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Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope ... more
I do not feel shameful until I am reminded with a poll like this...lol!
02/16/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by pinkzombie
I do not feel shameful until I am reminded with a poll like this...lol!
Sorry! Lol.
02/22/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
Nope, doesn't make me ashamed at all! I don't have much to begin with but when I do it doesn't bother me
02/22/2012
Contributor: PDXlady PDXlady
I've got no problems with it but I understand why people do considering the social stigma that is stuck to it.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Dreaus Dreaus
Well. My wife wants nothing to do with anal sex, I however like it. So I'm forced to do it solo. This makes me feel shame that I have to either hide it or wait till she is gone.
04/10/2012
Contributor: AbbyLover AbbyLover
sex is messy anal sex is an art
04/23/2012
Contributor: squire squire
I enjoy anal stimulation and don't think there should be any shame involved there as our bodies were meant to be enjoyed! That being said, and not to hijack the topic, but with the prevalence about sexual abuse and social stigma, I wonder how people do not feel some degree of shame...it's kinda sad, but also why I get energized reading how open people are here.
04/23/2012
Contributor: Kiwi Green Kiwi Green
i don't get what's wrong with anal fun. it's not bad and it's very stimulating to some, but i understand it's not that way for other and i respect that.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Tork48309 Tork48309
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Originally posted by godweensatan
society puts a stigma on ass play, its so crazy... everyone needs to try it and stop complaining.
Well said.
04/28/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope ... more
I don't feel ashamed when I have anal.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
Paranoia, not exactly shame. I'll never stop though.
05/08/2012
Contributor: theavocadopit theavocadopit
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope ... more
Agree
05/15/2012
Contributor: theavocadopit theavocadopit
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Originally posted by SexyStuff
Maybe not shame so much as embarrassment? But there is a hesitation there, whatever the reason. We're working up to it.
Agree
05/15/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope ... more
I actually was talking about this with a friend recently. She thought that butt sex was disgusting and didn't want to talk about it. But I think it's fun, and I was kind of ashamed of myself but not enough to stop.
05/16/2012
Contributor: Chami Chami
you like what you like no shame be happy and who you are the pleasure will be so much better
05/16/2012
Contributor: sparksrebbecca sparksrebbecca
There is nothing to be ashamed of. If you like Anal, then that is what you like. Everyone is unique in their tastes. Just because society tells us something is wrong, doesn't mean we should listen to it. I personally enjoy Anal sex. It scared me at first and then once I got past my fear, a whole new erotic world opened up. I say if you haven't tried, don't knock it! And don't feel ashamed for being who you are.
05/20/2012
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
There's nothing to be ashamed of here at all. You enjoy what you enjoy and you're not hurting anyone.
06/08/2012
Contributor: Nirelan Nirelan
It takes a WHOLE LOT to embarrass me...I have actually pooped on my SO during anal, we cleaned up while laughing about it and got on with our lives....it happens lol
06/09/2012
Contributor: Nirelan Nirelan
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Originally posted by Nirelan
It takes a WHOLE LOT to embarrass me...I have actually pooped on my SO during anal, we cleaned up while laughing about it and got on with our lives....it happens lol
Just to clarify it was only a LITTLE bit of poo lol I didn't like shit all over him! LOL anyway.....
06/09/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope ... more
Hubby and I discussed your post at length. Sadly, it sounds like you are married to the wrong guy. If you cannot feel open and ENJOY what you do in bed together...the MOST trusting and intimate of times, then that is a terrible burden and sure does not make for a healthy marriage. SO many guys posting here WISH their gals were like you (or me) and ENJOYED anal.....and here, your hubby has that and considers it a BAD thing???? Gee...I am sorry for you. Maybe counseling would help????? The ONLY emotion my hubby tries to give me is pleasure and pride. Shame has NEVER entered our 30 plus year marriage and I cannot imagine how destructive it would be, if it did. Good luck.
06/09/2012
Contributor: Mx.Nekora Mx.Nekora
Anal,to me is not shameful at all. It's more like...a pleasure i've never felt before. <3
06/11/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm not ashamed, I have enjoyed some anal play so far and I look forward to trying more!
06/12/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
Nope... no shame. I might feel shame if it didn't feel so damn good. Admittedly, I am sometimes distracted by concerns about cleanliness, but it always turns out that everything is fine. And in the very rare cases that everything isn't perfectly clean then I just have to put it in perspective and realize that that is life and it is not the end of the world.
06/18/2012
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
No shame here.
06/18/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
As someone who enjoys anal, at the same time I feel dirty and ashamed. I can tell that my husband isn't crazy about it, which adds to the feeling of shame and paranoia ("does he think I'm a pervert for wanting it?" "I hope ... more
Anal is the least of my perversions. Hahaha!
08/18/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
The appeal is in the taboo.
08/18/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
There's such a stigma on it but there shouldn't be, I don't feel any shame for it
08/18/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Anal play doesn't make me feel shame at all
08/18/2012
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
Wouldnt shame me at all but I just not into it
12/27/2012
Contributor: Septimus Septimus
I'll admit that I do have concerns about hygiene when we have anal sex (aka. "is there poop on the condom?"), but other than that I don't really feel any type of shame.
It might have to do with the fact that my fiance loves anal sex, and that we don't do it very often.
12/27/2012