I couldn't agree more. The older I get, the less relevant I feel who I'm sleeping with is to my preferred gender identity. Which is a long way of saying I mostly sleep with the opposite sex, but NEVER identify as heterosexual. For me it's definitely a political assignation. less

Lol. I found more emotion in the excerpt than the Twilight books.

Gender in itself can be blurred. I play with my gender all the time. There are some days where I will feel very dysphoric and feel the need to "switch" genders but most of the time I can flip flop when I want less

Hi all! I am hoping you can help me out. I never seem to get book assignments. The email I have never replies, am I emailing the right person? I would LOVE to get in on these discussions and read some new books, but it never seems to work out for me. Thanks! less

Hi everyone! I'm one of the contributors to Take Me There (feeling humble that my story was chosen as the excerpt and overjoyed that so many folks enjoyed it!) and I'll be checking in on the convo here -- excited to hear more in depth discussion about the book and y'all's impressions/what struck you.

Blue Koi, I wanted to address your question -- though I definitely can't speak for Tristan and I didn't ask her, I doubt she had to cast a very wide net. I never saw a public call for submission on this anthology and so I'm guessing that she just put a call out to writers she knows who either were already writing trans/genderqueer erotica (such as myself) or others who were wanting to do so (such as some of the big name writers who don't usually write erotica).

Tristan has been a huge part of trans and genderqueer communities for many years and so she knows so many talented folks willing and wanting to write to this subject matter. (I can't tell you how incredibly honored I felt to be selected to appear in a book with so many well-respected and widely published/adored authors.) less

Right, then it would be "their clit." Even though it's not grammatically correct in English... you know how in Spanish, there are feminine nouns and masculine nouns? In German there are feminine, masculine, and gender-neutral nouns. And they have a "he/his" equivalent, a "she/hers" equivalent, and a "they/theirs" equivalent... they/their is (iirc, I haven't studied German in 10 years) the same thing they use for groups of people, the same way English does. "They walked to me. They took off their shirt, revealing (something nice). "

So it falls into place not so bad at all, provided you're okay with bending rules to fit languages that might be German, or might be your ten-years-distorted-me mory-of-German. less

Hi everyone! I'm one of the contributors to Take Me There (feeling humble that my story was chosen as the excerpt and overjoyed that so many folks enjoyed it!) and I'll be checking in on the convo here -- excited to hear more in depth discussion about the book and y'all's impressions/what struck you.

Blue Koi, I wanted to address your question -- though I definitely can't speak for Tristan and I didn't ask her, I doubt she had to cast a very wide net. I never saw a public call for submission on this anthology and so I'm guessing that she just put a call out to writers she knows who either were already writing trans/genderqueer erotica (such as myself) or others who were wanting to do so (such as some of the big name writers who don't usually write erotica).

Tristan has been a huge part of trans and genderqueer communities for many years and so she knows so many talented folks willing and wanting to write to this subject matter. (I can't tell you how incredibly honored I felt to be selected to appear in a book with so many well-respected and widely published/adored authors.) less

Another question: do you think some readers might be put off by the extent of BDSM and general kink in the book? Not you lot, of course--I know you too well--but others?

I was actually tickled to find a bit of dungeon gadgetry in "Out on Loan" I'd never heard of before, but maybe I've led a sheltered life. less

That's only when i'm on my A game. When I was a journalism major, I would often call my advisor's baby "it" mostly out of fear. Since my niece was born, I've learned to become more sensitive to the parents feelings, I suppose. Some don't care but there are plenty that will jump down your throat if you get it wrong, lol. less

Hi everyone! I'm one of the contributors to Take Me There (feeling humble that my story was chosen as the excerpt and overjoyed that so many folks enjoyed it!) and I'll be checking in on the convo here -- excited to hear more in depth discussion about the book and y'all's impressions/what struck you.

Blue Koi, I wanted to address your question -- though I definitely can't speak for Tristan and I didn't ask her, I doubt she had to cast a very wide net. I never saw a public call for submission on this anthology and so I'm guessing that she just put a call out to writers she knows who either were already writing trans/genderqueer erotica (such as myself) or others who were wanting to do so (such as some of the big name writers who don't usually write erotica).

Tristan has been a huge part of trans and genderqueer communities for many years and so she knows so many talented folks willing and wanting to write to this subject matter. (I can't tell you how incredibly honored I felt to be selected to appear in a book with so many well-respected and widely published/adored authors.) less

That's not bad at all. Gender is fluid in all cases. YOU decide what parts of gender you want to express. It's for your benefit. Not anyone else's.

I love being recognized as male. I used to work at Dairy Queen (I was of course presenting as a female but I do have short hair. So I guess as a butch lesbian). My best friend was the manager. One time this customer got angry and said "Why don't you have that lil blonde boy go make me a hamburger??" My best friend and manager totally defended me. I honestly laughed when I heard what happened. I didn't mind it at all. less

Hi everyone! I'm one of the contributors to Take Me There (feeling humble that my story was chosen as the excerpt and overjoyed that so many folks enjoyed it!) and I'll be checking in on the convo here -- excited to hear more in depth discussion about the book and y'all's impressions/what struck you.

Blue Koi, I wanted to address your question -- though I definitely can't speak for Tristan and I didn't ask her, I doubt she had to cast a very wide net. I never saw a public call for submission on this anthology and so I'm guessing that she just put a call out to writers she knows who either were already writing trans/genderqueer erotica (such as myself) or others who were wanting to do so (such as some of the big name writers who don't usually write erotica).

Tristan has been a huge part of trans and genderqueer communities for many years and so she knows so many talented folks willing and wanting to write to this subject matter. (I can't tell you how incredibly honored I felt to be selected to appear in a book with so many well-respected and widely published/adored authors.) less

Hi everyone! I'm one of the contributors to Take Me There (feeling humble that my story was chosen as the excerpt and overjoyed that so many folks enjoyed it!) and I'll be checking in on the convo here -- excited to hear more in depth discussion about the book and y'all's impressions/what struck you.

Blue Koi, I wanted to address your question -- though I definitely can't speak for Tristan and I didn't ask her, I doubt she had to cast a very wide net. I never saw a public call for submission on this anthology and so I'm guessing that she just put a call out to writers she knows who either were already writing trans/genderqueer erotica (such as myself) or others who were wanting to do so (such as some of the big name writers who don't usually write erotica).

Tristan has been a huge part of trans and genderqueer communities for many years and so she knows so many talented folks willing and wanting to write to this subject matter. (I can't tell you how incredibly honored I felt to be selected to appear in a book with so many well-respected and widely published/adored authors.) less

In high-school, I had SUPER short hair, dressed in all black and wore chains connected to my wallet, yes, wallet, NOT purse! I went to the bathroom and one girl said "The boys room is over there!" She totally thought I was a boy though, I still look back on that and smile. I am more feminine now though. less