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Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by js250
That was a large part of the way I was raised as well. Bad girls vs. good girls. Hmmm....guess we're REAL good now!!
Now I just tell my mom to suck it. Mom.... if you want to judge porn... you are going to have to WATCH some first... and before I will even talk to you about it, you also have to come to a discussion with a porn star.
11/02/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Heya folks looks like my connections are soo bad i cant even load a page fully, or it takes 5 mins to do so, and the only way to post is to load the page fully.

I am going to try to catch the after party when i go into town.

Damn ... more
Sorry about your internet! I have a wireless card that is pretty slow, but considered great where I live. It is slow, but not that bad.
11/02/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
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Originally posted by Elaira
Every time I watch porn I feel like sex is the silliest looking thing ever and I wonder if I look that weird when I do it. Haha. I still watch it, though. Gotta get business handled.
My husband says the same thing. Once he set it up so that our video camera filmed us having intercourse--regular missionary. He thought I didn't know. Anyway, we laughed our a....s off when we watched it. We looked funny and odd. If we had sold it to anyone, no one would have wanted to watch it...boring, and from such a distance--he looked like he was climbing a mountain or something! We couldn't see either of our faces. We destroed it before anyone could find it and view it accidentally.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Heya folks looks like my connections are soo bad i cant even load a page fully, or it takes 5 mins to do so, and the only way to post is to load the page fully.

I am going to try to catch the after party when i go into town.

Damn ... more
Bye Viktor! Talk soon
11/02/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Heya folks looks like my connections are soo bad i cant even load a page fully, or it takes 5 mins to do so, and the only way to post is to load the page fully.

I am going to try to catch the after party when i go into town.

Damn ... more
It was nice seeing you!
11/02/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
I'll miss you VVM!!
11/02/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Hookers are people too Tim
Ya well, go back 30 years dear. Things were different for a Southern Baptist raised nine year old.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
11/02/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
I never realized how goofy faces get during sex until I made a vid for my husband. I was squirting all over and look like someone was torturing me. I cut my head off when I edited prior to giving it to him. How do the porn stars look good when they come?
11/02/2011
Contributor: tim1724 tim1724
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
Never caused any problems.. my girlfriend quite enjoys watching porn, too (although not as often as I do)
11/02/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
Never for me.. but I could care less. This is who I am and if you dont like it, GTFO. I know girls that FLIP cause they walked in on their SO watching porn. My answer is always "and the problem is?"
11/02/2011
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
We just started watching porn as a couple with Porn Club and it's been all good.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
Sometimes Porn is good and sometimes it's bad. For me it's affected me in both ways. My ex husband used to be addicted to it. He would download pictures, and watch videos all night. He wouldn't sleep with me, he would sleep all day. He started paying more attention to the porn than me. So, I left him and divorced him. With my current fiance, we've been super open about porn and toys. We've discussed it in length and share the time together. We watch porn alone or together and know that it's not more important than the other person. I say it's either good or bad depending on how you have it put into the relationship.
11/02/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
luckily porn has never directly caused a problem in a relationship, but indirectly, certainly.

current beau is one of those young guys in the class of 'has watched too much straight porn.' he's gotten the idea that sex should be wham bam thanky ma'am and there's little to zero romance in it. i had to teach him alot, and get him to slow down, connect with me, WAIT to come. for goodness sakes.

its still an ongoing battle and somedays i'm too lazy to get into it. i'm sure he'd be a better lover had he never watched porn growing up.
11/02/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
It has really enhanced our relationship and brought an element of trust and naked truth into it. No pun intended! You can not hide anything in porn and your feelings for what you watch with a partner. We both are completely open about new genres to check out and what we do/not like. It has become almost more fun to pick out something they will get off on vs. my preference.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
My ex denied, denied, denied looking at porn, even after I confronted him for looking at it on my computer (he was looking at unsafe sites and adult dating sites) and he still lied. I found out he was looking at real underage sites. That was a huge problem. Mainly the lying and the underage stuff.

In my current relationship, we talk about porn. I want to watch it together, but I don't know how to, or what to watch.
11/02/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
My Mom was so "innocent" that one day a few years ago we were visiting her and she was reading something in the Chicago Tribune. She put the paper down, took off her glasses and said, "Well, its not bad enough that there are homosexuals but now there are HEAT-ER-O-SEXUALS running around." I told her, "Ma, those are people like you." She got so irritated with me because she thought heteroxexual was some deviant sex form. I don't think she beleived me, but I tried to explain it to her. My boyfriend at the time just left the room he thought it was so funny and was trying to be polite. But a year later we took her to a drag show and she loved it. She kept saying, "I can't beleive it. Their figures are better than mine."
11/02/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Jobthingy
Never for me.. but I could care less. This is who I am and if you dont like it, GTFO. I know girls that FLIP cause they walked in on their SO watching porn. My answer is always "and the problem is?"
I don't get it either. I told my BF that at least he was home watching a movie & taking care of business vs. going somewhere and getting someone elsa to take care of it for him.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Jobthingy
Never for me.. but I could care less. This is who I am and if you dont like it, GTFO. I know girls that FLIP cause they walked in on their SO watching porn. My answer is always "and the problem is?"
I agree. It has never been an issue for me, people watch porn, they enjoy it, whatever. Unfortunately I have to admit that I once requested that a partner get rid of a substantial portion of their pornography because it was becoming somewhat obsessive and I began to feel like I was competing with the "playboy" ideal image.
11/02/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
Not really, we have had discussions about the why, but the wife accepts it now, although she does not watch any with me. She just does not see the point.

I must say though, if we watch a movie with a really hot love scene, she is raring to go after.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
No problems here. My husband isn't into it but he doesn't mind me watching it.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Ok, so how does porn affect your relationships? Has it ever caused a problem? How have you dealt with it?
I've only had one serious (sexual) partner and we are in a long distance relationship. I watch more porn than he does and he tends to be a little more vanilla than I am. Thankfully, he's really wonderful and open minded. It may be due to where he grew up. He's the one who has really opened my eyes to new ideas and have taught me the importance of tolerance. Porn doesn't cause any conflicts in our relationship, it's something we like to enjoy on our own and share together.
11/02/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
I lived with a guy (and I kid you not) masturbated almost 24/7 to porn. He really took it too far, BUT something good came of it because after we broke up it really got me into porn and toys!! Thanks, Rick!! He's probably still miserable and I'm fine and happy (watching his porn with my husband!!!).
11/02/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I agree. It has never been an issue for me, people watch porn, they enjoy it, whatever. Unfortunately I have to admit that I once requested that a partner get rid of a substantial portion of their pornography because it was becoming somewhat ... more
me too! i have to blame porn at least a bit for my boyfriend's inital 3 month long REFUSAL to go down on my because i did not have a bald pussy. in the 70's, with that trend of full bush in porn, this would never have been an issue.
we almost broke up over it several times. i simply was deeply hurt by him not accepting me as i was, and also appalled that he was so closed minded. and he simply thought all girls should be clean shaved. like in porn.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
Wow so much harder to keep up on a mobile phone...wish my computer was up!
11/02/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
me too! i have to blame porn at least a bit for my boyfriend's inital 3 month long REFUSAL to go down on my because i did not have a bald pussy. in the 70's, with that trend of full bush in porn, this would never have been an issue.
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I felt the same way.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Alright, so what are your favourite things about porn, and in porn. What do you love and what things really stick with you when you are thinking about good porn?
11/02/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
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Originally posted by Rarity
I've only had one serious (sexual) partner and we are in a long distance relationship. I watch more porn than he does and he tends to be a little more vanilla than I am. Thankfully, he's really wonderful and open minded. It may be due to ... more
Sounds like a very good part of your relationshiop if you both enjoy it and talk about it.
11/02/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by arewehavingfun?
I felt the same way.
sigh. and all those fake tits! likewise in the current lingerie ads on EF, nearly all the girls have IMPOSSIBLY perky, perfectly round fake tits. and we're supposed to live up to that HOW?

as someone who thinks of herself as quite body confident, i have to admit that ads like this, especially victoria secret (Damn them) get me all self conscious after seeing their ads.

porn isnt much different these days.


personally i prefer amateur lesbian porn, esp. the kind that appears to be hidden camera. two real girls genuinely enjoying eachother in their own natural environment. real tits, real nails, real bush? even better.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
Alright, so what are your favourite things about porn, and in porn. What do you love and what things really stick with you when you are thinking about good porn?
OMG pulling out all the stops are we? That's telling all my dirty little secrets.

If you must know:

Young girls with older men
Girl on girl
guy on guy
Orgy
Multiple sums
Latex
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Latex
Domination
Toys
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11/02/2011