#10YearsOfEden - I Like Things That Go Vroom! - Created by Ansley on Jul 09, 2012: EdenFantasys Forum

mellanhead

I bought my first toy when you order through catalogs and they came in brown paper wrapping. I love shopping through Eden now. The reviews are the best part of shopping. I can learn the pro/cons of anything before I buy.

When I shop at eden I have a good idea of what I want and I am looking for. I will look at the reviews to help choose between certain brands and styles.

I honestly don't think there will ever me a time when someone doesn't
have a problem with sex toys.

I think women are seen as bad for masturbating because they have always been portrayed as needing to be "pure" and their parts only used to make children.

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07/10/2012

RomanticGoth

I bought my first toy in an adult magazine store/theatre. It smelled terrible! I grabbed the first decent looking black plastic vibe and got out because two creepy men kept getting too close for comfort making kissey noises. *shudder*

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07/10/2012

notsopriestly

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

First toy purchasing experience: Total nightmare! I had ZERO idea what I wanted. The company wasnt bad, but they were certainly.. distant. I looked to the staff for help.. yeah right. I got lucky and purchased Wes. I loved him. Then, I discovered edenfantasies. I read reviews and did research. That led me to the purchase of the Tango.

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07/10/2012

lovidem

The first toy I ever bought was actually the "I love you" glass dildo for my birthday this year. Partnered up with and Edenfantasy bullet and mini g-spot vibe of course! So far I've bought 3 more toys thanks to this site and plan on buying a lot more
Idon't really have a clue as to why it's ok for male's to masturbate but a sin if a woman does it, but I do have a story of when I first came into contact with that stigma. I was at my ex's house with his parents, we were talking having a somewhat good time (his mother was sooooo stuck up). We somehow come onto the conversation about masturbation, I say I do it and the look that woman gave me was enough to burst me into flames. My ex, god bless his soul, hurriedly says that he does too. She looks at him and says "Well of course you do, you're a boy, it's healthy, but for a girl to do it..." Her husband tries and fix it by saying "You mean for a girl to speak about it" She just says no and kept sipping her tea.
I've always hated that woman...

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07/10/2012

meingee

Congrats on the ten years. I am glad places like this exist. I wish more people had less of a problem with sex toys and sex in general.

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07/10/2012

HarlequinBunnie

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

I have bought toys, clothing, and lubes at other shops and was so shy and awkward about it that I ran in got something and bolted. With EF I am able to take my time, make sure I like or want it and move on. The first toy I bought malfunctioned right after I bought it and EF replaced it with no problems. If I had bought the toy at a shop here I would have been told all sales are final and been stuck with a broken toy. Thank you!!!

I have found most people except men masturbating because women are still regarded as they were back in the dark ages. We are suppose to take care of the home, children, and our husbands like we are servants. We don't have orgasms we suffer from hysteria. Men are the only ones who have orgasms. We are still seen as prim and proper. Why is it okay for women to be gay and not men? Same problem.

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07/10/2012

Melan!e

I had bought a bullet at a local overpriced shop and then went looking for better things online. Once I found Eden, that was it for me. I love shopping here, I've learned so much browsing through the forums and the people here are great.

My mom has told me that she thinks I've matured a lot in the last year. I think Eden has a lot to do with that and all the positive and open-minded members. Of course the reward system does encourage me to try things I normally wouldn't since I'm currently on a very limited budget, and the review program has been wonderful thus far.

It's sad that there is still so much of that negativity surrounding not only sex toys but other people lifestyles. A friend of mine is terrified that her adult step-daughter will find out that she swings. My friend knows she'd be shunned forever. She was so grateful when she was able to open up to me because she said she hadn't been able to talk to anyone other than her husband. I felt so bad that she was put in a corner like that when she is happier than she has ever been.

In my opinion, it's a matter of maturity and not being so naive. I think there will always be that stigma but the more open we can be about sex and the use of sex toys in a positive way will help others see the light as well. Maybe someday people won't judge so much but it is tough to change how others view things...

Another couple I know are slowly starting to use sex toys. She wants to and he says he does but it's slow going. He masturbates but doesn't want her to. He also judges men who use flashlights. And he is very hard to reason with. I don't push it but it's hard to listen to him talk like that.

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07/10/2012

Melan!e

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Originally posted by Woman China

"Does anyone have any thoughts on why it's "okay" for a guy to masturbate, but it's not "okay" for women?"

Because women have throughout time never owned their bodies. Our bodies throughout time have been ... more

I think you hit the nail on the head Woman China.

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07/10/2012

boodel

Eden makes ordering easier with reviews and videos! Even tho I haven't used it, the return policy makes me more likely to continue to place orders with Eden.

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07/10/2012

mjtheprincess

I bought my first toy on my 18th birthday. And I was beyond excited, so it wasn't weird for me. But I have take a lot of my friends on their first sex toy adventure since then, and I feel like Eden is a much safer place for those newbies to make purchases, especially because it provides helpful reviews!!!

I think that making people more accepting of toys and such would be easiest if we all agree to conquer one of our friends at a time. I have found that even the most abrasive individuals are curious of the more pleasureable sexual encounters...and let me tell you something, we all know how easy it is to get hooked after one good toy experience!!

I'm happy to say that Eden has helped me help a lot of my friends have much more positive first experiences with toys and sexual aids. I am so happy to be part of such a fun, open minded, and helpful community of people!

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07/10/2012

Pi

I dated a girl when I was in high school who had a couple nice quality vibes. That started it for me, a few years later I was in a committed relationship where I was the more experienced partner and I brought it up. The first toy I bought was from a cheap online retailer and it was cheap and ended up almost unused.

The second was bought at a brick and mortar store and a middle aged woman. She spent time to explain the sensations, vibrations etc but still it was not great as the material turned out not to be very pleasant.

The third time was the key I now understood the sensations and spent time to understand Thea materials. We had a great toy for a number of years(it died after fairly heavy use for 6+ years) and we slowly added to the collection. The death of that toy left us searching for a replacement worth as we have been unable to find an identical replacement (my wife still mourns the loss) which lead me to Eden. The community and the reviews make it a place worth staying.

On toy fear and female masturbation I think they are really fears of the same inadequacies and weaknesses. As with anything else the only way for people to change is for them to be educated. Unfortunately those that hate/fear tend to hide from the light of knowledge.

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07/10/2012

Izzy1337

I've shopped online a few times for toys and other bedroom (Or household in my case ) items and by far EdenFantasys has been the greatest experience. I was very delighted to know that I can earn something in return for browsing the site and taking full advantage of everything Eden has to offer. I use that to my advantage to buy the higher priced items that I always thought were my "dream Items". I also enjoy the openness and the helpful attitude of everyone here at the site.

I can't imagine shopping anywhere else for my toys. Thank you so much Eden!

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07/10/2012

Yasmine93

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

Eden has by far been the BEST website to buy all things sexy from. I will never shop anywhere else

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07/10/2012

meitman

I don't remember my first purchase, but I think it's safe to say the experience couldn't have been as good as Eden. Being able to read other people's experiences with a product is a major help to find a great product the first time.

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07/10/2012

talon4196

This is great! Bought out first toys at a sex shop.

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07/10/2012

jennifur77

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

I ordered a toy from Hong Kong. Never really knowing if I'd enjoy it or not! It took forever to get here, and had no packing aside from the bubble mailer it was placed in (was a bullet)

The next time I ordered a toy I bought one with no reviews from a major online retailer. I wish I had made a better choice. That's one reason I love the reviews on EF -- they say so much more than what the manufacturer says!

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07/10/2012

Summer33

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

I bought my first toy(s) at the adult store that I was a cashier at, the store itselk had a stigma attached to it as being sleezy in our town. The store was very nice, classy and fun, but people like to pretend they aren't interested and its BAD, when in reality their curiosity was probably driving them crazy. My 1st Eden toy was a Fun Factory and I love it, 2nd was a Zini and the video/review wasn't great and I'm not thrilled with it either. I LOVE Eden and I trust the reviews, they've been right on in my experiences to date. The double standard of guys vs girls drives me nuts, guys are always surprised to find out you masturbate-and sometimes intimitated & offended as if they aren't enough-meanwhile they're rubbing one out daily. Yet when it comes to porn-guys LOVE lesbians, but male gay porn is a big NO, guys freak out, I love it, I get more turned on by male gay porn then regular vids. Thank you.

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07/10/2012

goodiegoody

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

I believe the media is able to greatly influence in what society views as "acceptable". After seeing all of the girls on Sex and the City using rabbit vibrators, their sales rocketed. I have recently read articles in magazines such as Allure and Cosmo which talk about how much the sex toy market has expanded and just how valuable of a resource they can be for couples struggling sexuality. Remove the stigma and taboo, remove the embarrassment!

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07/10/2012

CharmCity

1st toy purchase: the big mail-order joint out of NC. Crappy plastic junk; likely freebies w/ condom purchase, as I cannot imagine *choosing* such POS.

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07/10/2012

Lover1990

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

Love Eden! So excited for the sale!

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07/11/2012

grannyamoose

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

I am 54 years old and have never masturbated as my mother told me women don't do that. I am now interested in trying and I am about to buy my first toy. I think women today are much more free in their sexuality than women in my generation and I hope it continues to blossom!

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07/11/2012

daniconk

I'm from Utah so toys are very taboo. My first purchase was at a slumber party - tupperware style - party. It was fun, but I prefer the discretion of Eden Fantasys

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07/11/2012

Katy Catt-promo

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

To me review programs don't matter too much. Biased opinion you know.=)

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07/11/2012

socceras

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

My first "toy" was a pair of kegel exerciser. I don't think there is anything wrong with males/females masturbating. It feels good and it's SUPPOSED to so why not? And as for why some people think it's okay for men and not women? It's the same way why being sexual with many people is okay for a man and not a woman. It's sexist. Society brings people up to believe that. It's not fair but that's the way it is.

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07/11/2012

honeybee57

10 yrs of vroom thanks guys!

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07/11/2012

ATL Freak

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

Why is it not OK for women? Ive been SO wrong then

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07/11/2012

Nacht Stern

My first toy ever, was purchased from Eden. It was a rabbit vibrator, some lube, and a case to lock it in. The items arrived discreetly and the lube was in its own separate baggie. I was quite impressed.
Then I sent out to use my first sex toy. To my disappointment the beads were jammed. I sent a letter to customer service and was responded to very quickly. I was impressed and have been looking for my toys here first ever since!

The points system has allowed me to experience toys I would not have been able to purchase on my own. I do not have anyone to talk to about sex toys or sex education, so I look to the reviewers themselves as my mentors, and value their opinions on products greatly. I love you guys!

Lastly I think it’s “okay” for guys to masturbate because it is talked about and joked around with a lot publicly. Being in college I think I hear a wanking off joke at least once a day.
There have been some students who talk about girl masturbation or make light jokes about it. Those situations get really intense and people get offended about female sex stuff. I guess people think the lady sex organs are something, ehhh . . .sacred? (for lack of a better word)
Like, the gift of life and babies come from there, why would anyone talk about sticking foreign objects in the vagina.

I wish people would relax some and have it publicly ok to talk about female masturbation. For the longest time I thought female masturbation was wrong because no one ever talked about it.

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07/11/2012

Waterbaby

Cogratulations on 10 years!
I love reading all the reviews on posts on hear. And I love that people can talk & ask questions that are not talked about with others friends or family members.

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07/11/2012

Mikeyskye

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Originally posted by Ansley

Edenfantasys is celebrating an amazing milestone this month! Ten fabulous, incredibly sexy years of bringing adult products into your home in a discreet fashion! Let's talk about our first toy purchasing experiences (without naming company names, ... more

I really appreciate the points system and how it shows the best and worst reviews, it's very helpful! I think it's okay for everyone to masturbate and that there is nothing wrong with toys at all

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07/11/2012

LLmama

Eden wasn't my first play of toy shopping but I must say, it's the ONLY place I'll ever shop from now on.

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07/11/2012