this way. If necessary, talk to a close friend or a therapist, if you can afford one. Talking about it can help remove the negative stigma you feel and help you enjoy yourself.
I personally don't like anal sex, but I never had any negative feelings about per se (except I thought it was physically uncomfortable). Sex is meant to be a wonderful bonding agent, and it would be sad if shame affected that!
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If you feel shame, it may be a good idea to analyze what makes you feel this way. If necessary, talk to a close friend or a therapist, if you can afford one. Talking about it can help remove the negative stigma you feel and help you enjoy yourself.
I personally don't like anal sex, but I never had any negative feelings about per se (except I thought it was physically uncomfortable). Sex is meant to be a wonderful bonding agent, and it would be sad if shame affected that!
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While anal sex can be frond upon in some circles, and made uneasy to talk about, it's a normal behavior that many people engage in and there is nothing taboo or shameful about the act. I was a little embarrassed (to say) when telling my partner about anal fantasies, or talking about it with friends, but i realized i was not alone when it came to wanting/enjoying anal penetration or sex. It's something i can now talk about freely and openly with those i choose to share my sexual history with and nothing i am ashamed of.
01/28/2013
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Anal play doesn't make me feel shame at all
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope
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As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope there's not poop on the condom..") Sadly, these thoughts interfere with my ability to enjoy it somewhat. I'm not saying the shameful feeling is because of him--I felt this way with my ex, who was VERY open, and I feel this way even when I'm using toys. But it doesn't help! How many people also feel shame when doing any kind of anal play?
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01/31/2013
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idk it seemed pretty natural to me
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope
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more
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope there's not poop on the condom..") Sadly, these thoughts interfere with my ability to enjoy it somewhat. I'm not saying the shameful feeling is because of him--I felt this way with my ex, who was VERY open, and I feel this way even when I'm using toys. But it doesn't help! How many people also feel shame when doing any kind of anal play?
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02/12/2013
Not at all
02/12/2013
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Never really bothered us.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope
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more
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope there's not poop on the condom..") Sadly, these thoughts interfere with my ability to enjoy it somewhat. I'm not saying the shameful feeling is because of him--I felt this way with my ex, who was VERY open, and I feel this way even when I'm using toys. But it doesn't help! How many people also feel shame when doing any kind of anal play?
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02/13/2013
It must be hard to have a sexual partner that doesn't want it when you do. Don't feel shame, the ass is an awesome place to find pleasure, and if you do it right it's not gross at all.
I wouldn't force a partner who isn't into it to do it to me, though, and I don't know if I could even enjoy it in that situation. I would just have to order some ass toys and use them for masturbation!
I wouldn't force a partner who isn't into it to do it to me, though, and I don't know if I could even enjoy it in that situation. I would just have to order some ass toys and use them for masturbation!
02/13/2013
Anal play doesn't make me feel shame at all
02/14/2013
Anal play doesn't make me feel shame at all
02/16/2013
There shouldn't be shame in consensual sex.
05/27/2013
I'm not ashamed by it. For a long time I simply wasn't interested in it. I mean I had had anal sex before but not really anal play. If that makes any sense. In the past 7 months, I've been playing. I've only had anal sex with my husband once in that time, but he's not all that interested in it. This is the same guy who isn't a fan of going down either. So, there you go.
I did have to explain to him why I like it though. He didn't understand why I wear butt plugs for long periods of time, or why I wanted bigger anal toys. That was an interesting conversation. lol Now, he doesn't question it.
I did have to explain to him why I like it though. He didn't understand why I wear butt plugs for long periods of time, or why I wanted bigger anal toys. That was an interesting conversation. lol Now, he doesn't question it.
05/28/2013
I feel no shame and only excitement when doing anal play.
05/28/2013
i don't feel any shame at all, just a lil uncomfy for the times it hasn't been so "clean", but i personally love it...
06/16/2013